Anonymous wrote:Mine isn't. I'm pretty sure he has no idea what love is. His parents' relationship seemed good, but over the years I learned they just don't show their feelings at all. My DH hadn't had serious relationships before me (aside from a HS girlfriend). I am afraid he settled for me because he didn't know any better.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine isn't. I'm pretty sure he has no idea what love is. His parents' relationship seemed good, but over the years I learned they just don't show their feelings at all. My DH hadn't had serious relationships before me (aside from a HS girlfriend). I am afraid he settled for me because he didn't know any better.
And you settled for him because.....???
Are you extremely physically ugly or something? No other options?
-1! How can you feel he settled for you when you're the one he asked, bought the ring for, walked down the aisle with and had kids with -- the one he's still with now?
You need more self esteem. Like a pp said, love is a verb, the act of "showing up," as Woody Allen would say. DH proves he loves you by showing up, every day, for you and the kids.
I've never been into showy "very much in love" moments (I'm a DW, btw) because they're for the world, not for us. DH and I show we love each other by taking the time to be together quietly when the kids are -- finally -- asleep and we can enjoy a cup of coffee and talk. Sometimes he gets me roses for $10 from Safeway. That's fabulous. Once he liked a photo of flowers I sent him on FB, we don't have flashy FB montages like some couples. That's just not us.
Taking the school parents night when I can't bear another -- that's true love. Dealing with yet another home repair. Putting up with my mom -- that's heroic!
True love is being there. You got him. He didn't settle for his other girls. He dumped them. He didn't settle for you, either. He married you. He's still married to you.
Congratulations, you're the prize!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine isn't. I'm pretty sure he has no idea what love is. His parents' relationship seemed good, but over the years I learned they just don't show their feelings at all. My DH hadn't had serious relationships before me (aside from a HS girlfriend). I am afraid he settled for me because he didn't know any better.
And you settled for him because.....???
Are you extremely physically ugly or something? No other options?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine isn't. I'm pretty sure he has no idea what love is. His parents' relationship seemed good, but over the years I learned they just don't show their feelings at all. My DH hadn't had serious relationships before me (aside from a HS girlfriend). I am afraid he settled for me because he didn't know any better.
And you settled for him because.....???
Are you extremely physically ugly or something? No other options?
Anonymous wrote:Mine isn't. I'm pretty sure he has no idea what love is. His parents' relationship seemed good, but over the years I learned they just don't show their feelings at all. My DH hadn't had serious relationships before me (aside from a HS girlfriend). I am afraid he settled for me because he didn't know any better.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will show my love by not hitting reverse if I accidentally run her over...jk
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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will show my love by not hitting reverse if I accidentally run her over...jk
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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I get this nagging suspicion that my dh wasn't ever "in love" with me. I know he loves me deeply and cares for me. But we never had the hot and spicy romance other people speak of. He would not see me for weeks during dates when we met and was still pining for his ex. etc.
I know he cares for me, I can tell. I can't tell if he's "in love" with me.
Ladies, how do you know your husband is "in love" with you?
Anonymous wrote:I will show my love by not hitting reverse if I accidentally run her over...jk
Anonymous wrote:OP, how did you two meet? I know in my case we met online and therefore a lot of the initial "romantic" courtship period happened before we actually met and by the time we started seeing each other IRL we had already moved on to a more comfortable/familiar relationship, which was great but sometimes it feels like we skipped out on the early relationship passion.