Anonymous wrote:OP again. I didn't just leave her. We spent the night crying, sharing our feelings, and me comforting her. Yes, I acted like an ass the next night and there isn't any excuse for it. I would love a bio child but that doesn't mean we can't adopt. It hit me hard at first, but this news doesn't change my feelings of love or that I want to marry her. I don't blame her for needing a break. More importantly, I know she may end it because she doesn't want me to deal with this. She is a very living and giving person. She puts others first all the time.


To the one poster -- I have felt like I wanted to marry other women but not in this way. Some things were never there but I know my current girlfriend is the one for me. I tesircy fully disagree that she overreacted.


Other poster - She just turned 29 and I'll be 32 in November.

Anonymous wrote:OP:

If she's infertile and you want natural born kids with your future wife, you know you have to dump her, and she knows it, too.

That's why you got drunk and she distanced herself.

You both know it's over.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did write that I was there for her. I left work and we spent the entire day and night on Thursday together. We cried, I comforted, and we did speak. We did discuss some stuff but not everything. I told her I loved her and that this didn't change that. Then we both worked Friday. She was suppose to go to her sisters and I out for a friends birthday.
I went out and had too much to drink, which I normally drink every 1-2 months.

I'm every close with my sister. We lost our parents when I was a teen and she practically raised me. I didn't have permission but she is the one I go to. I didn't tell anyone but her.

Now, I love my girlfriend. We have gone through death, surgeries, and illness during our time together. We have worked through everything. I will support her to the end and she knows it. We have come out stronger. She is a beautiful person that I feel so lucky to have in my life. I am not ready to give it up. This was intended as a " what to do" situation. This is more of how do I get her back?

I'm really pulling for you OP. As to how to what to do now, I have to say that the PP that posted about feeling being raw and her husband's infertility being her infertility just got to me. Assuming you feel that way, does the girlfriend know that? I can't put it any better than 16:58, but if your girlfriend knew that you felt like that and in your grief you made mistakes would she be able to forgive you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think me getting drunk was the issue. Without going into too much detail I will provide the bad news. Last week she found her chance of fertility is 10%. She has dealt with pcos and ovarian cysts. 5 out of 8 women in her family have had endometriosis and ovarian or cervical cancer.

We both really want children. This was and is devastating news. We had a discussion and I told her I was unsure if I can see a future without children. She said she loves me but understands if this is a deal breaker. She doesn't want me to give up or ruin my dream of having a family.

I wasn't as supportive as I should of been. I told she I needed time to digest things. I forgot my iPad is synced to my phone and she read emails between my sister and I. I said that I didn't I could live life w.o have a bio child and I want a wife that can give me that. I was very emotional and did not mean I would end anything with her.

She (girlfriend) wrote that she was disappointed by me choosing to go out and get drunk, rather than be there for her. Also telling my sister upset her. This is why she said she needed a break.

So you're an asshat. Okay. Lots of people are.

When you truly love someone, you can't imagine living without them. Period. You obviously don't love this woman, and she deserves better.

Ever heard of adoption? Surrogacy? There are options. And you can still have your "biological" child using your sperm (dumbass...don't you understand that?).

How old are you?

Leaving the woman you proclaim to love alone so you can go out and get wasted says a lot about the kind of "man" you are. I hope she walks.

PS - I have friends who successfully carried babies despite having pcos. I hope she has beautiful babies with another man.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if she will walk over that one episode (though we don't know the details), I question how devoted she is or would be.

That's small potatoes compared to what real life will dish out over the course of time.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did write that I was there for her. I left work and we spent the entire day and night on Thursday together. We cried, I comforted, and we did speak. We did discuss some stuff but not everything. I told her I loved her and that this didn't change that. Then we both worked Friday. She was suppose to go to her sisters and I out for a friends birthday.
I went out and had too much to drink, which I normally drink every 1-2 months.

I'm every close with my sister. We lost our parents when I was a teen and she practically raised me. I didn't have permission but she is the one I go to. I didn't tell anyone but her.

Now, I love my girlfriend. We have gone through death, surgeries, and illness during our time together. We have worked through everything. I will support her to the end and she knows it. We have come out stronger. She is a beautiful person that I feel so lucky to have in my life. I am not ready to give it up. This was intended as a " what to do" situation. This is more of how do I get her back?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think me getting dunk was the issue. Without going into too much detail I will provide the bad news. Last week she found her chance of fertility is 10%. She has dealt with pcos and ovarian cysts. 5 out of 8 women in her family have had endometriosis and ovarian or cervical cancer.

We both really want children. This was and is devestating news. We had a discussion and I told her I was unsure if I can see a future without children. She said she loves me but understands if this is a deal breaker. She doesn't want me to give up or ruin my dream of having a family.

I wasn't as supportive as I should of been. I told she I needed time to digest things. I forgot my iPad is synced to my phone and she read emails between my sister and I. I said that I didn't I could live life w.o have a bio child and I want a wife that can give me that. I was very emotional and did not mean I would end anything with her.

She ( girlfriend) wrote that she was disappointed by me choosing to go out and get drunk, rather than be there for her. Also telling my sister upset her. This is why she said she needed a break.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did write that I was there for her. I left work and we spent the entire day and night on Thursday together. We cried, I comforted, and we did speak. We did discuss some stuff but not everything. I told her I loved her and that this didn't change that. Then we both worked Friday. She was suppose to go to her sisters and I out for a friends birthday.
I went out and had too much to drink, which I normally drink every 1-2 months.

I'm every close with my sister. We lost our parents when I was a teen and she practically raised me. I didn't have permission but she is the one I go to. I didn't tell anyone but her.

Now, I love my girlfriend. We have gone through death, surgeries, and illness during our time together. We have worked through everything. I will support her to the end and she knows it. We have come out stronger. She is a beautiful person that I feel so lucky to have in my life. I am not ready to give it up. This was intended as a " what to do" situation. This is more of how do I get her back?

It's still really uncool that you didn't ask your girlfriend first if it was okay to share with your sister. Some things in a relationship are private to the relationship, and it's a betrayal of your partner to share the information outside of the relationship. Depending on how your girlfriend feels about this news and your sister, this might have been one of them.

I disagree. I know where you are coming from. But if he's overwhelmed with the news, sharing it with his sister, who "basically raised him," is natural. He needs a healthy outlet. Much healthier than getting stupid drunk.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did write that I was there for her. I left work and we spent the entire day and night on Thursday together. We cried, I comforted, and we did speak. We did discuss some stuff but not everything. I told her I loved her and that this didn't change that. Then we both worked Friday. She was suppose to go to her sisters and I out for a friends birthday.
I went out and had too much to drink, which I normally drink every 1-2 months.

I'm every close with my sister. We lost our parents when I was a teen and she practically raised me. I didn't have permission but she is the one I go to. I didn't tell anyone but her.

Now, I love my girlfriend. We have gone through death, surgeries, and illness during our time together. We have worked through everything. I will support her to the end and she knows it. We have come out stronger. She is a beautiful person that I feel so lucky to have in my life. I am not ready to give it up. This was intended as a " what to do" situation. This is more of how do I get her back?

It's still really uncool that you didn't ask your girlfriend first if it was okay to share with your sister. Some things in a relationship are private to the relationship, and it's a betrayal of your partner to share the information outside of the relationship. Depending on how your girlfriend feels about this news and your sister, this might have been one of them.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did write that I was there for her. I left work and we spent the entire day and night on Thursday together. We cried, I comforted, and we did speak. We did discuss some stuff but not everything. I told her I loved her and that this didn't change that. Then we both worked Friday. She was suppose to go to her sisters and I out for a friends birthday.
I went out and had too much to drink, which I normally drink every 1-2 months.

I'm every close with my sister. We lost our parents when I was a teen and she practically raised me. I didn't have permission but she is the one I go to. I didn't tell anyone but her.

Now, I love my girlfriend. We have gone through death, surgeries, and illness during our time together. We have worked through everything. I will support her to the end and she knows it. We have come out stronger. She is a beautiful person that I feel so lucky to have in my life. I am not ready to give it up. This was intended as a " what to do" situation. This is more of how do I get her back?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did write that I was there for her. I left work and we spent the entire day and night on Thursday together. We cried, I comforted, and we did speak. We did discuss some stuff but not everything. I told her I loved her and that this didn't change that. Then we both worked Friday. She was suppose to go to her sisters and I out for a friends birthday.
I went out and had too much to drink, which I normally drink every 1-2 months.

I'm every close with my sister. We lost our parents when I was a teen and she practically raised me. I didn't have permission but she is the one I go to. I didn't tell anyone but her.

Now, I love my girlfriend. We have gone through death, surgeries, and illness during our time together. We have worked through everything. I will support her to the end and she knows it. We have come out stronger. She is a beautiful person that I feel so lucky to have in my life. I am not ready to give it up. This was intended as a " what to do" situation. This is more of how do I get her back?

* not intended. I know getting drunk a day later was bad, but how would many of you react and grieve to news like this?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did write that I was there for her. I left work and we spent the entire day and night on Thursday together. We cried, I comforted, and we did speak. We did discuss some stuff but not everything. I told her I loved her and that this didn't change that. Then we both worked Friday. She was suppose to go to her sisters and I out for a friends birthday.
I went out and had too much to drink, which I normally drink every 1-2 months.

I'm every close with my sister. We lost our parents when I was a teen and she practically raised me. I didn't have permission but she is the one I go to. I didn't tell anyone but her.

Now, I love my girlfriend. We have gone through death, surgeries, and illness during our time together. We have worked through everything. I will support her to the end and she knows it. We have come out stronger. She is a beautiful person that I feel so lucky to have in my life. I am not ready to give it up. This was intended as a " what to do" situation. This is more of how do I get her back?