Anonymous wrote:Medication won't help.

If he gets screaming angry over lights dimming from vacuuming, imagine what he will be like when the house gets messy, baby keeps everyone up, things don't go according to HIS way.

No amount of drugs will help that. I know everyone here thinks being doped up on something will make life better but it won't.

Medication can certainly help. She married him for a reason, and we don't know the whole story, but I bet you if he could consistently calm down, it would totally change their dynamic. An SSRI indicated for OCD and anxiety/panic disorders, such as Sertraline, may be just what a doctor will order.

Honey do not bring kids into this marriage or get Pregnant and leave. My DH is like that especially in the morning. He yells at the kids on top of his lungs to get ready and sends them off to school Sad and confused about why they were yelled at.

Anonymous wrote:I thought my SO was a good guy who could be a jerk sometimes, but like you, I now think it's the other way around too. We are engaged and have a baby. Love my child more than anything but definitely regret staying with him after all the red flags I saw along the way before we got here.

+1. He gets therapy twice a week and it has made a huge difference. It's my light at the end of the tunnel. I would honestly honestly say don't have a kid. Really op I'm there now and there is so much I wish I could undo. I wanted to be married so badly that I overlooked the red flags. It's a whole different ballgame with a baby and makes extricating yourself a lot harder.

No. I am always happy to have married my husband. BTW, I consider what your husband did to be abusive. I'd demand therapy and anger management in order to stay with him.

I understand freaking out and yelling when you're scared, but not screaming at the person you purport to love.

Here's a virtual hug OP, straight from So Cal. (((( Hugs ))))



Okay, so I won't tell you to get divorced, but what I can tell you is that living with someone with OCD is pure hell. It is a mental illness so spending all of your time trying to rationalize with the person is just a waste of time and energy.

Your best bet is to encourage your hubby to seek professional help, he should be evaluated and prescribed medication to control both his temper and his OCD.

If he absolutely refuses to do so, then since you won't leave him, you will be stuck in the type of miserable existence that no child should ever be a part of if it can be prevented.

Good luck to you both.