Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:41     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am 27 and work away from my husband Mon-Thurs. He's in the last year of his PhD in a small college town . I have to stay in a bigger city Mon-Thursday to work. I'm always exhausted.  On top of that, my employer may be going under and our resources barely stretch as it is. 

My husband is desperate for a baby kids and has been after me to have a baby I have told him I'm not ready .

So fast forward to 4 weeks ago.

We have sex and we usually use condoms.  ALWAYS.  And he knows that so he goes the closet to get a condom. I think he has everything together, including the and condom.  He turns off the light we have sex and then I pass out.

Needless to say I'm pregnant after the one time!! My husband said he's been tricking me for months!!




You have sex with the lights out?


Big deal, many people do. You sound nuts.

I'm certain some people have sex with the lights out sometimes but no, PP doesn't sound nuts. The description of sex in the OP is not something you hear every day.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:40     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thought Muslims don't drink alcohol.


This


I also thought that, but I wasn't sure.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:37     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:Thought Muslims don't drink alcohol.


This
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:36     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .


Why would you quit??? Aren't you the only job?

This marriage is getting worse and worse. Sex is rare, small penis and you've never touched it during sex or BJ. And he's a jerk who tricks you into a pregnancy.


The not touching penis/bj thing is cultural. This is no way to measure my marriage. My husband is a really sweet guy. I think he's just very excited about having a baby.


Congrats OP. this is the first time you've stood up for you DH. If you want this baby and this marriage, you can make it work!

Muslim women don't touch penises or give BJs? I have never heard of this and am curious!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:33     Subject: Husband
Thought Muslims don't drink alcohol.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:33     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am 27 and work away from my husband Mon-Thurs. He's in the last year of his PhD in a small college town . I have to stay in a bigger city Mon-Thursday to work. I'm always exhausted.  On top of that, my employer may be going under and our resources barely stretch as it is. 

My husband is desperate for a baby kids and has been after me to have a baby I have told him I'm not ready .

So fast forward to 4 weeks ago.

We have sex and we usually use condoms.  ALWAYS.  And he knows that so he goes the closet to get a condom. I think he has everything together, including the and condom.  He turns off the light we have sex and then I pass out.

Needless to say I'm pregnant after the one time!! My husband said he's been tricking me for months!!




You have sex with the lights out?


Big deal, many people do. You sound nuts.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:32     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .

I don't blame you for feeling angry. I would too.
where will your financial support come from when you stop working?


I am a flight attendant so things could get tricky once I disclose my pregnancy. I also have to commute a few hours away just to reach my job.


I don't understand why you have to stop working? I was an airline pilot in a previous life and if pilots can be pregnant and fly, I don't see why flight attendants can't. I assume you are part of a collective bargaining unit?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:29     Subject: Husband
I mean, I'm sure he has some redeeming qualities. But don't fool yourself about what he's done here and the lengths he'll go to to get his way.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:28     Subject: Husband
Meanwhile, try not to get too emotional and upset as well. Some studies have shown that this emotion does affect the baby....
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:27     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .


Why would you quit??? Aren't you the only job?

This marriage is getting worse and worse. Sex is rare, small penis and you've never touched it during sex or BJ. And he's a jerk who tricks you into a pregnancy.


The not touching penis/bj thing is cultural. This is no way to measure my marriage. My husband is a really sweet guy. I think he's just very excited about having a baby.

Sweet guys don't trick their wives into having babies.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:26     Subject: Husband
Can we clarify what happened please? Are you saying he 1)didn't wear a condom, 2) poked holes in the condom, 3) the condom failed and no one is to blame?

Condoms aren't 100%. If that was your only birth control, then I'm not sure you can say he tricked you.

I get that you are angry about the surprise pregnancy, and I am sympathetic to that. However, you have some stuff to do now. Get to an OB and start taking prenatal vitamins. Someone else comes first, then deal with your anger.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:24     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .

I don't blame you for feeling angry. I would too.
where will your financial support come from when you stop working?

My husband's job as a teacher's assistant at the university.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:24     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .


Why would you quit??? Aren't you the only job?

This marriage is getting worse and worse. Sex is rare, small penis and you've never touched it during sex or BJ. And he's a jerk who tricks you into a pregnancy.


The not touching penis/bj thing is cultural. This is no way to measure my marriage. My husband is a really sweet guy. I think he's just very excited about having a baby.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:22     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .

I don't blame you for feeling angry. I would too.
where will your financial support come from when you stop working?


I am a flight attendant so things could get tricky once I disclose my pregnancy. I also have to commute a few hours away just to reach my job.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:05     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .

I don't blame you for feeling angry. I would too.
where will your financial support come from when you stop working?