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FWIW, I hear you and completely agree that this is highly inappropriate.

Why is it highly inappropriate? Most likely the high school junior is 17, and the college sophomore is 20.

Or perhaps still 19.

This is much ado about nothing.

I was thinking the same thing. With a late Oct bday DS will be 17 by the spring of his junior year. I have an August bday so I was 19 spring of my sophomore year in college.

Barely 2 years. unless she is old for her grade and he young. Then 3 year by may of their junior yea or so. Still not a big deal if they really got along.

I have to wonder how his GF never came up when the met last weekend.

It could even be LESS than a 2 year difference. With so much redshirting of boys these days in the DC area, a lot of boys (young men, really) are either already 18 (or within a couple of months of turning 18) by May of junior year in high school. Meanwhile, there are a lot of college students (mostly females) who are still 19 the May at the end of their sophomore year in college ( some are still a few months -- or more-- away from turning 20.

OP, how old is your son (& are you certain as to whether or not this young woman knows his real age)? Do you know how old she is? There's a big difference, IMO, between a 20-year-old (or almost 20-year-old, for that matter) asking a 16-year-old out & a 19-year-old (or newly 20-year-old)asking an 18-year-old ( or almost 18-year-old) out!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


FWIW, I hear you and completely agree that this is highly inappropriate.

Why is it highly inappropriate? Most likely the high school junior is 17, and the college sophomore is 20.

Or perhaps still 19.

This is much ado about nothing.

I was thinking the same thing. With a late Oct bday DS will be 17 by the spring of his junior year. I have an August bday so I was 19 spring of my sophomore year in college.
Barely 2 years. unless she is old for her grade and he young. Then 3 year or so. Still not a big deal if they really got along.

I have to wonder how his GF never came up when the met last weekend.

This really does not seem like a big deal to me. I certainly would not call it predatory. They ARE in the same age group. They would have been in high school at the same time for a year. When I was a HS freshman, I dated seniors. I started dating a college freshman when i was a sophomore. We dated for almost 6 years. He went to school dances with me and everything. This was very common in my school. The boys my age, and even a year older, just seemed very immature. I could see where a girl would be turned off by guys in the college scene since they are constantly partying. especially if she is not into the college partying scene and is more interested in close, meaningful relationships.

OP, more info would be nice. Is your son charming and drop dead gorgeous? Might he have lied about his age? Where did they meet? Do they have common interests? What is his age and what is her age? All we know is that they are 3 years apart in school. If he is among the oldest in his class and she is among the youngest, They could be just over a year apart in age. Even if they are 3 years apart, this is not alarming.

Give the girl a chance, OP!

Anonymous wrote:You son is probably gorgeous and a charming guy. That trumps pretty much everything - age and educational "status" included. I know - I am a female sophomore (now rising junior) at Georgetown. If I met a beautiful and charming almost high school senior, I would ask him out too.

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