Anonymous wrote:I am so very sorry. That's just horrible. I hope his dick falls off.

I found going to a counselor during my divorce to be very helpful...and I went to a grief counselor on a separate occasion. It was just nice to have someone to vent and cry to who was a good listener. I have lots of good friends but it was helpful to have a trained professional as well.

Big Internet hugs to you.

Thank you very much. This is the plan.

It might be better this way if you are due to get a sizable inheritance. Keep those assets out of reach of your soon-to-be ex and prevent them from becoming commingled with the rest of your joint assets.

Frankly, your husband has been planning to do this for a long time. How long was your father sick?

My friend divorced his wife after supporting her for 3 years through cancer treatments. She had a double mastectomy and he filed for divorce about 6 months later. They were married for 6 years. In my friends case, he held off from separating for many years in order to keep her on his insurance, help pay for her treatments, and emotionally support her.

There is no good time to ask for a divorce.

Maybe the timing makes sense in his mind. Instead of grieving for your father now and getting through that just to be blasted by a divorce and go through grieving all over again, you can now get trough the whole mess at once.

Or, maybe he's just a cold hearted asshole.

Oh OP. I'm so sorry about your dad. And I'm sorry your soon to be ex has treated you like this, though it's clear he isn't worth the effort.

Do you have kids? All of you are going to need some counseling.

I am so very sorry. That's just horrible. I hope his dick falls off.

I found going to a counselor during my divorce to be very helpful...and I went to a grief counselor on a separate occasion. It was just nice to have someone to vent and cry to who was a good listener. I have lots of good friends but it was helpful to have a trained professional as well.

Big Internet hugs to you.

So sorry for your loss, OP. Forget completely about the divorce for the moment and focus on only one day at a time. Your DH's behavior is beyond inexcusable. He's an ass and you are well rid of him. He's not worth expending a moment of emotional energy on, just let him go like a transparent wisp of smoke. He matters not in your life forever more.
Hugs to you, OP.

Did you know the divorce was coming Op? Just surprised about the timing?

Sorry.

ugh I know someone who was in the hospital for lung cancer (I think getting a transplant but I'm not sure) and her DH asked her for a divorce because he likes to run marathons and she wasn't up to speed, I guess. She's dead now. Probably dead from grief.

My sincere condolences to you OP.

Words cannot describe how heartless your husband is.

I know this must feel like a double whammy now.

Losing two important men in your life at the same time sounds rough, hopefully you have an excellent support system in place.

(((( hugs ))))

Anonymous wrote:People who are selfish assholes commit selfish assholery without regard to other's being in crisis.

A friend's husband had her served with divorce papers hours after her double mastectomy.

A coworker was 5 mos pregnant and on bedrest when her husband told her by phone that he was leaving her.

The winner though was a friend whose son was hit by a car and while he was in ICU, her husband blurted out "I'm having an affair and she's pregnant."

John Edwards comes to mind and Newt Gingrich. Horrible to their wives during cancer.

sooo sorry. It sucks. It always amazes me how cruel men can be.

OP - keep your chin up. When I went through similar circumstances - I thought, "If I can get through this, I can get through anything. And I know that my life will just get better" And of course, it did

People who are selfish assholes commit selfish assholery without regard to other's being in crisis.

A friend's husband had her served with divorce papers hours after her double mastectomy.

A coworker was 5 mos pregnant and on bedrest when her husband told her by phone that he was leaving her.

The winner though was a friend whose son was hit by a car and while he was in ICU, her husband blurted out "I'm having an affair and she's pregnant."

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry for your loss OP and the coldness of your future ex-husband. He's a jerk.

My friend's ex did that to her but he asked for a divorce a few hours after her mother passed.

Holy cow, there are two of them??!!

There are at least three. My friend's husband left her for his 25 year old girlfriend when she was out of town for a week for her dad's funeral. We all take great pleasure in giving her XH nasty looks at school drop off (also, the 25 y.o. left him when she understood the responsibility of dating a divorced man with a child. Karma.)

Anonymous wrote:Just thought I'd make you all feel better about your own relationships. Never thought he could be this cold, but he has proven me wrong.
P.S. More than glad to grant his request at this time.

I'm really sorry. When it rains it pours eh? Focus on your family and forget your jackass ex.

Maybe your father's death was the door closing and he opened a door for you by your husband leaving. Someone really good and special just might be out there to take his place.

My ex asked for a divorce a couple weeks after my mom died.

Sorry for your loss, OP.