At least if his relationships last 4-6 months you won't have invested a ton of time to discover what the deal is.

His heard his biologic clock ticking.

Around 4-6 months is around the time we're comfortable enough to reveal our real selves.

It concerns me - this relationship pattern.

I think you have to give him a chance to find out if he really is weird or not. Go in eyes open, willing to bail, but willing to accept, too.

My husband was a 46-yo bachelor when we married and was considered quite a catch. I think people were a little surprised he picked me because I was 40 at the time and divorced. He is attractive, charming and wealthy and but be a bit controlling. I think we're a good catch because I don't put up with his BS and call him out on things. Two kiddos later, we're happy.

Anonymous wrote:

He has just hit the cutoff point for dating younger women. In general surplus to requirements.
Needs to start getting used to the idea that he is on his own and will die that way.

rich man can date 30 year olds

He has just hit the cutoff point for dating younger women. In general surplus to requirements.
Needs to start getting used to the idea that he is on his own and will die that way.

MY first thought would be he's like my brother who is high functioning autism, has an amazing well paying job based on his intellectual abilities. Is generally pleasant to be around and is like by mostly everyone he meets, both men and women find him attractive. I've seen people flirt with him and then be miffed when he doesn't respond.

He has zero interest in relationships.


Outside of that my general thoughts are the same for both men and women who are single and childless as long as you're happy and are a generally a good person I don't care what you do with your genitals and who you have decided to commit them to or procreate with.

Anonymous wrote:I didn't meet Ms. Right and marry until I was 44. I had a series of 1-3 year relationships with women over the years. Was not feeling an urge to get married -- a few women did but they weren't marriage material in my view. I didn't think of myself as commitment phobic but maybe I was to an extent. Then I met DW who while not a perfect match was so wonderful in so many ways I could not believe it -- I didn't think it was possible. 15 years later we're still married with a couple children.

How old was she when you met and married? She was younger than you, right?

Anonymous wrote:If you're interested in him, ask him why he is single!

If you're just being nosy, back off. Some people don't desire to get married or have kids.

Then why would he tell me that he's bummed that he never married or had kids?

Why would he say he's looking for someone younger so that kids could be a possibility?

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Anonymous wrote:He claims he wants to be married and have kids.

In that case, it sounds like he's saying that because he doesn't want to admit to anyone that he's gay. He's using it as a front.

And the women he dates periodically are beards?

Anonymous wrote:He claims he wants to be married and have kids.

In that case, it sounds like he's saying that because he doesn't want to admit to anyone that he's gay. He's using it as a front.

I'd think exactly what I would think about a single, childless, professional WOMAN pushing 50: absolutely nothing.

If pushed to make a judgement, I'd simply assume that he or she did not want to get married and/or have children.

No sweeping generalizations about sexuality or character or commitment issues are appropriate there. It's just not a big deal.

If you're interested in him, ask him why he is single!

If you're just being nosy, back off. Some people don't desire to get married or have kids.

gay

Anonymous wrote:I didn't meet Ms. Right and marry until I was 44. I had a series of 1-3 year relationships with women over the years. Was not feeling an urge to get married -- a few women did but they weren't marriage material in my view. I didn't think of myself as commitment phobic but maybe I was to an extent. Then I met DW who while not a perfect match was so wonderful in so many ways I could not believe it -- I didn't think it was possible. 15 years later we're still married with a couple children.

1-3 year long relationships are different than 4-6 month long relationships.