F this.

Anonymous wrote:Boots with a heel.
Yoga pants for around the house/casual
Dresses & skirts
Longer hair - no mommy bobs.
Shirts that show cleavage or highlight your boobs.
Unexpected sexual initiations.
Enthusiasm about sex.
Tell jokes and laugh.

Don't be fat -- this doesn't mean be skinny or perfect, just steer clear of obesity.

Whatever weight you are - be comfortable with it. Avoid body image issues.

Give unsolicited back scratches.

Smell good.

Shower.

Wear shiny jewelry.

Keep tattoos to a minimum.

That's off the top of my head.

Did I somehow forget writing this?

listen - not just hear what you want to her or what you "think" we meant

you're not my mother so don't treat me like a child.

we are equal partners so if something is not done to your definition of perfection, so be it.

make an effort to be alluring, sexy - e.g., no grannie panties, no PJs that a grandparent would wear.

PDA - yes, we love it and for no other reason other than you're just hot for me.

compassion - so if I'm stressed out that is not the time to hit me with a to-do list or a barrage of criticism.

above all - be that confident happy and fun and open minded woman I fell in love with.

Anonymous wrote:I am really quite bald. Always have had very thin hair It sucks, used to be very conscious about it, but am much more relaxed in my late; Tell me guys, is the lack of lustrous hair a serious turnoff?

I actually am a fan of short, pixie-ish haircuts on women. If you can pull that off, then it's not a big deal. My hairline is nothing to write home about either.

Boots with a heel.
Yoga pants for around the house/casual
Dresses & skirts
Longer hair - no mommy bobs.
Shirts that show cleavage or highlight your boobs.
Unexpected sexual initiations.
Enthusiasm about sex.
Tell jokes and laugh.

Don't be fat -- this doesn't mean be skinny or perfect, just steer clear of obesity.

Whatever weight you are - be comfortable with it. Avoid body image issues.

Give unsolicited back scratches.

Smell good.

Shower.

Wear shiny jewelry.

Keep tattoos to a minimum.

That's off the top of my head.

I am really quite bald. Always have had very thin hair It sucks, used to be very conscious about it, but am much more relaxed in my late; Tell me guys, is the lack of lustrous hair a serious turnoff?

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Anonymous wrote:I hate threads like this. What the hell are you thinking? Women don't exist to please men.

Here's what you're going to get: Be thin! Don't nag! Blow jobs every day! Wear high heels! Shorter skirts! No sweatpants! Do that awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight!

--happily married to man who wanted an equal partner, not a decorative Stepford wife.

Doubt a man wrote this post. More like a woman who imagines what a man would say. Most men just want a woman how takes care of herself and is happy and loving. "That awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight"?? I don't notice what style my wife's hair is in 90% of the time. But I do know when she's smiling and laughing, and I love coming home to that.

That poster didn't say she was a man, she said she was married to a man.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate threads like this. What the hell are you thinking? Women don't exist to please men.

Here's what you're going to get: Be thin! Don't nag! Blow jobs every day! Wear high heels! Shorter skirts! No sweatpants! Do that awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight!

--happily married to man who wanted an equal partner, not a decorative Stepford wife.

Doubt a man wrote this post. More like a woman who imagines what a man would say. Most men just want a woman how takes care of herself and is happy and loving. "That awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight"?? I don't notice what style my wife's hair is in 90% of the time. But I do know when she's smiling and laughing, and I love coming home to that.

"who" not "how".

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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone seriously answer OPs question? First, assume no one is nagging, then . . .

Those *are* serious answers: be nice and don't get out-of-shape. That's truly is most of it. Men are very simple.

If you are an out-of-shape nag, it will not matter that you got your hair done, and a mani/pedi, or are wearing perfume, or a nice dress, or use x brand make-up vs y brand make-up.

I am in shape and generally nice, but wanted to take it up a notch. Without asking, so he doesn't know what hit him.

I honestly am not sure. I would have to think about it.

A woman who fulfills the first two criteria is basically a unicorn, so I'm not used to having the luxury of thinking of a #3.

Go back to enjoying your parents' basement, bitter misogynist.

Fatty and/or nag detected.

Wrong on both counts. Again, enjoy the basement.

Anonymous wrote:I hate threads like this. What the hell are you thinking? Women don't exist to please men.

Here's what you're going to get: Be thin! Don't nag! Blow jobs every day! Wear high heels! Shorter skirts! No sweatpants! Do that awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight!

--happily married to man who wanted an equal partner, not a decorative Stepford wife.

Doubt a man wrote this post. More like a woman who imagines what a man would say. Most men just want a woman how takes care of herself and is happy and loving. "That awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight"?? I don't notice what style my wife's hair is in 90% of the time. But I do know when she's smiling and laughing, and I love coming home to that.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't understand women who know they can make little tweaks in their life to make their man happier but choose not to. I'm not talking about changing your personality or get 5 plastic surgeries, I'm referring to being open to the idea of wanting to please your husband.

I'm too old fashioned, perhaps. I love dressing up for my husband sometimes, just so he can look at me anew and realize what a hottie I am. I like to occasionally treat him to a nice home cooked meal after a long day at work. I want to please him and make him happy since he does so much for me all the time.

9:35 here. I actually do dress up for my husband for date nights and stuff like that, both because he likes it and because I like it. If I hated blowing out my hair and putting on heels, I wouldn't do it. I also do things to please my husband, like making a fire in the fireplace every night before he gets home because he loves it. But those are things tailored to what my husband likes and what brings me joy to do, and the anonymous collective of DCUM can't really tell those things about two specific individuals.

I make my husband and me happy by working out 5x a day, cook for us, looking well presented, helping out his job by networking with his boss and colleagues, have a good handle on my job and office, and help organize the house, our lives and kids.

Smile. Don't raise your voice at me. Be assertive but not confrontational. Don't force me to change because it won't work. Be involved in things other than us: your career, your friends, your hobbies, etc. Be aware of the world and your immense privilege.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't understand women who know they can make little tweaks in their life to make their man happier but choose not to. I'm not talking about changing your personality or get 5 plastic surgeries, I'm referring to being open to the idea of wanting to please your husband.

I'm too old fashioned, perhaps. I love dressing up for my husband sometimes, just so he can look at me anew and realize what a hottie I am. I like to occasionally treat him to a nice home cooked meal after a long day at work. I want to please him and make him happy since he does so much for me all the time.

You sound like a nice person.

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Anonymous wrote:Make me feel like I'm the most important guy in your life and that you're grateful for our marriage and the years committed to our family.

Translation: stop telling me I'm not fun whenever you're annoyed with me. Stop telling your friends that your marriage is a series of sacrifices. Recognize that your daily indulgence of your online crush is disrespectful to me and it makes me insecure.

You're beautiful. I love you. Stop dismissing my feelings.

oh love this!

What do you love about this post? I only see a lot of hurt in it.