I am friends with a lot of Indian families. It is unusual for them to say no to an academic activity. It is not culturally normal.

2nd thought. I just read I don't know how many stupid posts from white ppl saying no to play dates and sleep overs. Nobody concludes they are weird white people!

Anonymous wrote:Strange if you choose to live in a country regardless celebrate it.

Absurd.

Not Indian, but of another immigrant background. It is just very hard for parents to read Americans - who is trust worthy, who isn't. And yes they do have a lot of negative stereotypes (look at what is on TV and the movies - they can't help but worry). My parents never did "get" Halloween - we were never allowed to do it. I think they were afraid of razor blades in candy (which was a big fear back then). I let my kids go trick or treating and my mom is very uneasy to this day.

Strange if you choose to live in a country regardless celebrate it.

Anonymous wrote:I'm Indian and while my parents would have been considered very strict by white parent standards, I was allowed to go to sleepovers. This other Indian girl in my high school was not, and I found that really strange. She couldn't even go trick or treating with adult chaperones.

It could be a cultural thing but I wouldn't say majority of Indians are like that.

Most of the world doesn't celebrate Halloween. Not strange at all that she didn't go trick or treating.

I too have experienced this with DD's Indian friends and I too thought it was a cultural thing. Too bad because these girls are the kind of kids you'd want your kid to hang out with. Nice polite kids that are fun to have around.

I know this is anecdata, but my 3 dc go to an elementary school in FCPS with a lot of Indian kids. We have had many all-class birthday parties, and even when my dd is friends with an Indian girl, they never attend the parties (or RSVP). The boys parents do not RSVP either, but sometimes show up. I assumed it was some odd cultural thing.

I'm Indian and while my parents would have been considered very strict by white parent standards, I was allowed to go to sleepovers. This other Indian girl in my high school was not, and I found that really strange. She couldn't even go trick or treating with adult chaperones.

It could be a cultural thing but I wouldn't say majority of Indians are like that.