Anonymous wrote:This guy I have been seeing exclusively the since Feb. has been hanging out at my house about 4-5 evenings a week.
We usually go out to dinner, then come back to my place and watch T.V., play board/card games, make love and have discussions about current events. Then he usually will leave around midnight or 1 o'clock.
Well recently he has been doing something that has been driving me nuts and I am wondering if this is normal or a true deal-breaker.
Sometimes he will not like something I say and get angry over it. Then without talking it over with me, he will angrily put on his shoes, grab his keys/wallet/phone and declare, "I am walking out now. I don't have to listen or deal with any of this." Then he makes an abrupt exit.
He has done it about 5x thus far. Last night he did it again and I honestly am getting tired of it. I feel as if I am always walking on eggshells with this guy, I never know when I will say something that will offend or annoy him and if it eventually does, he suddenly gets up and walks out vs. talking about it.
What do you all think?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He sounds a little unhinged. You shoud probably move on.
Just out of curiosity, give us an example of something that set him off.
I find he is rude to people when we go out in public together and that it makes me look bad as well.
For instance, we were at the movies and not in aisle seats. A few people had to use the restroom during the flick and had to walk by us. They were polite, said, "Excuse me..." then tried to get by. He sighed annoyingly and refused to move his legs.
Also another time at the movies, the people in front of us were talking, thus disturbing HIM. I personally didn't hear any talking, but I could have been engrossed in the movie too much. Anyhow, instead of tapping the people on the shoulder and mentioning to them that they were bothering him with their chatting, he instead forcefully kicked the back of their chairs really hard, thus angering them. Can't say I blame them.
When I tell him that he should be more kind to people, he takes it way too personally.
Anonymous wrote:You should've walked after the second time.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He sounds a little unhinged. You shoud probably move on.
Just out of curiosity, give us an example of something that set him off.
I find he is rude to people when we go out in public together and that it makes me look bad as well.
For instance, we were at the movies and not in aisle seats. A few people had to use the restroom during the flick and had to walk by us. They were polite, said, "Excuse me..." then tried to get by. He sighed annoyingly and refused to move his legs.
Also another time at the movies, the people in front of us were talking, thus disturbing HIM. I personally didn't hear any talking, but I could have been engrossed in the movie too much. Anyhow, instead of tapping the people on the shoulder and mentioning to them that they were bothering him with their chatting, he instead forcefully kicked the back of their chairs really hard, thus angering them. Can't say I blame them.
When I tell him that he should be more kind to people, he takes it way too personally.
Anonymous wrote:
OP,
He is physically abusive to strangers in the most mundane circumstances.
How do you think he will act with you soon?
He won't stop at walking out, that's for sure.