Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and DH is 46, and I think this is the perfect age difference. In college/grad school, I was asked out by a few guys my age or a year or two younger, and I was never attracted to that. I used to think there was something desperate about girls who dated younger guys; I felt sorry for those girls.
That's funny because many would say a woman with a handsome younger man and a nice career is winning. I certainly would. I'm 32 and would prefer 28-31 over 40+ by a loooong margin.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Serious question - why would ANY remotely desirable man marry a woman 5+ years older? Screw, sure. But marry? A 30 year old man with a 35 year old woman has to rush to have kids and missed all her hot years. Any man with options would prefer a 25 year old.
Would you marry a 10 who is five years order? I sure as hell would.
We're not talking about a "10". We're talking about normal people. There really isn't much of a reason why a desirable man would marry a woman 4-5 years older. Why can't he get someone his age to a few years younger, like most men?
There's always a reason. I know guys who married older. Decent guys, but had issues that prevented them from attracting women their age.
There really isnt much of a reason why a dude WOULDNT marry a woman 5 years older. It's not a huge gap. Just because other men do something, doesn't mean every guy has to...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and DH is 46, and I think this is the perfect age difference. In college/grad school, I was asked out by a few guys my age or a year or two younger, and I was never attracted to that. I used to think there was something desperate about girls who dated younger guys; I felt sorry for those girls.
That's funny because many would say a woman with a handsome younger man and a nice career is winning. I certainly would. I'm 32 and would prefer 28-31 over 40+ by a loooong margin.
I agree; I don't get why someone would feel sorry with someone a couple years younger. I actually assume that women dating men significantly older couldn't find anyone around their age and had to go to old dudes.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Serious question - why would ANY remotely desirable man marry a woman 5+ years older? Screw, sure. But marry? A 30 year old man with a 35 year old woman has to rush to have kids and missed all her hot years. Any man with options would prefer a 25 year old.
Would you marry a 10 who is five years order? I sure as hell would.
We're not talking about a "10". We're talking about normal people. There really isn't much of a reason why a desirable man would marry a woman 4-5 years older. Why can't he get someone his age to a few years younger, like most men?
There's always a reason. I know guys who married older. Decent guys, but had issues that prevented them from attracting women their age.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Notice that all of the young guys mentioned here are making good money and have good careers. That's why they were deemed acceptable.
I'm not seeing any examples of women who married younger guys because he was "so pretty" and sweet, even though he didn't really have much of a career. But men do that all the time. Women usually have zero interest in LTRs with men who don't have some kind of career.
All things being equal, young is better than old, but men in their 30s and 40s are more likely to have a decent career going then men in their 20s.
Sure, but why would a guy making six figures in his late 20s marry a girl four years older instead of one four years younger? It's not like a good looking, high-earning 28 year old guy can't get an attractive woman between 24-27. Why would he pick a 32 year old, unless there's an issue we don't know about?
Seriously?!? Maybe because the guy really fell in love withe the "older" women. I don't think it really matters when you are talking about a 4 or 5 year age gap. As long as the women is still young enough to have children, I don't think most men really care if she is a bit older. Just my two cents
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Serious question - why would ANY remotely desirable man marry a woman 5+ years older? Screw, sure. But marry? A 30 year old man with a 35 year old woman has to rush to have kids and missed all her hot years. Any man with options would prefer a 25 year old.
Would you marry a 10 who is five years order? I sure as hell would.
Anonymous wrote:Serious question - why would ANY remotely desirable man marry a woman 5+ years older? Screw, sure. But marry? A 30 year old man with a 35 year old woman has to rush to have kids and missed all her hot years. Any man with options would prefer a 25 year old.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Notice that all of the young guys mentioned here are making good money and have good careers. That's why they were deemed acceptable.
I'm not seeing any examples of women who married younger guys because he was "so pretty" and sweet, even though he didn't really have much of a career. But men do that all the time. Women usually have zero interest in LTRs with men who don't have some kind of career.
All things being equal, young is better than old, but men in their 30s and 40s are more likely to have a decent career going then men in their 20s.
Sure, but why would a guy making six figures in his late 20s marry a girl four years older instead of one four years younger? It's not like a good looking, high-earning 28 year old guy can't get an attractive woman between 24-27. Why would he pick a 32 year old, unless there's an issue we don't know about?
Seriously?!? Maybe because the guy really fell in love withe the "older" women. I don't think it really matters when you are talking about a 4 or 5 year age gap. As long as the women is still young enough to have children, I don't think most men really care if she is a bit older. Just my two cents
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and DH is 46, and I think this is the perfect age difference. In college/grad school, I was asked out by a few guys my age or a year or two younger, and I was never attracted to that. I used to think there was something desperate about girls who dated younger guys; I felt sorry for those girls.
That's funny because many would say a woman with a handsome younger man and a nice career is winning. I certainly would. I'm 32 and would prefer 28-31 over 40+ by a loooong margin.
A woman with a handsome older man doesn't even need a "career"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Notice that all of the young guys mentioned here are making good money and have good careers. That's why they were deemed acceptable.
I'm not seeing any examples of women who married younger guys because he was "so pretty" and sweet, even though he didn't really have much of a career. But men do that all the time. Women usually have zero interest in LTRs with men who don't have some kind of career.
All things being equal, young is better than old, but men in their 30s and 40s are more likely to have a decent career going then men in their 20s.
Sure, but why would a guy making six figures in his late 20s marry a girl four years older instead of one four years younger? It's not like a good looking, high-earning 28 year old guy can't get an attractive woman between 24-27. Why would he pick a 32 year old, unless there's an issue we don't know about?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and DH is 46, and I think this is the perfect age difference. In college/grad school, I was asked out by a few guys my age or a year or two younger, and I was never attracted to that. I used to think there was something desperate about girls who dated younger guys; I felt sorry for those girls.
That's funny because many would say a woman with a handsome younger man and a nice career is winning. I certainly would. I'm 32 and would prefer 28-31 over 40+ by a loooong margin.
Anonymous wrote:Notice that all of the young guys mentioned here are making good money and have good careers. That's why they were deemed acceptable.
I'm not seeing any examples of women who married younger guys because he was "so pretty" and sweet, even though he didn't really have much of a career. But men do that all the time. Women usually have zero interest in LTRs with men who don't have some kind of career.
All things being equal, young is better than old, but men in their 30s and 40s are more likely to have a decent career going then men in their 20s.