Anonymous wrote:I'm married to the not-favorite. He knows it and I know it. The dynamic of clear favoritism, with its undercurrent of rejection, hurts kids and I think they carry it with them always, no matter how old and successful they are.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DH is the favorite of his parents and his sister is mostly OK with it except that their Mom set up their trusts so that DH is the trustee of his own and SIL has the bank as her trustee. I stayed FAR away from that issue. On the other hand, SIL's firstborn is the favorite grandchild. Her son is all my MIL talks about. Not interested in ours in the least.
This is common. MIL favors her daughter's children over her son's.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband is the eldest son and most successful financially. My inlaws are definitely the most proud of him.
However, my sister in law, who also has a very good career, is super needy emotionally and has them wrapped around her finger. When she says jump, they say how high?
+1
Same here. I think mil sees sil as more needy, so mil caters to her more.
Anonymous wrote:My husband is the eldest son and most successful financially. My inlaws are definitely the most proud of him.
However, my sister in law, who also has a very good career, is super needy emotionally and has them wrapped around her finger. When she says jump, they say how high?
Anonymous wrote:My SIL is the favorite (youngest, only girl, vivacious) and revels in it; my BIL milks it. She is super friendly and generous... as long as everyone cooperates with her being the top of the pecking order.
e.g. Not 15 minutes after loving on my infant daughter and saying how much she loved her, her own 3yo DD (the Heir to the Favorite) woke up from her nap and came into the room so SIL forced her parents to stop holding the baby because it would hurt her DD's feelings to see them holding someone who wasn't her.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was married to the favorite (the baby) and it made our relationship harder because his mom never thought he did anything wrong ever (even watching porn at work).
I am now marrying a least favorite child (FMIL's darkest son) and nicest thing is that she prefers not to see us often.
Wait, what? You're marrying your brother-in-law??