Anonymous wrote:We can't provide any constructive information if you continue to provide no details regarding your budget for tuition and job location within the DC area.

+1. School is only part of the equation and shouldn't be the first part.

You would get more feedback if you were gave us more concrete details and less blog fodder.

We can't provide any constructive information if you continue to provide no details regarding your budget for tuition and job location within the DC area.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I give up. Not aware that anything I described could be construed as bragging. I have gotten a few good suggestions here, but I cannot wade any further into this kind of toxicity. Wow. Stunning. You guys honestly have us wondering if we should move at all, even for a really good job. If this board is at all representative of what people there are like, we may as well just give up now.

Thats one of the most ridiculous responses I have ever read.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I give up. Not aware that anything I described could be construed as bragging. I have gotten a few good suggestions here, but I cannot wade any further into this kind of toxicity. Wow. Stunning. You guys honestly have us wondering if we should move at all, even for a really good job. If this board is at all representative of what people there are like, we may as well just give up now.

I'm thinking you'd get the same response from other areas of you sound like this about your kids/family.

Troll

OP here. I give up. Not aware that anything I described could be construed as bragging. I have gotten a few good suggestions here, but I cannot wade any further into this kind of toxicity. Wow. Stunning. You guys honestly have us wondering if we should move at all, even for a really good job. If this board is at all representative of what people there are like, we may as well just give up now.

Anonymous wrote:For god's sake, people, wtf is the problem? OP thinks her kid is outside the norm. Why does this bother some of you so much? Why do you care?

Because it's directly relevant to the question that OP specifically asked people to respond to.

I do not get shy you think she is quirky or different. Are your kids the only ones you have ever been around?

For god's sake, people, wtf is the problem? OP thinks her kid is outside the norm. Why does this bother some of you so much? Why do you care?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, here are the possibilities as I see them:

1. Your child's behavior is totally typical, just different from you.
2. Your child's behavior is unusual in some way, leading you to call her "quirky" (and "intense"), but you're not giving examples of that behavior, thereby leading DCUM to conclude erroneously that your child's behavior is totally typical, even though it isn't.

I don't know your child. You know your child. Which is it?

She did give examples. The back flips and such as well as saying she was the most intelligent of them all ( ) and various other details. If you go back through the thread the OP has come back to add many comments along the way.

Nothing smacks of genuinely unusual about the child, however.

Exactly. So why does OP characterize her as "quirky"? Either she's is "quirky" and the examples don't illustrate that, or she isn't quirky.

OP why are you ignoring the budget and commute questions? Trust is on this, you cannot even begin to consider looking at schools until you have some idea of where you are going to live, and that is completely dependent on what you can pay and where you will be working. There is no way around it. You can find the school of your dreams in Falls Church but if your job is in PG County it's not going to be feasible. Some of the schools recommended up thread cost $30K+ per year in tuition, for pre-K. Is that in line with your budget? If not, no point in considering them. This is a very densely populated area with a high concentration of highly educated parents, and you will not have any trouble finding good schools in Maryland, DC, or Virginia. But asking for recommendations for the whole area is meaningless.

Anonymous wrote:Is she going into preK or K? For preK I would suggest a school that advocates for outdoor time but also has a firm grasp in setting limits and emphasizing control over urges. NCRC fits the bill though it's tough to get into.

For K, I would look at a progressive school like Lowell or Sheridan, one that can handle her unique qualities and developing executive function via very small class sizes.

As for public, I would suggest trying for an immersion bilingual school. It could be the extra challenge she needs.

And a word advice from mom with a highly gifted child, you need to really tone it down in your rhetoric. I'm not doubting she's extraordinary but trust me, no one else needs to know. Humblebragging quickly makes a good thread go bad.

Wishing you luck with your transition! You really will love it here. And despite it all, DCUM can truly be an amazing resource.

You nailed it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, here are the possibilities as I see them:

1. Your child's behavior is totally typical, just different from you.
2. Your child's behavior is unusual in some way, leading you to call her "quirky" (and "intense"), but you're not giving examples of that behavior, thereby leading DCUM to conclude erroneously that your child's behavior is totally typical, even though it isn't.

I don't know your child. You know your child. Which is it?

She did give examples. The back flips and such as well as saying she was the most intelligent of them all ( ) and various other details. If you go back through the thread the OP has come back to add many comments along the way.

Nothing smacks of genuinely unusual about the child, however.

again, we think all three of our kids are quirky. so are we! quirky isn't BAD.

my daughter is intense. I'm honestly not sure how to describe it...it's like everything is bigger for her. not
only in contrast to our boys but in constrast to every other child we know- even the loudest most active. she is FEARLESS. last night she found a chair and then a step stool, stacked them, climbed on top, undid the lock at the top
of the door, went outside, and was perched on the top of the monkey bars when I went to track her down, having left her for THREE minutes. she grabbed the iPad the other day and did the math game that our 6.5 yo is working on. everything she feels
is big. everything she does is big.
I'm
not sure how else to describe it honestly...

can you describe what exactly she can do academically? What makes you think she is smarter than you or her brothers? Has she been tested?

Harbor, Waldorf - they leave a lot of room for quirkiness & creativity.

I am not trying to mean, because I hate it when posters get piled on for describing the children they love. But. You have described an amazing little girl. She sounds great. She will undoubtedly thrive in any school environment. I only sense some behavioral issues from your posts, but she is still so young. Those executive function synapses are still being created. And she will get nothing but structure and discipline at school. It sounds like she needs it!