^let me rephrase to clarify: not a parent in a same sex relationship. I am heatero, actually.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

The belief that children need a same-sex parent to bond with is ridiculously outdated and absurd.

Oh, I get it now. I bet you are a same sex marriage or single parent by design.

Whatever your situation is, I hope your kid has SOME sort of same sex role model in her or her life, the outcome for them will be statistically much better. It's a pity that you choose to ignore the research, because it does not conveniently fit into your choices.

I am not a same sex parent. But I still find this line of thinking to be totally ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

The belief that children need a same-sex parent to bond with is ridiculously outdated and absurd.

Incarceration rates don't lie.

But they are influenced by a multitude of actors, most importantly the average much lower income of single moms.

Don't be lazy. The research is there across all SES groups. Sorry it does not fit into your fantasy of what is going on under your roof (or might I say what is NOT going on under your roof, which is clearly an available father).

If your standards are so low that you seriously think there is a good chance your sons are going to end up incarcerated- then yes, for God's sake, please do get someone else involved in their lives. Because you need any help you can get.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

The belief that children need a same-sex parent to bond with is ridiculously outdated and absurd.

Incarceration rates don't lie.

But they are influenced by a multitude of actors, most importantly the average much lower income of single moms.

Don't be lazy. The research is there across all SES groups. Sorry it does not fit into your fantasy of what is going on under your roof (or might I say what is NOT going on under your roof, which is clearly an available father).

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

The belief that children need a same-sex parent to bond with is ridiculously outdated and absurd.

Oh, I get it now. I bet you are a same sex marriage or single parent by design.

Whatever your situation is, I hope your kid has SOME sort of same sex role model in her or her life, the outcome for them will be statistically much better. It's a pity that you choose to ignore the research, because it does not conveniently fit into your choices.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

The belief that children need a same-sex parent to bond with is ridiculously outdated and absurd.

Incarceration rates don't lie.

But they are influenced by a multitude of actors, most importantly the average much lower income of single moms.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

The belief that children need a same-sex parent to bond with is ridiculously outdated and absurd.

Incarceration rates don't lie.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

The belief that children need a same-sex parent to bond with is ridiculously outdated and absurd.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Quite opposite, that thought is the actual antithesis of patriarchal ideas of gender.

Sorry to unnerve you with the facts. Maybe your kids can make an appointment with dad next month.

Yes, even though we are in a very rough patch I know my husband appreciates me staying home. He works a non-traditional schedule and really loves that he gets to see his son whenever he's home which he wouldn't be able to do if I had to take him to daycare in the morning. I would like to go back to work but have decided to wait a little longer because it would make my life exponentially harder and my son and DH would suffer too.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

Anyone else pick up the humor here?

I love posts like this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

Could you have missed the point any more?

Is that you, Chandler?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

Could you have missed the point any more?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.

I have read about it, and that school of thought is incredibly outdated and based on patriarchal ideas of gender.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. But we have two under two and he works 90 hours a week. He is well aware of the fact that he would need to cut way back at work if I didn't stay home and he doesn't want to do that.

Wow that is really sad.

I guess neither of you think having a father is important for children.

I SAH, but yea, no, my kids need a dad. He's just as important in their lives (maybe more important because I have boys) as I am.

Ugh, why would a father be more important than a mother? Especially when the mother is spending the majority of her time with the kids?

You have some very outdated ideas about gender, my friend.

read about parental bonding with same sex parent. I'm not gonna spell it out for you.