Anonymous wrote:They were probably just being... annoying.

6. Months. Later.....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

she is annoying, i will admit, but the teacher shouldn't had told her she is annoying point blank, if this is how it went, i'm not for sure, i will ask my child again for the 5th time

Why? NOW is the time to learn this lesson - do you think she'll magically stop being annoying without anyone telling her. Your teacher is doing your child a favor.

From all of your posts, it seems like the apple did not fall far from the tree.

They were probably just being... annoying.

Who cares? It's not your job as a parent to pave the way for your kids. You'll end up paying for it in their teenage years and beyond. Let them deal with adversity (although in this case, I'm highly suspect that there's even an issue) themselves.

Your child knows exactly what she did that the teacher found annoying, she just doesn't want to tell you. Let it go. She was probably being annoying.

I'm a teacher and I use the word distracting. "Please stop tapping your pencils on the desk. It is distracting." Maybe the teacher called your child annoying or maybe she said what she was doing was annoying. I doubt you'll get an accurate answer so just talk to your child about how their behavior impacts others in positive and negative ways and go from there.

Anonymous wrote:Something for all parents to realize. Teachers make a thousand split seconds decisions in a day. From choosing which kid with hand in air to answer a question, to identifying misbehavior in classroom and applying classroom consequences. Think about your own home and all the split second decisions we make at home. Now multiple that into a classroom of 25 kids. Unless something is really egregious, parents can help their children by talking through the day and trying to understand the big picture and learn to be problem solvers, not blamers. Don't mean to sound preachy. Parenting is the hardest job and sometimes we goof. It takes a village, so support your teachers.

+100

-former teacher

Let it go. If it happens again, ask teacher.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

OP even said as much, so...

Natural consequence is to be told so bluntly. Who gives a damn about her self-esteem? That's not what's important here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would you do? She just told me her wonderful nice teacher called her annoying. I need a good way of handling this, i know my daughter is a chatter box and can be annoying, but i don't want the teacher to call her annoying, this can definitely destroy her self-esteem.

Oh, c'mon now! Given your positive feelings about the teacher, couldn't you just have said, "I'm sure she didn't mean YOU are annoying. hey, want to read a book with me?" or something...this is not the kind of thing that makes or breaks a kid.

It will not break her.

But putting her in a bubble free of everything but 100% positive reinforcement will eventually create a college student who is so fragile and damaged by the very idea of an idea that might contradict them or make them think that they can't handle the idea of free speech and want mandated "safe zones" where free speech is forbidden.

Seriously. How is she going to learn to not be annoying if no one ever tells her that she is? I work with a lot of young interns, and it's shocking how many have no idea how to be considerate of others.

You know what's annoying?
Harping on a total non-issue. Your daughter probably would have moved on on about 10 seconds if you didn't ask her about it five times.
My guess is she was being annoying and the teacher said something like "snowflake, please stop talking on the middle of the presentation - it's annoying."


I guess if teacher had said "o.m.g. Larla you are such an annoying child!" That would be inappropriate and worth following up on. But assuming that's not the case, make like a snow queen and let it go.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

Not OP, but a teacher should not call kids annoying. Teachers should be better at expressing themselves.

Parents should be better at expressing themselves as well, but we all know how that works in real life. Even if teacher said, "you're being annoying!" there is nothing inappropriate about that if she was stating the facts. perhaps girl who doesn't want to be called annoying in the future won't behave that way.

Something for all parents to realize. Teachers make a thousand split seconds decisions in a day. From choosing which kid with hand in air to answer a question, to identifying misbehavior in classroom and applying classroom consequences. Think about your own home and all the split second decisions we make at home. Now multiple that into a classroom of 25 kids. Unless something is really egregious, parents can help their children by talking through the day and trying to understand the big picture and learn to be problem solvers, not blamers. Don't mean to sound preachy. Parenting is the hardest job and sometimes we goof. It takes a village, so support your teachers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

Not OP, but a teacher should not call kids annoying. Teachers should be better at expressing themselves.

Parents should be better at expressing themselves as well, but we all know how that works in real life. Even if teacher said, "you're being annoying!" there is nothing inappropriate about that if she was stating the facts. perhaps girl who doesn't want to be called annoying in the future won't behave that way.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would you do? She just told me her wonderful nice teacher called her annoying. I need a good way of handling this, i know my daughter is a chatter box and can be annoying, but i don't want the teacher to call her annoying, this can definitely destroy her self-esteem.

Oh, c'mon now! Given your positive feelings about the teacher, couldn't you just have said, "I'm sure she didn't mean YOU are annoying. hey, want to read a book with me?" or something...this is not the kind of thing that makes or breaks a kid.

+1000 She's only in second grade and you've got a long way to go. Best develop some perspective now. Kids act up and teachers call them out on it. Perfectly appropriate.

The other day my kindergartner came off the bus crying. He said his friend called him annoying. I asked what he was doing at the time and he said "bopping him on the head." Yup, that's annoying!

I'd let it go. Chances are your kid was being annoying.