Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 09:41     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Fear of commitment or he is short, fat, bald, ugly. Maybe all of those.
He's 5'8", not fat, not bald, not ugly. He's in GREAT shape. He's awesome in bed and will try anything. He's romantic, thoughtful, hot for me. He has said that he wants to get married and have a child but hasn't found "the one".


Is he cheap? Controlling or anal? Is he a momma's boy and she's nuts and will wreck your lives?
Whatever he is, if you don't mind it consider yourself lucky and just go with it. 45 isn't too old for a guy to get married.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 09:28     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In real life, darling. Sorry to break it to you. His wallet gets fatter while your tits get saggier.


most women in their twenties and thirties would much rather marry a guy who is 30-35 than a guy over 35. a lot of women are wary of single men over 40, no matter how wealthy he is.


Definitely. I'm in my 20s and a 40 year old seems ancient.

I think I know only one girl in my (large) friend group who ended up with an old dude and she was from a very poor background and not all that attractive, so her dating options were limited and she was desperate for financial security.

For any woman with options, 40+ is not one.


This. I thought forty plus men were too old when I was in my early 30s.


And I'm guessing they thought a 30-ish woman was old too. The way of the world.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 09:26     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:It's like in real estate. Some houses are overpriced at first and sellers have too high expectations. The house then sits. After a while the price drops down to market value, but by then normal buyers pass because the house has been "sitting too long" so surely something is wrong with it.


Weak analogy.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 09:25     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In real life, darling. Sorry to break it to you. His wallet gets fatter while your tits get saggier.


most women in their twenties and thirties would much rather marry a guy who is 30-35 than a guy over 35. a lot of women are wary of single men over 40, no matter how wealthy he is.
A lot of women are home alone with cats.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 09:08     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Like a PP said, I wonder if OP is dating one of my best friends! If OP's guy is anything like my friend (45, super smart and funny, works out and is really fit), stick with him. He's a keeper.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 09:00     Subject: Re:He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:I know a man who is 48 and engaged for the very first time. However, I will warn you that there is no movement on the actual marriage. His announcement made a point of saying there was no date set, because they want to "enjoy their engagement." In fact, I have yet to hear him use a phrase like "we're getting married". It may be semantics, but he always phrases it as "we're engaged."




No, I think that is a ... yellow flag at least. Enjoy your engagement? That's bullll-ony. How long have they been engaged for now? Long, drawn-out engagements are stupid. Just get married already.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 08:48     Subject: Re:He's 45 and never been married
I know a man who is 48 and engaged for the very first time. However, I will warn you that there is no movement on the actual marriage. His announcement made a point of saying there was no date set, because they want to "enjoy their engagement." In fact, I have yet to hear him use a phrase like "we're getting married". It may be semantics, but he always phrases it as "we're engaged."

Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 08:12     Subject: Re:He's 45 and never been married
Said that he has never found the right girl. He's a great guy, has an awesome job. Makes good money. Has a great family. He should have been taken years ago. What am I missing?
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Keep dating and you'll find out soon enough. Either he really has never met 'the one' but is finally ready; or he gets really into someone and then begins to find fault/suddenly feel not fall in love once he approaches true intimacy (but never sees it as his issue, just that no woman is quite right); or he has another dealbreaker flaw that hasnt surfaced.

I hope its #1 for your sake!
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 01:30     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In real life, darling. Sorry to break it to you. His wallet gets fatter while your tits get saggier.


most women in their twenties and thirties would much rather marry a guy who is 30-35 than a guy over 35. a lot of women are wary of single men over 40, no matter how wealthy he is.


Definitely. I'm in my 20s and a 40 year old seems ancient.

I think I know only one girl in my (large) friend group who ended up with an old dude and she was from a very poor background and not all that attractive, so her dating options were limited and she was desperate for financial security.

For any woman with options, 40+ is not one.


This. I thought forty plus men were too old when I was in my early 30s.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2016 00:13     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
I like bald men. I do not like balding men. I don't care about short.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2016 23:31     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In real life, darling. Sorry to break it to you. His wallet gets fatter while your tits get saggier.


most women in their twenties and thirties would much rather marry a guy who is 30-35 than a guy over 35. a lot of women are wary of single men over 40, no matter how wealthy he is.


Definitely. I'm in my 20s and a 40 year old seems ancient.

I think I know only one girl in my (large) friend group who ended up with an old dude and she was from a very poor background and not all that attractive, so her dating options were limited and she was desperate for financial security.

For any woman with options, 40+ is not one.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2016 23:31     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
It's like in real estate. Some houses are overpriced at first and sellers have too high expectations. The house then sits. After a while the price drops down to market value, but by then normal buyers pass because the house has been "sitting too long" so surely something is wrong with it.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2016 23:30     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:In real life, darling. Sorry to break it to you. His wallet gets fatter while your tits get saggier.


most women in their twenties and thirties would much rather marry a guy who is 30-35 than a guy over 35. a lot of women are wary of single men over 40, no matter how wealthy he is.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2016 23:27     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Fear of commitment or he is short, fat, bald, ugly. Maybe all of those.
He's 5'8", not fat, not bald, not ugly. He's in GREAT shape. He's awesome in bed and will try anything. He's romantic, thoughtful, hot for me. He has said that he wants to get married and have a child but hasn't found "the one".


Why is baldness always looked at so negatively? I'm 6', good shape, and have thinning hair. Feel like women are going to look at me like a loser.



Tbh, it's definitely, definitely a bad thing. Use Rogaine if you can. Still, being short is worse than being bald, so at least you get points on that front.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2016 23:26     Subject: He's 45 and never been married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Fear of commitment or he is short, fat, bald, ugly. Maybe all of those.
He's 5'8"".

That's a manlet today. It's not 1930 anymore. -6' man