Anonymous
03/14/2016 17:15
Subject: Re:Nerve wracking guilt about my pet cat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP - so sorry.
We lost our sweet dear dog who was best buddies with our kitties. It just sucks.
I'd recommend that you foster a pregnant cat. There are many shelters that would have a need - kitten season is coming now.
We did this - very fun, rewarding experience. And if you Foster it's not a high stress pick out a replacement cat, instead you are helping a cat and her kittens.
You could then pick out a kitten pair - or, just Foster again.
OP here, thank you, sorry about your dog.
It is 2 weeks today and still hard. But now I do agree he had a good life and maybe even a good quick death so that is bringing some comfort. Somehow still guilty about lost time with him over the years, rushed into another cat/house/baby/job within 1-2 years of when we got him, maybe projecting my own life regrets.
I think fostering is a good idea, but now i need to focus on my other 11 yr old cat with heart disease, she had a breath rate of 60 per minute, so I keep emailing and taking her to the vet. Just did xrays, cardio scheduled for tue, again maybe some of my guilt.
I am also going to volunteer at the humane society after the orientation, that should give me some comfort, I keep going to petsmart to look at the black kitties. Mine was 4 when we got him and used to scratch us and pounce a bit, was a huge black cat and maybe not easily adoptable, so I do think bringing him home was a good deed.
I do miss him in my life, how much ever I rationalize his death.
I know - I miss all the animals we've lost over the years - even our silly old rabbit (she was a rescue that we only had for a year ).
Anonymous
03/13/2016 16:51
Subject: Re:Nerve wracking guilt about my pet cat
Anonymous wrote:OP - so sorry.
We lost our sweet dear dog who was best buddies with our kitties. It just sucks.
I'd recommend that you foster a pregnant cat. There are many shelters that would have a need - kitten season is coming now.
We did this - very fun, rewarding experience. And if you Foster it's not a high stress pick out a replacement cat, instead you are helping a cat and her kittens.
You could then pick out a kitten pair - or, just Foster again.
OP here, thank you, sorry about your dog.
It is 2 weeks today and still hard. But now I do agree he had a good life and maybe even a good quick death so that is bringing some comfort. Somehow still guilty about lost time with him over the years, rushed into another cat/house/baby/job within 1-2 years of when we got him, maybe projecting my own life regrets.
I think fostering is a good idea, but now i need to focus on my other 11 yr old cat with heart disease, she had a breath rate of 60 per minute, so I keep emailing and taking her to the vet. Just did xrays, cardio scheduled for tue, again maybe some of my guilt.
I am also going to volunteer at the humane society after the orientation, that should give me some comfort, I keep going to petsmart to look at the black kitties. Mine was 4 when we got him and used to scratch us and pounce a bit, was a huge black cat and maybe not easily adoptable, so I do think bringing him home was a good deed.
I do miss him in my life, how much ever I rationalize his death.
Anonymous
03/12/2016 00:41
Subject: Re:Nerve wracking guilt about my pet cat
OP - so sorry.
We lost our sweet dear dog who was best buddies with our kitties. It just sucks.
I'd recommend that you foster a pregnant cat. There are many shelters that would have a need - kitten season is coming now.
We did this - very fun, rewarding experience. And if you Foster it's not a high stress pick out a replacement cat, instead you are helping a cat and her kittens.
You could then pick out a kitten pair - or, just Foster again.
We lost our sweet dear dog who was best buddies with our kitties. It just sucks.
I'd recommend that you foster a pregnant cat. There are many shelters that would have a need - kitten season is coming now.
We did this - very fun, rewarding experience. And if you Foster it's not a high stress pick out a replacement cat, instead you are helping a cat and her kittens.
You could then pick out a kitten pair - or, just Foster again.
Anonymous
03/03/2016 14:50
Subject: Re:Nerve wracking guilt about my pet cat
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You are a very intelligent person, from I have read. I think you are beating yourself up. Eventually, you will believe in your heart what your head is saying to you. You have said yourself, that there are things in this world that we just have no control over, and this applies to your situation. the pain will eventually go away, but you will always miss him. My dad said that to me, and he is a wise man. I believe him. If you do decided to go back to the other site you can always send me an email if you need anything.
You are a very intelligent person, from I have read. I think you are beating yourself up. Eventually, you will believe in your heart what your head is saying to you. You have said yourself, that there are things in this world that we just have no control over, and this applies to your situation. the pain will eventually go away, but you will always miss him. My dad said that to me, and he is a wise man. I believe him. If you do decided to go back to the other site you can always send me an email if you need anything.