Can't dating ever just be about FUN ?

PP, that is the sad, very sad reality of marrying someone more than 10 years your senior-even that's old!

I hope the 65 year old has a FWB, as celibacy is not what one expects at a young age. Very sad!

Over 50 man dating woman in their 20's -- he's trying to feel younger/sexier, she's looking for $$ or daddy figure.
Over 50 woman dating man in his 20's -- she's trying to feel younger/sexier, he's looking for $$ or someone to take care of him.

I know a woman who's now in her 60's who, long ago, married someone 25 years older. He is now in a nursing home, after many years of ill health. She is still an active, vibrant, businesswoman who spends a lot of time with their children and grandchildren. She has often said that she wishes she'd thought more about what their older years would be like.

I've known quite a few couples with big age gaps, most with the man older but 2 with the woman older. In all but one, the younger partner ended up spending their 50s having to care for the older partner. I strongly recommend against the May-December romance. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

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Anonymous wrote:People don't think about the future. 35 and 50 looks great until 50 turns 65. Health issues come up and the younger spouse is screwed.

I saw my mother go through it. I'm watching a friend go through it.

not pretty - Nor is it practical when you have young kids.

But people live in the moment. So if you don't mind dealing with adult diapers, then go for it.

That's a bit of an exaggeration. Most people still live active healthy lives at 65, heck some even into their 80's. Sure, you may not be as athletic at 65 as you were at 25. But lets face it, most 25 year olds today aren't really that athletic either.

Hey - I'm just speaking from experience. If you've never gone through it or worked through it with friends and family members, you really shouldn't chime in. not being rude- just being truthful

The women end up handling the kids b/c the men are too tired. And sex is all about the Viagara. If you want to grow old TOGETHER, find a partner around your age.

just saying

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Anonymous wrote:BIL's 5th wife is 25; he's 57. I think it's weird but to each his/her own!

Well, 5 wives should tell you something about his commitment to marriage (unless he was a widower).

Lol, you are so right! To make matters worse he has kids from various wives ranging in age from 31 to 2. Just nuts!

~ PP who posted about the BIL

Anonymous wrote:BIL's 5th wife is 25; he's 57. I think it's weird but to each his/her own!

Well, 5 wives should tell you something about his commitment to marriage (unless he was a widower).

Case:

My parents got married at 24 and 26
My DH parents got married at 24 and 50

My parents are now retired, enjoying life.

My DHs mom spent her 60s babysitting her H., giving him a bath, ugghhh. Just horrible. He wasn't sick, but so old!

She's now widowed and alone. Not that death always comes to only the old, but she never got to enjoy her golden years. Sad!

Ladies (and gents), marrying for $ or power comes at a cost. The Eagles have a song about it.

Anonymous wrote:People don't think about the future. 35 and 50 looks great until 50 turns 65. Health issues come up and the younger spouse is screwed.

I saw my mother go through it. I'm watching a friend go through it.

not pretty - Nor is it practical when you have young kids.

But people live in the moment. So if you don't mind dealing with adult diapers, then go for it.

That's a bit of an exaggeration. Most people still live active healthy lives at 65, heck some even into their 80's. Sure, you may not be as athletic at 65 as you were at 25. But lets face it, most 25 year olds today aren't really that athletic either.

Typically there is something a little off about one or both partners. Most women in their 20s have different interests and goals than someone in their 50s. I know a couple with this age difference and the woman was looking for a wealthy and perfect mate. It's hard to find that in a 20 something so she met and married a 50 year old who was divorced with a few kids. He seems willing to overlook how crazy she acts and her lack of friends.

Anonymous wrote:What's your viewpoint of dating someone half+ your age?

If the guy has Paul Newman looks, I'd date him if I were in my 20's-early 30's.







Hell, I'd date Hot Santa too for that matter....

People don't think about the future. 35 and 50 looks great until 50 turns 65. Health issues come up and the younger spouse is screwed.

I saw my mother go through it. I'm watching a friend go through it.

not pretty - Nor is it practical when you have young kids.

But people live in the moment. So if you don't mind dealing with adult diapers, then go for it.

I used to think it was gross but I since been crushing on someone in their 50s and I'm 32.

I (a 52 yo DH) provide IT support for the household, including the 13 yo DD.

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Anonymous wrote:I do not see a problem...they could help set your iPhone and printer.

LOL My 15+ older DH does that for me

+1, my 10 year older DH does it for me too.