OP, when is the tee time? Do you mean he could make it there easily, or that you think he could make it there "in time" if he's rushing? If you're really sick (not just 101 fever and not feeling well) then I'd think DH would take your kid, If you're so/so and DH would need to rush to make it to golf then I'd suggest you take the kid. If SH is meeting someone for golf, then I'd make more of an effort to take the kid yourself. If not, it's warier for him to be later. I'd feel the same way if the genders were reversed But this may be because a 101 fever and not feeling well actually doesn't sound bad to me. If you're really sick, I'd feel differently.

OP here. Sorry for the holes last night. The NyQuil had kicked in, surely.

DD is almost 4. She goes to preschool/daycare, not "school". Sorry for making that unclear. It opens at 7:00, so while DD doesn't usually get there right at 7:00 on the dot, that is when they open the doors. I guess I was trying to say that DH could get DD up a little earlier than usual, drop her off at 7:00 on the dot and still be able to make his tee time. He is not golfing with the president, just 3 friends.

I do work full-time and contribute to our family's income, for the poster who seemed concerned about my work status.

Anyway, it all worked out ok. I woke up feeling worse told DH I would not be able to drive DD to school. He got her up and took her to school, but not without a little attitude. I know the timing sucks and DH was looking forward to his golf game, but I did not think it was too much to ask since I'm legitimately sick and he could still make his tee time even with taking DD to preschool/daycare. It turns out he would not have time at the driving range, which is why he wanted me to do it.

But anyway, it worked out fine and thanks for letting me know what would happen in your family with this situation. Sometimes I get confused when I think something should be cut and dry, but DH has a different view. And yes, we have started counseling.

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Anonymous wrote:School? Or daycare?

Not OP but what difference does it make?

School makes it sound like the kid NEEDS to be there by X time

Or simply that it opens at 7am and not earlier (meaning DH couldn't drop her off any earlier than that).

Ugh. This sounds exactly like one of my friends. Her husband treats her like shit and she not only accepts it, she expects it and is ok with it because in her own words "in every relationship, there is one person who loves the other a little bit more" and deep down she thinks/knows that if she pushes him for more, he will leave. Disgusting.

Maybe the husband has a very rare golfing event. Maybe it's business related. He could actually be very nervous about it - not because it' a sport but because of the networking involved. Maybe be doesn't want anything to go wrong.

Maybe "on the way" as Op says it not exactly on the way.
Maybe DC is high maintenance, throws tantrums or is otherwise catered to.

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Anonymous wrote:School? Or daycare?

Not OP but what difference does it make?

School makes it sound like the kid NEEDS to be there by X time

I can only assume you are married to this person because he is your cash cow and you are a SAHM.

To answer your question: fuck no, DH would never, ever make me do drop-off if I was feverish/sick and it was on his way. Double fuck no if it were on the way to a recreational event vs. work.

But then, I'm in an equal marriage and don't have to be a slave to someone else to justify my existence/get decent treatment. I suggest you look into it.

Wow. I mean, I agree with you and everything. (I'm a PP DH.) And I like the way you express yourself. But, project much?

So many things don't fit. Why is your DH playing golf on a Wednesday. And why is your DD going to school in July? Since you've posted this in older kids I assume at least elementary age. Or is this summer school for a high school kid?

Anonymous wrote:School? Or daycare?

Not OP but what difference does it make?

School? Or daycare?

Don't get it. If you are sick why don't you go to bed instead of writing a message/survey. Our opinion is not going to help you.

Hope you recover fast. Hugs

I can only assume you are married to this person because he is your cash cow and you are a SAHM.

To answer your question: fuck no, DH would never, ever make me do drop-off if I was feverish/sick and it was on his way. Double fuck no if it were on the way to a recreational event vs. work.

But then, I'm in an equal marriage and don't have to be a slave to someone else to justify my existence/get decent treatment. I suggest you look into it.

The situation as presented by OP is a no-brainer.

So either the husband is divorce material or there is something the OP has not told us.

Honestly, the right thing would be for your husband to take your daughter to school. But if he would be a brat about it I would just drive her myself. It's just drop off.

This is outrageous, as others have said. You're sick, and your DH can take her to school with only minor inconvenience and NOT miss his tee time. Even if the golf is a work-related thing, this is a no-brainer. If it's not, then it's SUPER OBVIOUS.