OP, why are you so tense that you have to start trying for your second kid NOW at all costs? Was your DH dragging his feet about having a second and you want to be sure you conceive before he changes his mind? Do you imagine that there is some "perfect" age difference between the two kids that will automatically prevent all sibling rivalry? (hint hint, there isn't).

Please get some perpective here. You are so tense you are going to give your poor DH performance anxiety.

Send both sets of grandparents out with DC for dinner and ice cream.

House is being painted. Will be using odorous paints.

Your parents will be there too, right? Tell them you prefer to entertain each set separately. Ask them to pick another week.

The truth works too. The probably want another grandkid and you and DH will help them along to that goal.

do it in the bathroom with the shower running.

Run some fans OP, or put the tv on loud? Really not a big deal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So basically OP you don't want to tell them the truth and you can't make up a little white lie.

??

Sure, I can make one up, and have. I just thought maybe there were more creatives one out there I wasn't thinking of. But it sounds like most people wouldn't even bother because they don't care if people hear them have sex and/or don't care about flat out telling people that they are going to be having sex. I guess I am a prude. Good to know.

Well now you know OP. This isn't as big a deal as you are making it. I can understand not wanting anyone to hear you having sex, but not wanting them to know its even happening? And you are already married and have a child? C'mon. Unless you are concerned they'll be pests about it and keep asking for your pregnancy status later, telling them that you are TTC or just being quiet or even having sex in the shower is just not a big deal.

Anonymous wrote:bedbugs

Hilarious! And genius.

Anonymous wrote:OMG! Really? Just be quiet.

+1

Trying to be quiet is super hot sometimes.

i think you should just ask them if they mind babysitting (surely they'd love to, right?) and you and your husband go out and rent a hotel room for a couple hours...or ask them to take your kid out to the zoo/park/a museum, etc. and you have the house to yourself for a bit. when they come visit, do they typically do some of the cooking (i ask bc my in-laws and parents always do when they visit)..if so, while they're cooking, you and DH sneak away...

I think being oddly vague would be best. "On this trip, could you please stay with BIL? It's not a good time for us to have overnight visitors." If they ask why, just say "We'd rather not get into details, and we can't wait to see you, it's just not a good time for overnight visitors.". Repeat as needed...

renovations or plumbing problem. carpet cleaning?

My parents visit also fell right on a TTC day and I felt the same way as you. Send them out on an errand or a walk. My parents went on a walk I and attacked DH - LOL! And it worked. So DD was conceived with my parents in town. Just be creative and figure out a way to get a small amount of time alone.

8:97 here again. Forgot to say that I totally get where you're coming from, OP! When my in-laws are visiting, I'm just NOT in the mood for sexy time!

Tell them the truth and tell them you don't want them to ask questions in future about "how's it going?" and "any pregnancy update?"

OP you are so stressed over this whole thing you aren't going to conceive anyway, you'll be too uptight.