I hope OP can try being less defensive and hear what people are saying. We get that you're moving out soon, the thing is you needed to do that 1-3 years ago, and especially once grandpa started kidnapping your kid, sorry, your wife's kid, from her own bed. HELLO.

Thus, you are definitely not smart enough to sockpuppet... concentrate on what you need to and less on arguing with anonymous people (who you asked for advice) on a public messageboard.

My very first thought after reading the OP's post was that the grandfather was molesting his stepdaughter. Get out ASAP and maybe have a professional talk with her to find out if anything horrible happened.

I feel so bad for that child.

My god, you are letting a DRUNK (your words) old man sleep with the child every night. A man you describe as OBSESSIVE. Someone who bribes the child with treats.

Do you know the first thing about child predators OP? Even the first damn thing? What in the world is wrong with you?

I bet you thought Michael Jackson was a slightly eccentric Peter Pan type who loved children and was sorely misunderstood, right OP?