While I was engaged to my DH, my MIL once mentioned I should call her the pet nickname that my FIL calls her. He's the only one who uses it (it's a variation of her middle name) and I was so taken aback that she suggested I use that name. Uh what? It's her husband's sweetheart name for her! I stick to her first name. It came from a good place, but yeah, your first name will be just fine.

One of my good friend's inlaws insist on being mom/dad too. She just doesn't call them anything and it's awkward. Now that they have kids she just uses gma/gpa.

OP, can you have your DH explain to them that it's because you love your own parents so much that you can't think of anyone else having those names?

My IL's refused to come to my wedding if I didn't sign a prenup. Yet, once we married they wanted me to call them mom and dad.
No not happening,

Anonymous wrote:I married into a culture where you call your in-laws Mother and Father. So I now have a Mother, Father, Mom and Dad.

What culture is that?

My SIL asked my mom what she should call her.

My mother: "D----" (her first name)
SIL: "I could never do that! How about Mom?"
My mother: "Well...ok..."

She has told me she's uncomfortable with it. Worse, when introducing my SIL to people, she feels compelled by my SIL not to say daughter IN LAW and has just called her her daughter. It's a weird dynamic. My father doesn't care.

My husband calls my parents by their names and they are fine with it.

I think the whole practice is bizarre. If you and your spouse have the same "Mom" and "Dad" then you are brother and sister.

I am not close to my ILs at all, but it makes DH happy for me to call them mom and dad. He calls my parents mom and dad. There are bigger things to get worked up about.

Anonymous wrote:My Inlaws want to be called mom and dad. Did it for a few years but now I call them grandma and grandpa. Much better.

This... I basically went for years trying to avoid calling them anything because Mom and Dad felt too weird. Once the kids were born I started calling them Yiayia and Papou (we're Greek) which seems to suit all of us perfectly.

My Inlaws want to be called mom and dad. Did it for a few years but now I call them grandma and grandpa. Much better.