Anonymous
02/05/2016 12:23
Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had a vasectomy back in 2003, solely to relieve my wife of the burden of birth control and associated female side effects. We both are in good physical condition as we enter our fifties. Sex is okay, but rather infrequent (once a month), with age related female libido loss to blame.
My wife has cheated on me a few times over the past 5 years. Not sure if she will ever stop?
Guilt would wreck me if I were to cheat on her.
I regret thinking that a vasectomy would increase her respect level for me and our marriage.
My thinking is that if the cheating is happening despite her low libido, she's looking for something else from you beyond taking responsibility for BC. Maybe she needs an emotional connection you aren't supplying? Or maybe you don't satisfy her sexually? It can be difficult to drum up the urge to have lackluster sex.
Yeah, you should totally try to satisfy all of her needs so she won't cheat on you anymore.
Anonymous
02/05/2016 12:19
Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:I had a vasectomy back in 2003, solely to relieve my wife of the burden of birth control and associated female side effects. We both are in good physical condition as we enter our fifties. Sex is okay, but rather infrequent (once a month), with age related female libido loss to blame.
My wife has cheated on me a few times over the past 5 years. Not sure if she will ever stop?
Guilt would wreck me if I were to cheat on her.
I regret thinking that a vasectomy would increase her respect level for me and our marriage.
My thinking is that if the cheating is happening despite her low libido, she's looking for something else from you beyond taking responsibility for BC. Maybe she needs an emotional connection you aren't supplying? Or maybe you don't satisfy her sexually? It can be difficult to drum up the urge to have lackluster sex.
Anonymous
02/05/2016 12:08
Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Maybe if you cut off an ear as a sign of your devotion she will come around
Anonymous
02/05/2016 11:03
Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I just don't understand the connections you are drawing here, I'm sorry. You had a vasectomy; your wife is cheating on you. How are these things connected?
Suppose you're a DW in her mid-30's. You and your husband decide, after having two children, that you will have your tubes tied after the 2nd child. Five years later, your husband cheats on you with a younger woman, and gets her pregnant. The two of you eventually divorce. Your husband happily makes a new life with his new girlfriend/wife and third child.
Now wouldn't you feel just a bit disrespected in knowing that your husband has decided a younger woman and a 3rd child satisfies his life?
Are you reading? The OP said he and his wife are in their 50's. The wife is not going to start over with another child. The disrespect OP is feeling is because his wife is a cheater, not because he had a vasectomy.
OP is just an anti-vasectomy troll.
Anonymous
02/05/2016 10:34
Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would a vasectomy increase her respect for you? Did you respect her more when she was on birth control?
OP here. Um, the pill is not an invasive procedure. A vasectomy is likely permanent.
So.....she should have "respected" you because you chose to undergo a likely permanent surgical procedure? You still haven't explained why you thought undergoing this procedure would garner you "respect" from your wife. Did you mean appreciation? I don't think you're playing with a full deck here.
Anonymous
02/05/2016 08:58
Subject: Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage
Anonymous wrote:Man sperm is very sacred, when he chooses to cease delivery it is a strong commitment. Horrid and disrespectful this bad woman is, she should be wife shamed.
You're crazy