DH is willing to cook, but never has his own ideas about what to cook, wants instructions all the way through, and leaves an ENORMOUS mess which it is then my "turn" to clean up because I didn't cook! So if I'm tired, I may as well cook myself... and I do most of the time.

Never, but food is my "zone" and I prefer it that way.

In out relationship we have very defined zones. We know out role in the house and do our respective jobs. We do have a little overlap, but not much. It works well for us, because we never seem to quarrel over chores.

Five days a week? Figure I cook one night and we go out one night. He's the chef of the two of us.

Never. He also never eats what I cook, rarely even sits at the table with us.

He gave me coupons for Xmas that I could cash in for a night off washing dishes. I am unable to cash in those coupons because even with the coupon that HE gifted to me, he doesnt follow through.

More than I do. It's changing, though, because he's working longer hours. Frankly, he's a better cook than I! I make food he calls "rustic" - straightforward veggies and grains and beans. It works for me, but he's much more adventurous and creative in the kitchen.

It doesn't help that I was vegan/vegetarian as a teen and never really learned to cook meat. I can cook salmon and steak, but that's about it.

To the ladies whose husbands don't cook: did you know it would be like this when you married him?

Monday through Thursday. He gets home earlier than me. I cook Friday through Sunday. If we go out to eat, it's usually a Thursday to avoid crowds and gives him a break.

Never. I am a SAHM and also a very good cook. I like to cook. This is how our relationship has always been, and it is fine with me. I have the time and I enjoy it.

Never. I do all the meal planning, all the cooking and lunch packing (including for DH and me), and about 50% of the grocery shopping. He does a lot of other things, though, and always orders takeout if I ask him to!

I am SAHM so I do most of the cooking which is fine with me. He will grill in the summer, help with big holiday meals, and cook if I am sick or away (which is not very often). He does get groceries or run to Target for me sometimes. He is not a DH that is a chef or likes to cook. He cooks if he needs to. I also cook because I have to, not because I love it.

We're pretty much interchangeable on cooking so whoever has a moment does it. If I get called away mid-way through, I just tell him what needs to be done and he finishes. I probably end up cooking more often than he does but that's partially because I have fewer other chores that I'm responsible for.

Never. No involvement with food buying or preparation at all. If I'm working and he's home, he takes the kids out to eat or orders pizza in.

Never. No dinner, no breakfast, no making/packing DS's lunches, no grocery shopping. He eats all his own lunches out. Only exception re food prep is when I'm out of town. Then I'm asked what should be packed for lunches, and dinners are pizza in or going out to eat. It bugs me that I'm soley responsible for meals, though he does help with dishes sometimes. I'm not a SAHM by the way (but I do work from home).

Trying to decide now what to do about dinner tonight. Ugh.

DH - I grill year round, but that amounts to 1-2 times per week in the winter and 2-3 in the summer. Frequently that means DW is preparing the sides. I do most of the breakfasts, and I probably do the dishes and empty the dishwasher 60-70% of the time.

DH here. I always cook for big events and also grill in the summer. My wife does most of the day-to-day cooking and I do all of the grocery shopping.

DH does most of the "real" cooking. Since he's often home from work late he'll usually cook a big meal and a bunch of stuff ahead on the weekend and then during the week I can reheat or just finalize dinners quickly for the kids. Depending on his schedule I either eat with the kids or wait and eat with him.

He also does 90% of the grocery shopping.