Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:to 15:40 - you have no idea what you're talking about. This is a quick little DCUM thread that can't begin to get to the bottom of the issues.

True, I have no idea what the finer details are, but the basic premise that if you don't tell your partner what you need you can't expect them to give it to you is indisputable. Now, if the reason a woman doesn't tell her husband he doesn't make her cum is because he'll respond by beating the crap out of her, for example, then complaining about the lack of O is like complaining about the food when you're on death row.

One of the PPs here. We've definitely talked about our sex life and how it things aren't all that much fun for me. Thing is, he's just really bad in the sack and has a small penis. His efforts wind up with me being pawed about, with not much sensitivity. I love him to pieces - this is the one glaring hole in our marriage, so I live with it.

Is it mostly the small D thats the issue? It seems to me that the other stuff can be fixed.

to the PP who wrote this: "He needs help. Guide him. Most men want to please their partners but all men require feedback. Saying "you didn't please me" isn't helpful. You need to tell him, or better yet show him, how to please you."

You are either a woman or the most evolved man ever. My husband doesn't want to please me - he's only 50, but he grew up in an Ozzie and Harriet household - women asking for something, you've got to be kidding. We can't have a conversation about what movie to see, let alone whether I'm happy in bed. I know that I am choosing to stay in this situation, but it's a lot more complicated than an orgasm.

If only I had know this before I had the two most wonderful kids in the world.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brush your teeth before going to bed. Seriously. Last night was like kissing a taco and was a real turn-off. This from a DH.

Mouth taco or between the legs taco?

Wtf. Does your wife's vag have teeth? Mouth taco. Dumbass.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:to 15:40 - you have no idea what you're talking about. This is a quick little DCUM thread that can't begin to get to the bottom of the issues.

True, I have no idea what the finer details are, but the basic premise that if you don't tell your partner what you need you can't expect them to give it to you is indisputable. Now, if the reason a woman doesn't tell her husband he doesn't make her cum is because he'll respond by beating the crap out of her, for example, then complaining about the lack of O is like complaining about the food when you're on death row.

One of the PPs here. We've definitely talked about our sex life and how it things aren't all that much fun for me. Thing is, he's just really bad in the sack and has a small penis. His efforts wind up with me being pawed about, with not much sensitivity. I love him to pieces - this is the one glaring hole in our marriage, so I live with it.

Have you told him he doesn't make you cum? If not, your response is irrelevant to the previous exchange.

I always find it interesting that women feel good sex is about them having an orgasm. Like that's the only thing that counts. Do you think he thinks you are good in bed. After all most guys can orgasm with little problem, but it does not mean the sex was good. On the other hand, I can see you not tell him he is bad in bed if its a physical thing. I have broken up with women because they were bad in bed...but I would never tell them that's why I am break up. I think it's different for a woman to hear she is bad in bed vs a man.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:to 15:40 - you have no idea what you're talking about. This is a quick little DCUM thread that can't begin to get to the bottom of the issues.

True, I have no idea what the finer details are, but the basic premise that if you don't tell your partner what you need you can't expect them to give it to you is indisputable. Now, if the reason a woman doesn't tell her husband he doesn't make her cum is because he'll respond by beating the crap out of her, for example, then complaining about the lack of O is like complaining about the food when you're on death row.

One of the PPs here. We've definitely talked about our sex life and how it things aren't all that much fun for me. Thing is, he's just really bad in the sack and has a small penis. His efforts wind up with me being pawed about, with not much sensitivity. I love him to pieces - this is the one glaring hole in our marriage, so I live with it.

Have you told him he doesn't make you cum? If not, your response is irrelevant to the previous exchange.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:to 15:40 - you have no idea what you're talking about. This is a quick little DCUM thread that can't begin to get to the bottom of the issues.

True, I have no idea what the finer details are, but the basic premise that if you don't tell your partner what you need you can't expect them to give it to you is indisputable. Now, if the reason a woman doesn't tell her husband he doesn't make her cum is because he'll respond by beating the crap out of her, for example, then complaining about the lack of O is like complaining about the food when you're on death row.

One of the PPs here. We've definitely talked about our sex life and how it things aren't all that much fun for me. Thing is, he's just really bad in the sack and has a small penis. His efforts wind up with me being pawed about, with not much sensitivity. I love him to pieces - this is the one glaring hole in our marriage, so I live with it.

He needs help. Guide him. Most men want to please their partners but all men require feedback. Saying "you didn't please me" isn't helpful. You need to tell him, or better yet show him, how to please you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:to 15:40 - you have no idea what you're talking about. This is a quick little DCUM thread that can't begin to get to the bottom of the issues.

True, I have no idea what the finer details are, but the basic premise that if you don't tell your partner what you need you can't expect them to give it to you is indisputable. Now, if the reason a woman doesn't tell her husband he doesn't make her cum is because he'll respond by beating the crap out of her, for example, then complaining about the lack of O is like complaining about the food when you're on death row.

One of the PPs here. We've definitely talked about our sex life and how it things aren't all that much fun for me. Thing is, he's just really bad in the sack and has a small penis. His efforts wind up with me being pawed about, with not much sensitivity. I love him to pieces - this is the one glaring hole in our marriage, so I live with it.

Anonymous wrote:to 15:40 - you have no idea what you're talking about. This is a quick little DCUM thread that can't begin to get to the bottom of the issues.

True, I have no idea what the finer details are, but the basic premise that if you don't tell your partner what you need you can't expect them to give it to you is indisputable. Now, if the reason a woman doesn't tell her husband he doesn't make her cum is because he'll respond by beating the crap out of her, for example, then complaining about the lack of O is like complaining about the food when you're on death row.

to 15:40 - you have no idea what you're talking about. This is a quick little DCUM thread that can't begin to get to the bottom of the issues.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brush your teeth before going to bed. Seriously. Last night was like kissing a taco and was a real turn-off. This from a DH.

Mouth taco or between the legs taco?

Crunchy or soft?

The two PPs who say they've never told their DHs they have never had an O have nobody to blame but themselves for their situation.

Anonymous wrote:Brush your teeth before going to bed. Seriously. Last night was like kissing a taco and was a real turn-off. This from a DH.

Mouth taco or between the legs taco?

And, that I hope he skies into a tree, too.