Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 19:43     Subject: Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 19:06     Subject: Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

Anonymous wrote:

Sex will NOT sustain a relationship. I have seen a number of marriages that failed and they said the main area they were compatible in was sex. If you truly want to know how to have a successful 2nd marriage journal the first marriage. See what was good and what wasn't. And if you don't know what men want in a relationship...and there is no absolute to that...then how about reading on it to better understand men. BUT, you will need to get to know the man you are serious about. Communication is far more important than sex.



Being able to talk and understand each other is important, but I wouldn't go so far as to say it's *far* more important than sex. If I had to bet, I'd bet that there are more miserable marriages featuring plenty of communication and no sex than miserable marriages featuring plenty of sex and no communication.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 17:27     Subject: Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

A prenup
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 16:31     Subject: Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm on my second wife. She's very athletic and we have sex a few times a week. I couldn't be happier and I do everything I can to make sure she's happy as well.


She stays at home, doesn't she? Helps also if you stop at one kid.


No, she's our primary breadwinner. We both have professional careers but she earns 2-3x what I do depending on the year. We do have only one child.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 13:42     Subject: Re:Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

I am a happily married wife # 1, and I concur with what most of these men are saying. For men sex feeds the love and for women love feeds the sex. Our marriage is great for many reasons but I also think that our compatibility in the bedroom plays a huge role. We both are high libido people and sex connects us as a couple. Outside of the bedroom, very often we are busy being a parent, spouse, friend, worker etc., it is only in the bedroom that you have the opportunity to be passionate lovers.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 13:42     Subject: Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

Anonymous wrote:I'm on my second wife. She's very athletic and we have sex a few times a week. I couldn't be happier and I do everything I can to make sure she's happy as well.


She stays at home, doesn't she? Helps also if you stop at one kid.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 13:39     Subject: Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Sex it is, overwhelmingly. Thanks, guys.


It is sex, but it's also what sex represents to a lot of men. I think some women fundamentally don't understand how sex ties into a man's feeling of being loved. It's not just chasing an orgasm. When a man's been with an asexual wife, he's been without love for a long period of time.


That's how I feel, and I'm the wife. Sex means love to some of us, too.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 13:39     Subject: Re:Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

Anonymous wrote:A woman that would be try-sexual... She'll try anything sexual.

Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 13:35     Subject: Men, what are you looking for in a second wife?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I really like my first wife, but if I was looking for a second wife, I would want someone with a lot of wealth, a high income and a job that has her traveling a lot.




President Clintom, what are you doing on this forum?