Are you going to leave him?

OP here. Another great turn of events. You'll really think I'm a troll now. I rarely use the home computer. I turn it on and the recent sites are displayed. Low and behold, three of the sites are Craigslist missed connections and casual encounters. Really. He says he was just looking. I love that my own husband shows no effort to sleep with me but is on sketchy websites, including porn. Now I'm really not having a baby.

Anonymous wrote:Let's stop reading and contributing to this crazy post. This seems like a made up story...

Yeah this seems like a weird troll

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Anonymous wrote:You seem to think that being a functional alcoholic is a minor problem--it's not!! It's a HUGE problem. It's not great for you or your DH, but it is horrible for any child you have.

You (and DH) either have to give up alcohol or give up having a child!

So no drinking for us ever again if we have a child? Aren't there couples out there who enjoy drinking until the wife gets pregnant?

The mind set of an alcoholic (even a functioning one) is different than someone who drinks on occasion

Let's stop reading and contributing to this crazy post. This seems like a made up story...

People who are not functional alcoholic can drink with or without kids. But you two have a alcohol problem. So for you and DH, you cannot control your alcohol, so yes, you should not ever drink again if you want to do what is best for your child.

Please do some research on alcoholism and Adult Children of Alcoholics (to see the damage alcohol does).

Anonymous wrote:You seem to think that being a functional alcoholic is a minor problem--it's not!! It's a HUGE problem. It's not great for you or your DH, but it is horrible for any child you have.

You (and DH) either have to give up alcohol or give up having a child!

So no drinking for us ever again if we have a child? Aren't there couples out there who enjoy drinking until the wife gets pregnant?

You seem to think that being a functional alcoholic is a minor problem--it's not!! It's a HUGE problem. It's not great for you or your DH, but it is horrible for any child you have.

You (and DH) either have to give up alcohol or give up having a child!

So per your therapist, you are both alcoholics. Please get sober before having kids. The stress and change of having children can quickly turn a functioning alcoholic into a resentful, non functioning alcoholic. Thats not fair to a child.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what you are trying to get from this post... you want a baby but maybe not strongly enough? that alone is a pretty good reason to shelf it... did you think people would say "yes! you should totally go for it and here are some tips on how to keep your husband sober enough to knock you up, good luck!" ? I don't get what you're looking for.

I don't know either. Sorry I posted. I've just been frustrated with the situation and the lack of sex.

I don't understand what you are trying to get from this post... you want a baby but maybe not strongly enough? that alone is a pretty good reason to shelf it... did you think people would say "yes! you should totally go for it and here are some tips on how to keep your husband sober enough to knock you up, good luck!" ? I don't get what you're looking for.

go away

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for any of the children that you two may create. I truly hope that this is a fake post.

That's cruel. You feel sorry for my future children because my husband drinks and can't get it up? My husband is a loving man and you don't even know us.

Yes, i feel sorry for them. Sounds like you both have issues.

Besides my husband drinking too much, what are those issues? Honestly reading DCUM is one of the minor reasons I'm reconsidering having children. The women on here seem vicious and cruel, which to me says there is something lacking in their own life. No one who is happy writes comments like you just did on the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for any of the children that you two may create. I truly hope that this is a fake post.

That's cruel. You feel sorry for my future children because my husband drinks and can't get it up? My husband is a loving man and you don't even know us.

Yes, i feel sorry for them. Sounds like you both have issues.

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Did you guys ever have sex or was it just infrequently? We have been dealing with this problem since we were engaged. I had cold feet and almost called off the wedding.

Problem he is is my best friend and I took vows. I can't let him down by leaving him. It is hard though because I really want a normal sex life and to conceive naturally, if possible.

You are not alone.

But you are staying?

Why would I leave my DH who I love dearly? I partially blame infertility for these problems (performance anxiety drove down his sex drive) and we talk about how we hope things can get back on track after we have success via IVF.

OP here. The infertility definitely hasn't helped our sex life either.