Anonymous wrote:No. Partly because I don't think they truly understand and appreciate how their SAH spouse does 90% of the doctors appts, school closures and heavy lifting. And partly because they're frustrated that they're choosing to forgo a 2nd income for the convenience of a SAH spouse and wish you did too.

I'd say being the sole breadwinner is some heavy lifting. And it makes it harder to pull that off when subordinates screw up and try to blame their incompetence on their parenting duties.

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Anonymous wrote:The answer to your question is "of course."

But I'll take the bait and ask what the "appalling comment" was.

When someone else dropped the ball, and before he had a grasp of what had gone wrong, asked if I had screwed up because of my home obligations. I had been in the office until midnight the night before.

This is a highly discriminatory comment.

Anonymous wrote:Ok time for a truth bomb. The people you work with DGAF about your personal life. So whether it's mom or dad or grandma or a DCP taking care of your kid, they don't care and don't want to know about it. Have kids, don't have kids, pay for childcare, have a SAHP, who cares. Bottom line: figure that shit out on your own and don't whine. No one likes a whiner.

This actually isn't true. Well, it may be for a few misanthropes, but as a policy matter these days, most employers care about making their employees happy in terms of family-work balance. It's literally written policy at the Big Four accounting firms, major law firms and other Fortune 500 companies. Most large employers also offer some assistance or fringe benefits to help their workers with these matters.

The reasoning is simple: You get a more productive and loyal employee if you do.