Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:45     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that you are not a troll, OP, because this situation sounds so ridiculous that I doubt it's true, I recommend that you reply with a smiley face and sent her a heartfelt congratulatory card and gift. She was 100% joking and your first email was out of line.


I don't know why it was out of line - I was trying to tell her that I really did wish I could be there. I am a fairly conservative Christian so I really didn't want her thinking I wasn't attending because I disagreed with it.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:43     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Email her back and say, "Wait, I was kidding - did you really?"


+1 don't try to read her mind here.


x2
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:41     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
On the off chance that you are not a troll, OP, because this situation sounds so ridiculous that I doubt it's true, I recommend that you reply with a smiley face and sent her a heartfelt congratulatory card and gift. She was 100% joking and your first email was out of line.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:41     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are over-reacting and being very self-centered OP. You sent her a passive aggressive email and she didn't take it well. Get over it. Move on and make amends if this friendship matters to you.


It wasn't passive-aggressive.


PP here. OP didn't INTEND to be passive aggressive went she sent the joking email, but her friend may have misread her tone, just as OP may be doing the same by feeling snubbed. Communicate directly with your friend, OP.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:38     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Op, just curious, how old are you?
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:38     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Anonymous wrote:Email her back and say, "Wait, I was kidding - did you really?"


+1 don't try to read her mind here.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:36     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Haven't read all the responses but if she's not the joking type, she may have taken your joke literally and sent you back a sarcastic response because she was offended. Or maybe she was hurt you can't attend and reacted badly.
I doubt she remembered the exact date of your work trip, regardless!! How would she, unless she made a note of it or you explicitly told her "I will not be available on X date"...
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:15     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Anonymous wrote:I think it clearly was not a joke because the invitations came out a week after OP said she was going on a trip. If the friend had already planned the date, she would have said at that meeting, "Gee, that's a shame. We're getting married that same day."

OP, did you say something to your friend about having a wedding even though she's already married? Perhaps she felt you were not taking the event seriously.


No way. I know that's a sensitive subject for all sorts of reasons.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:13     Subject: Re:Friend completely shunned me
Is OP for real? Teen-aged girls don't act this catty or silly. Your friend was joking. Sometimes emails don't convey tone very well. If you really think your friend deliberately planned the wedding so that you couldn't attend then you have a major screw loose.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:13     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
I think it clearly was not a joke because the invitations came out a week after OP said she was going on a trip. If the friend had already planned the date, she would have said at that meeting, "Gee, that's a shame. We're getting married that same day."

OP, did you say something to your friend about having a wedding even though she's already married? Perhaps she felt you were not taking the event seriously.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:11     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
This is not a friend. Sounds like a bitch .
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:05     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Email her back and say, "Wait, I was kidding - did you really?"
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:02     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are over-reacting and being very self-centered OP. You sent her a passive aggressive email and she didn't take it well. Get over it. Move on and make amends if this friendship matters to you.


It wasn't passive-aggressive.


Well your question was making an accusation and while you may have thought of it as a joke, it was an annoying one.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 15:00     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
I would have written that sarcastically to a good friend. Very weird
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2015 14:58     Subject: Friend completely shunned me
Anonymous wrote:You are over-reacting and being very self-centered OP. You sent her a passive aggressive email and she didn't take it well. Get over it. Move on and make amends if this friendship matters to you.


It wasn't passive-aggressive.