Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your brother needs to grow some balls and give the kids some candy

I agree.

Me too. She's only half of parenting here.

maybe he could have her remove the leash and nose ring too

I get it OP. When people are weirdly rigid about anything, it sucks. Sorry. You just have to put up with it I'm afraid.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so angry about moms who don't let theIt kids have junk food? Maybe save your outrage for abusive or neglectful moms?

Being excessively controlling *is* a form of abuse. (Not saying this is what's happening here; maybe it's just the SIL's one weird thing. But when the kids leave home, they are going to have no idea how to eat normally.)

I agree.

The kids I grew up with who had the crazy, controlling, no sugar, food issue mom did things like sneak junk food and hide it in a tin in the woods, binge on junk food at parties and other people's houses and are obese adults.

+1000. I also knew of several kids who would secretly gorge themselves on forbidden foods who went on to have eating disorders because of their controlling parents. And now as parents, they are much more relaxed about allowing their own kids to have sugar and snacks within reason.

Maybe you ought to butt out of your brother's business....

Just don't go over to their house on Halloween next year.

First world problems and not worth so much hostility. My parents were anti sugar nd I didn't miss what I didn't know. Never had cavities..until I befriended the kid who's mom baked all the time and let them have candy whenever they wanted. As soon as I got a taste of sugar I was addicted and I hated the highs and lows, bur wanted more. My parents gave in and got us things like gasp soda. Wish I had stayed the kid who didn't eat sugar. I think my health would be better.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe suggest an alternative for next year, so that her children don't have to dwell on what they're missing. One of my students who doesn't celebrate Halloween goes camping every year for that weekend.

This is a great idea! You sound like you have some pent up anger. If you know she is against candy- why would you offer her kids a stick of gum?

[quote=Anonymous]Nanny here- My bosses won't let the kids go see Santa, as in they've never ever 'met' Santa. It really upsets them and it just seems dumb to be hipsters about holidays just to be cool. It's cruel. But I'm not paid for my opinions so I just shut up and do my job with a smile. The kids are allowed to trick or treat but they can only keep one piece of candy. [/quote]

Poor kids!

Hope the kids make better choices when they are parents.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so angry about moms who don't let theIt kids have junk food? Maybe save your outrage for abusive or neglectful moms?

Being excessively controlling *is* a form of abuse. (Not saying this is what's happening here; maybe it's just the SIL's one weird thing. But when the kids leave home, they are going to have no idea how to eat normally.)

I agree.

The kids I grew up with who had the crazy, controlling, no sugar, food issue mom did things like sneak junk food and hide it in a tin in the woods, binge on junk food at parties and other people's houses and are obese adults.

Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so angry about moms who don't let theIt kids have junk food? Maybe save your outrage for abusive or neglectful moms?

Being excessively controlling *is* a form of abuse. (Not saying this is what's happening here; maybe it's just the SIL's one weird thing. But when the kids leave home, they are going to have no idea how to eat normally.)

haha, I'm a vehement anti Santa person myself, and that's probably my nanny posting!

I see both sides - I was "that kid" whose mom restricted food to organic, no sugar and had to skip Halloween (and birthday cake, Easter treats, Valentine's candy). As soon as I figured out I was being denied and was mature enough to get around it (about 3rd grade) - I did. I'd trade stickers, small toys, lunch money for for marshmallows and candy at lunch. Tween defiance never tasted so sweet... My mom was not amused but couldn't stop it. If I'd be allowed treats in moderation younger, I would have a much healthier relationship with sugar. (To this day I still can't resist a bag of Swedish fish when I'm stressed).

On the other hand, it's her kids. If she wants to control their diet, so be it. My niece and nephew subsist on hot dogs, soda, candy and picking the charms out of lucky charms for breakfast.. It's not the diet I want my daughter on - we do make sure it's more balanced.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- My bosses won't let the kids go see Santa, as in they've never ever 'met' Santa. It really upsets them and it just seems dumb to be hipsters about holidays just to be cool. It's cruel. But I'm not paid for my opinions so I just shut up and do my job with a smile. The kids are allowed to trick or treat but they can only keep one piece of candy.

I know those kids can't wait to move out. College probably can't come fast enough.

Anonymous wrote:I would never give my niece gum before clearing it with my SIL.

Come on now. Its harmless. Its just gum.

I would never give my niece gum before clearing it with my SIL.