Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

That's really patronizing. I am a woman btw. When I lost my job it took me a few months to grapple with my loss of identity..I was basically so down in the dumps even if I went for an interview I probably would not be able to represent myself well. After 8 months I felt alot better and found a job. You all have NO EMPATHY for your husbands what soever.

It took you 8 months to get over a layoff?

I hope nothing real traumatic happens to you in life. You may never recover.

Put your big girl panties on and face reality.

I'm doing just fine thank you. having found a job that paid me even better than before. You on the other hand good luck with your personal relationships with the way and lack of empathy for your supposed love ones.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

That's really patronizing. I am a woman btw. When I lost my job it took me a few months to grapple with my loss of identity..I was basically so down in the dumps even if I went for an interview I probably would not be able to represent myself well. After 8 months I felt alot better and found a job. You all have NO EMPATHY for your husbands what soever.

It took you 8 months to get over a layoff?

I hope nothing real traumatic happens to you in life. You may never recover.

Put your big girl panties on and face reality.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Losing a job is a traumatic event. I'm kind of aghast at how unsupportive you all are of your husbands.

I agree it is a traumatic event. But you should be over the shock within a day or two. Then you put your focus on finding a new job. Spend a few hours each morning searching, applying etc. Then you spend the rest of your day doing things you've wanted to get done while working, working out, enjoying the free time, etc.

But if someone is moping around for weeks and weeks and months about not having a job, they need to grow up and face reality.

I have been laid off a few times. It sucks....but being depressed won't help get you a job. Have some savings, keep your resume updated, and have a plan for when it happens.

That's really patronizing. I am a woman btw. When I lost my job it took me a few months to grapple with my loss of identity..I was basically so down in the dumps even if I went for an interview I probably would not be able to represent myself well. After 8 months I felt alot better and found a job. You all have NO EMPATHY for your husbands what soever.

Anonymous wrote:Here are some tips on keeping yourself sane:

1. Remember that applying for jobs is stressful and draining. Both because it is unpleasant to be unemployed, and because the actual process of filling out a job application is nauseating. He needs some downtime to relax, just like a gainfully employed person does.

2. Try to remember that it is easy to underestimate how long some of the things he is doing actually take. As one example, I am convinced that my wife thinks "Hey can you fix that rocker?" involves me carrying the rocker to the basement, banging a screwdriver against it for five minutes, and then taking it back upstairs. Actually, it involves carrying the rocker, disassembling it, searching for the correct tools, discovering that one of the washers is broken, driving to the hardware store and rooting through bins for the correct washer, buying it, bringing it home, re-assembling the rocker, carrying it back upstairs, cleaning up the tools, and then washing the shirt that I accidentally stained with oil. To be clear, I am not suggesting he's a martyr or anything, just that this perspective might make it somewhat easier for you to swallow if he later doesn't start the dishwasher.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

That's really patronizing. I am a woman btw. When I lost my job it took me a few months to grapple with my loss of identity..I was basically so down in the dumps even if I went for an interview I probably would not be able to represent myself well. After 8 months I felt alot better and found a job. You all have NO EMPATHY for your husbands what soever.

It took you 8 months to get over a layoff?

I hope nothing real traumatic happens to you in life. You may never recover.

Put your big girl panties on and face reality.

Anonymous wrote:

That's really patronizing. I am a woman btw. When I lost my job it took me a few months to grapple with my loss of identity..I was basically so down in the dumps even if I went for an interview I probably would not be able to represent myself well. After 8 months I felt alot better and found a job. You all have NO EMPATHY for your husbands what soever.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Losing a job is a traumatic event. I'm kind of aghast at how unsupportive you all are of your husbands.

I agree it is a traumatic event. But you should be over the shock within a day or two. Then you put your focus on finding a new job. Spend a few hours each morning searching, applying etc. Then you spend the rest of your day doing things you've wanted to get done while working, working out, enjoying the free time, etc.

But if someone is moping around for weeks and weeks and months about not having a job, they need to grow up and face reality.

I have been laid off a few times. It sucks....but being depressed won't help get you a job. Have some savings, keep your resume updated, and have a plan for when it happens.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:unemployed for more than a month is unacceptable

Have you looked for a job lately? It sometimes takes 3-4 months to get through a single hiring process. Three interviews is not unusual these days. Certainly you can and should aim to be in multiple processes at once but it takes time. And if you end up as a finalist but not selected you are back at the beginning trying to network and get yourself into other processes. Then once elected sometimes you have to wait for security clearances.

Anonymous wrote:unemployed for more than a month is unacceptable

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Losing a job is a traumatic event. I'm kind of aghast at how unsupportive you all are of your husbands.

I agree it is a traumatic event. But you should be over the shock within a day or two. Then you put your focus on finding a new job. Spend a few hours each morning searching, applying etc. Then you spend the rest of your day doing things you've wanted to get done while working, working out, enjoying the free time, etc.

But if someone is moping around for weeks and weeks and months about not having a job, they need to grow up and face reality.

I have been laid off a few times. It sucks....but being depressed won't help get you a job. Have some savings, keep your resume updated, and have a plan for when it happens.

I have known dozens of people who have been laid off or between jobs or couldn't get a job right out of school. Nobody is upbeat all the time or even half of the time. Nobody sets a goal of applying to at least five jobs per day and sticks to it. It is well and good to say people should do that. Nobody does it in reality so expecting them to is ridiculous.

(And if your response is "well I did!" please include your address so I can mail you a medal).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Losing a job is a traumatic event. I'm kind of aghast at how unsupportive you all are of your husbands.

I agree it is a traumatic event. But you should be over the shock within a day or two. Then you put your focus on finding a new job. Spend a few hours each morning searching, applying etc. Then you spend the rest of your day doing things you've wanted to get done while working, working out, enjoying the free time, etc.

But if someone is moping around for weeks and weeks and months about not having a job, they need to grow up and face reality.

I have been laid off a few times. It sucks....but being depressed won't help get you a job. Have some savings, keep your resume updated, and have a plan for when it happens.

Anonymous wrote:Here are some tips on keeping yourself sane:

1. Remember that applying for jobs is stressful and draining. Both because it is unpleasant to be unemployed, and because the actual process of filling out a job application is nauseating. He needs some downtime to relax, just like a gainfully employed person does.

2. Try to remember that it is easy to underestimate how long some of the things he is doing actually take. As one example, I am convinced that my wife thinks "Hey can you fix that rocker?" involves me carrying the rocker to the basement, banging a screwdriver against it for five minutes, and then taking it back upstairs. Actually, it involves carrying the rocker, disassembling it, searching for the correct tools, discovering that one of the washers is broken, driving to the hardware store and rooting through bins for the correct washer, buying it, bringing it home, re-assembling the rocker, carrying it back upstairs, cleaning up the tools, and then washing the shirt that I accidentally stained with oil. To be clear, I am not suggesting he's a martyr or anything, just that this perspective might make it somewhat easier for you to swallow if he later doesn't start the dishwasher.

Anonymous wrote:Losing a job is a traumatic event. I'm kind of aghast at how unsupportive you all are of your husbands.