Well, you asked and it seems to be a rare DCUM consensus that the party is far more important. I agree. I'm not sure why you think it's so very important to be at the transfer; this will have no bearing on any relationship you have with your (hopefully) 3rd child.

Your grandfather's celebration is way more important.

Anonymous wrote:I'm incredulous that people are saying "go to the party" given what you have been through. I am guessing they have no experience with IVF or infertility.

To me, it's a huge bummer you have to miss the party. THat said, maybe the cycle will change at the last minute. is it far enough way that you can't do both (guessing the procedure itself is very brief)?

Bwahaha. I've dealt with pretty crushing infertility and multiple rounds of IVF and I wouldn't for a second think of missing the party. Any event where your extended family gets together is so worth going to - it doesn't happen enough and the next time it happens it could be a funeral. Plus, infertility does have that tendency to take over your life when you are going through - so try to fight back. Plus, being a third child is a HUGE difference from primary or even secondary infertility. Really.