Anonymous wrote:Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

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Anonymous wrote:Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

To each their own, but if my spouse said I wasn't entitled to privacy because I was now married, I would end my marriage.

What are you keeping "private"?

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Anonymous wrote:Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

To each their own, but if my spouse said I wasn't entitled to privacy because I was now married, I would end my marriage.

What are you keeping "private"?

Perhaps I am communicating with a friend about something embarrassing and confidential. The content, substance and mere existence of which is none of your business. Your snooping is a monumental violation. Monumental.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

To each their own, but if my spouse said I wasn't entitled to privacy because I was now married, I would end my marriage.

What are you keeping "private"?

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Anonymous wrote:Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

To each their own, but if my spouse said I wasn't entitled to privacy because I was now married, I would end my marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

Anonymous wrote:Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

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Anonymous wrote:I do, and I totally trust my DH, so I think I'm just nosy. It's made me really hate one of his friends in particular.

Probably because you found out one of his friends isn't a good person. I pay the phone bills, so I see calls etc. I wouldn't be with anyone who was like that.

My phone died before so we shared for awhile, how it should be. I suspect some cheaters on here who got caught or are hiding something.

Ding ding ding! Believe me, I have a high threshold for dude behavior, and this guy's just a pig. I didn't even have to read the phone to know so, but the phone continually confirmed it.

Snooping through my husband's phone made me think less of all of his friends. Also my husband. All they do it make fun of people, typically those less fortunate, and discuss women and sex. It's lame and seems so superficial. It has been pathetic to read my husband's messages. He tries really hard to be cool and it's the same old same old all the time.

Interesting.... I have the same problem with my 16 year old and have had to explain not to do this on text/social media/etc. He also can't write LOL to shit that isn't LOL.

This is why you all shouldn't snoop! What good comes of it? Who needs to read how your husband talks to his friends? What a terrible invasion of privacy. If I was him, I'd be pissed!

What good? We had an open and amazing conversation about racist comments, calling girls ho's, making sexual references about somebody's mom, starting rumors about girls/boys/families...

We discussed how if feels fun and innocent, but it is not, it is not moral. Now that his friends moms have read the group chats they have forbidden certain kids from their house, and they should.


He should always be careful about what he puts in writing because it can always come back to bite you in the ass, even if it doesn't it just is not nice. Good an honerable people do not try to cricitize, hurt and talk bad about others to make themselves feel better.

Oh yea, I also figured out which kids drink/drink and drive, smoke pot, smoke pot and drive. I know which parents serve alcohol to minors. I could go on forever.

Anonymous wrote:It's vicious cycle.

Once you snoop, you have to follow up snoop to see if anything has happened since you last snooped; confront the person on what you find; then they know you're snooping and work harder to hide things; they don't trust you to not snoop and you don't trust them to not be hiding something which you should be snooping about.

It's best to not get into this.

- Signed, a Recovering Snooper.

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Anonymous wrote:I do, and I totally trust my DH, so I think I'm just nosy. It's made me really hate one of his friends in particular.

Probably because you found out one of his friends isn't a good person. I pay the phone bills, so I see calls etc. I wouldn't be with anyone who was like that.

My phone died before so we shared for awhile, how it should be. I suspect some cheaters on here who got caught or are hiding something.

Ding ding ding! Believe me, I have a high threshold for dude behavior, and this guy's just a pig. I didn't even have to read the phone to know so, but the phone continually confirmed it.

Snooping through my husband's phone made me think less of all of his friends. Also my husband. All they do it make fun of people, typically those less fortunate, and discuss women and sex. It's lame and seems so superficial. It has been pathetic to read my husband's messages. He tries really hard to be cool and it's the same old same old all the time.

Interesting.... I have the same problem with my 16 year old and have had to explain not to do this on text/social media/etc. He also can't write LOL to shit that isn't LOL.

This is why you all shouldn't snoop! What good comes of it? Who needs to read how your husband talks to his friends? What a terrible invasion of privacy. If I was him, I'd be pissed!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do, and I totally trust my DH, so I think I'm just nosy. It's made me really hate one of his friends in particular.

Probably because you found out one of his friends isn't a good person. I pay the phone bills, so I see calls etc. I wouldn't be with anyone who was like that.

My phone died before so we shared for awhile, how it should be. I suspect some cheaters on here who got caught or are hiding something.

Ding ding ding! Believe me, I have a high threshold for dude behavior, and this guy's just a pig. I didn't even have to read the phone to know so, but the phone continually confirmed it.

Snooping through my husband's phone made me think less of all of his friends. Also my husband. All they do it make fun of people, typically those less fortunate, and discuss women and sex. It's lame and seems so superficial. It has been pathetic to read my husband's messages. He tries really hard to be cool and it's the same old same old all the time.

Interesting.... I have the same problem with my 16 year old and have had to explain not to do this on text/social media/etc. He also can't write LOL to shit that isn't LOL.