Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 15:50     Subject: For those with college-aged houseguests?
Sorry ^ 15 year old guest
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 15:49     Subject: For those with college-aged houseguests?
Just had a 15 guest with my own at extended family's house. Guest was better than my own at offering to help, clean up etc. We declined most offers to help, but they did independently make 2 of the side dishes for the meal and sort of clean up.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 15:13     Subject: For those with college-aged houseguests?
Anonymous wrote:My aunt taught me many issues like these and to this day I still thank her and think if her. Can't you just teach them in a loving way?

Sadly she can't. She's too busy clucking and judging.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 14:53     Subject: For those with college-aged houseguests?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP: these sound like model children raised by helicopter parents. Gift them a copy of Emily Post?



Actually if kids were raised by helicopter parents, the parents would have had them help. This is a situation where the kids have not been taught how to be good house guests and have manners.


The helicopter parents I know don't think their kids should have chores because everything hangs on getting awards and grades so they get into good colleges and then get the right job.

If someone doesn't want guests doing anything to help, that's fine. But I can't imagine that in a house full of people, anyone is going to object to a guest asking, "What should I do with my dishes?" or "Do you want any help?"

And while nieces may be guests, they're also family. If you're in a group for the long haul, you need to figure out how to make yourself welcome.


That is not helicopter parenting.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2015 14:47     Subject: For those with college-aged houseguests?
My aunt taught me many issues like these and to this day I still thank her and think if her. Can't you just teach them in a loving way?