Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not the OP, but I don't get it.

Say I wanted to see my ex, and I went by his house.
Why is it a criminal act? I'm not threatening anyone. I didn't go to see her. How can this even hold in court?

OP is leaving out huge details here. She's probably been charged with violating a TRO--but just doesn't want to fess up to the mob here. Because then driving by the house even once could violate a distance restriction. That's probably what's really going on here. In which case, yes you are fucked OP. There surely were other ways for you to get to your interviews that were conveniently located near your ex-AP's home--the judge will ream you. Is this in DC Superior Court? Which Judge?

+1

Hoist'd on her own petard.

The wife has boiled your bunny

Wife set up cameras and caught OP driving by the house violating the TRO (Defendant is temporarily restrained from coming within 500 ft of complainant's residence). etc. You're going down, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Not the OP, but I don't get it.

Say I wanted to see my ex, and I went by his house.
Why is it a criminal act? I'm not threatening anyone. I didn't go to see her. How can this even hold in court?

OP is leaving out huge details here. She's probably been charged with violating a TRO--but just doesn't want to fess up to the mob here. Because then driving by the house even once could violate a distance restriction. That's probably what's really going on here. In which case, yes you are fucked OP. There surely were other ways for you to get to your interviews that were conveniently located near your ex-AP's home--the judge will ream you. Is this in DC Superior Court? Which Judge?

Anonymous wrote:Not the OP, but I don't get it.

Say I wanted to see my ex, and I went by his house.
Why is it a criminal act? I'm not threatening anyone. I didn't go to see her. How can this even hold in court?

I'm the Pp who filed a peace order these are my thoughts. I was repeatedly asked how my stalker was threatening. What were his exact words and or actions. This story doesn't make sense. They dont just hand out court dates.

Where do you live Op?

Not the OP, but I don't get it.

Say I wanted to see my ex, and I went by his house.
Why is it a criminal act? I'm not threatening anyone. I didn't go to see her. How can this even hold in court?

I agree. OP is there more to this that you are not telling us? Past instances where you were harassing or behaved inappropriately?

Anonymous wrote:Not op, but you'd be amazed what you can figure out online through social media, LinkedIn, Google, etc. if she had op's name, she could probably figure out a lot.

Not her car and license plate # though.

Not the OP, but I don't get it.

Say I wanted to see my ex, and I went by his house.
Why is it a criminal act? I'm not threatening anyone. I didn't go to see her. How can this even hold in court?

Anonymous wrote:I ended an affair in December. My affair partners wife found out about the affair and called me and said horrible things to me (justifiable). I have not spoken or talked to my ex affair partner since January 5th.
Just this last week I was served a temporary restraining order because according to the documents, She stated I drove by their house on February 4th. I unknowingly drove by their residence on my way to job interview. I have printed the email exchange between me and my potential employer where they asked me to come in several times for an interview.

Court is on Friday.

1) Why did she just NOW file a restraining order against me?
2) What do you think the judge will think of people filing something this late in the year?

Tia

You are a lowlife and you deserve this. Take your medicine OP

I didn't mean to be rude. I'm not sure, but I think it wouldn't have the same implications as would criminal charges. Care to comment, lawyers?

Wow PP you are really not knowledgable and should not comment. A restraining order is a very serious matter. OP you should retain counsel.

This is very good advice.

1. DO NOT fail to show up. You got notice so you can be there to defend yourself. If you're not there, the judge only hears her side. Anything could happen.
2. Take whatever evidence you have with you. (Letter from potential employer, schedule planner, whatever else you have ....) These things move fast and informally. If you don't have it with you, it doesn't exist.
3. Different jurisdictions are different, and I only know about DC. In DC, in domestic violence court, you do need to have some kind of relationship between the person seeking the order and the person they're seeking it against. Since it appears that doesn't exist here, this should get thrown out of DV court, but you want to be there to be sure. (See #1.) To get a stay-away order against you in DC, APW would have to go to civil division, not DV court. (PP called this a peace order -- same thing, not sure what they're calling it these days in DC or other jurisdictions.) Civil division moves just a bit more slowly than DV, but the same general advice applies.

In order for someone to file a restraining order against you there has to be some sort of relationship or you have had to live together.

Do you mean she filed a peace order?
Either the wife is lying or you're.
I filed a peace order against a stalker last year and he had been harassing me for months. They were only interested in what he had done in the past month or week I forget which one.
I filled out paperwork.
If you drove past their house and said nothing and she told them this they would not have served you. That's bullshit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread wasn't created to show my remorse or lack of. It was to address the issue at hand. This wasn't a thread to be attacked or my personal character judged. It was just a thread to ask a simple question about TRO's. That has been answered. Thank you

This thread is good for you since it will help you realize the questions the judge may have.

Unless their house is on a deadend street with the potential employer at the end of the deadend you had another way to go.

Start there because if the potential employer is by their house you are now in a while different realm of shit.

No judge now, in the age of the Internet, thinks you don't have any idea where his house is. Drop that line too.

+1 nobody with a pulse would buy that BS.