Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:25     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Well she is hubby's MIL. Ha!
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:13     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly you didn't post a single thing about your pregnancy on facebook, so she figured you'd never post a baby pic either. She does have a right as a grandma to post pics of her grandkids. I mean would she take pics of the other 4 and black out your baby's face?


Uh, no she does not. The child has a right to not hate his or her image posted on social media. The end.


Not HAVE I mean, of course. Although "hate" is a pretty funny typo. We should all have the right to not hate images of ourselves on social media.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:12     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly you didn't post a single thing about your pregnancy on facebook, so she figured you'd never post a baby pic either. She does have a right as a grandma to post pics of her grandkids. I mean would she take pics of the other 4 and black out your baby's face?


Um, yeah, no, it's up to the parents.


You can take a picture of anyone you want and post it on FB. Someone may not like it, but you can certainly go to Safeway today's take someone's picture and post it on FB with the caption "went to Safeway today".


And if this person finds out about it and wants it removed, FB will remove it.


Right, but the issue was if Grandma or anyone has a "right" to post it on FB, and yes, yes they do.


The baby? Questionable. Certainly not the mom who has just given birth. Not "right".


NP but yes. Grandparents have a right to talk about their new grandchildren and post pictures. It's not ALL about the mom.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:12     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:Honestly you didn't post a single thing about your pregnancy on facebook, so she figured you'd never post a baby pic either. She does have a right as a grandma to post pics of her grandkids. I mean would she take pics of the other 4 and black out your baby's face?


Uh, no she does not. The child has a right to not hate his or her image posted on social media. The end.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:10     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Honestly you didn't post a single thing about your pregnancy on facebook, so she figured you'd never post a baby pic either. She does have a right as a grandma to post pics of her grandkids. I mean would she take pics of the other 4 and black out your baby's face?


Um, yeah, no, it's up to the parents.


You can take a picture of anyone you want and post it on FB. Someone may not like it, but you can certainly go to Safeway today's take someone's picture and post it on FB with the caption "went to Safeway today".


And if this person finds out about it and wants it removed, FB will remove it.


Right, but the issue was if Grandma or anyone has a "right" to post it on FB, and yes, yes they do.


The baby? Questionable. Certainly not the mom who has just given birth. Not "right".
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:07     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:My BIL was the first one to post about our new baby, both times. He didn't post a picture, just the news... and he tagged DH (I'm not actually on FB or he would have tagged me). It did not occur to me to be upset about this in the least, or feel anything other than happiness. He was posting that he had a new nephew. That is news in his life! I'm happy he cares enough to share it.

Unflattering photos of me I would have been a little miffed about, but if not obviously and objectively unflattering I probably would have let go.

Photos of my kids on fb... if my sister and BIL take my kid to the pumpkin patch, they're going to post a pic of it on FB. I'm happy they do.

When I want something NOT shared on facebook, I proactively tell people. E.g., I did NOT want my pregnancy discussed on FB and I made that clear to everyone. I think this day in age the presumption is that you get to share your own news and your own photos unless told not to.
This is maturity.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:01     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Agree with all the PPs who have suggested adjusting your settings so you have to approve any tagged photos of yourself. It doesn't stop people from posting on their own wall, but it does give you some control. Then you need to decide how big an issue this is for you. I don't love it when my mom posts pictures of my kids on FB, but...it's not a major enough issue for me to push it.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 15:01     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
all, you know this is OP's mother, not MIL, right?

I think it's so funny how every time someone is bitching about "grandma" the assumption is that it's MIL
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 14:57     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
^ disliked
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 14:56     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
I dislike my MIL before the baby (married four years) it would have made me angry. If we were on good terms I would be miffed but said something later (with a smile) like "first outing pic, please don't scoop me on FB this time!"
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 14:11     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly you didn't post a single thing about your pregnancy on facebook, so she figured you'd never post a baby pic either. She does have a right as a grandma to post pics of her grandkids. I mean would she take pics of the other 4 and black out your baby's face?


Um, yeah, no, it's up to the parents.


You can take a picture of anyone you want and post it on FB. Someone may not like it, but you can certainly go to Safeway today's take someone's picture and post it on FB with the caption "went to Safeway today".


And if this person finds out about it and wants it removed, FB will remove it.


Right, but the issue was if Grandma or anyone has a "right" to post it on FB, and yes, yes they do.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 14:08     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:My BIL was the first one to post about our new baby, both times. He didn't post a picture, just the news... and he tagged DH (I'm not actually on FB or he would have tagged me). It did not occur to me to be upset about this in the least, or feel anything other than happiness. He was posting that he had a new nephew. That is news in his life! I'm happy he cares enough to share it.

Unflattering photos of me I would have been a little miffed about, but if not obviously and objectively unflattering I probably would have let go.

Photos of my kids on fb... if my sister and BIL take my kid to the pumpkin patch, they're going to post a pic of it on FB. I'm happy they do.

When I want something NOT shared on facebook, I proactively tell people. E.g., I did NOT want my pregnancy discussed on FB and I made that clear to everyone. I think this day in age the presumption is that you get to share your own news and your own photos unless told not to.


My brother did the same. And I looked terrible after the birth. But that's not what he was paying attention to. It was an exciting moment for our family and it was what it was. He didn't think I would require perfectly posed photos. I didn't actually even notice the posts until weeks later. At that point I'm sure snarky people had enjoyed the photos, but who cares. I don't really care about those people. I did ask my brother to take down photos I really disliked, but I wasn't mad at him for seeing only the beauty and excitement of the moment.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 14:06     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Yeah, I assume most of the people posting have children under 5. Your child's online "persona" can not keep hidden forever.

I get the need to protect what they put out there - trust me - I used to work with sexual predators, so I know what they do with pictures of little kids.

However, to think you can go through life taking down all of the pictures on the Interwebz on your little babies is insane.

Get over it. Some perv is going to look at your kid online. Some friend is going to post a picture of Aden or Grace you don't like.

Get over it.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 14:03     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
Anonymous wrote:You had nine months to decide how to handle the birth of this child on social media and to communicate your wishes/boundaries with your inner circle.

Why didn't you?


This
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2016 14:01     Subject: grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB
My BIL was the first one to post about our new baby, both times. He didn't post a picture, just the news... and he tagged DH (I'm not actually on FB or he would have tagged me). It did not occur to me to be upset about this in the least, or feel anything other than happiness. He was posting that he had a new nephew. That is news in his life! I'm happy he cares enough to share it.

Unflattering photos of me I would have been a little miffed about, but if not obviously and objectively unflattering I probably would have let go.

Photos of my kids on fb... if my sister and BIL take my kid to the pumpkin patch, they're going to post a pic of it on FB. I'm happy they do.

When I want something NOT shared on facebook, I proactively tell people. E.g., I did NOT want my pregnancy discussed on FB and I made that clear to everyone. I think this day in age the presumption is that you get to share your own news and your own photos unless told not to.