Anonymous
Post 02/01/2015 03:39     Subject: Re:Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
OP, I feel so bad for your daughter. And anyone else in your family, for that matter.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2015 02:13     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
P.S. Watch your child!!

Duh.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2015 02:09     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. phew, not all of DCUMs readers are weird. Thank you for those of you out there who agree this is not normal behavior. This item wasn't "broken" per se. I ordered a print off of Amazon and it was in my office waiting to be hung. She took it out and damaged it. It is beyond repair. She has PLENTY of her own art supplies in her room -- paint and paper and markers, etc. It was not some shiny, awesome thing. It was a boring print. I am not sure when this happened. It was either before I got out of bed this morning (Saturdays she gets her own breakfast and watches cartoons) or when she had a playdate this afternoon. In fact maybe it was the other little girl but if so my kid was in on it or probably would have tattled.

It is not at all appropriate for a six year old to consistently break and damage items in the house. Your children must run your homes and that is very disturbing. I agree with one of the PPs though and do think though that this is about being defiant or disobediant and going directly against what she has been told for some reason. This is the crux of the issue. She is clearly testing me for some reason. Now I just need to decide do I go the expensive and slow psychologist route or the quick and cheap punishment route. Donating a toy of hers might get her to think twice next time unlike all the countless other things that I have done.



Oh, OP, you are a hoot. Thanks for providing the Saturday night entertainment!
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2015 02:01     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
OP here. phew, not all of DCUMs readers are weird. Thank you for those of you out there who agree this is not normal behavior. This item wasn't "broken" per se. I ordered a print off of Amazon and it was in my office waiting to be hung. She took it out and damaged it. It is beyond repair. She has PLENTY of her own art supplies in her room -- paint and paper and markers, etc. It was not some shiny, awesome thing. It was a boring print. I am not sure when this happened. It was either before I got out of bed this morning (Saturdays she gets her own breakfast and watches cartoons) or when she had a playdate this afternoon. In fact maybe it was the other little girl but if so my kid was in on it or probably would have tattled.

It is not at all appropriate for a six year old to consistently break and damage items in the house. Your children must run your homes and that is very disturbing. I agree with one of the PPs though and do think though that this is about being defiant or disobediant and going directly against what she has been told for some reason. This is the crux of the issue. She is clearly testing me for some reason. Now I just need to decide do I go the expensive and slow psychologist route or the quick and cheap punishment route. Donating a toy of hers might get her to think twice next time unlike all the countless other things that I have done.

Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:35     Subject: Re:Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
She might want attention when she's older, too, but she's still not aloud to steal stuff, etc. Come on people.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:35     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
OP, I don't think your plan is a good one.
It doesn't really what she's broken because it's not about the things. It's about her disrespect and boundary pushing and not responding to correction. She's doing this for a reason and not (just) because she is disruptive. Seeing a child psychologist wouldn't be a bad plan, if for no other reason than to learn how to more effectively reach her.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:35     Subject: Re:Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP- has it crossed your mind she is doing it for attention?


+1. This totally sounds like attention-seeking behavior. If it is, the appropriate response is to give her more POSITIVE attention - not to punish her by breaking her things! I also think I'd tone down the response to her breaking things. If this is about attention, then the less attention you give these episodes, the less frequent they should become.
Yea, but the stuff is still broken. How bout', give her attention and 'you can't break my stuff'.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:30     Subject: Re:Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Anonymous wrote:OP- has it crossed your mind she is doing it for attention?


+1. This totally sounds like attention-seeking behavior. If it is, the appropriate response is to give her more POSITIVE attention - not to punish her by breaking her things! I also think I'd tone down the response to her breaking things. If this is about attention, then the less attention you give these episodes, the less frequent they should become.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:23     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Anonymous wrote:Op sounds like the girls older sister, not her mother.
What? She doesn't want her kids breaking things, I agree with her.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:19     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Op sounds like the girls older sister, not her mother.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:14     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you should take your 6 year old to a therapist to figure it out. Sounds like both of you need adjustments to how you deal with each other.
What is wrong with Op? She just needs to discipline her kid. All these other posters can let their kid walk all over them, but I don't get it. She's touching things that aren't hers, and they are blaming Op. Crazy


I don't let my kid walk all over me. I also don't sneak into her room and break her stuff.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 23:03     Subject: Re:Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
OP- has it crossed your mind she is doing it for attention?
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 22:56     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you should take your 6 year old to a therapist to figure it out. Sounds like both of you need adjustments to how you deal with each other.
What is wrong with Op? She just needs to discipline her kid. All these other posters can let their kid walk all over them, but I don't get it. She's touching things that aren't hers, and they are blaming Op. Crazy


OP clearly has no idea how to parent.

But I bet she knows how to sock puppet.


I know, right. Too funny. What are the chances of this many practically illiterate people writing in a row and sharing the same distorted view. None.
Nothing illiterate. It's not the Op, but what are the chances your kid walks all over you, and you know it. You take it out here, because you can't control your kid.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 22:36     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
My daughter is five and has never broken anything of mine so I do not think it is normal or what kids do. What had she broken of yours?
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2015 22:30     Subject: Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?
Anonymous wrote:My hyperactive 3yo boy doesn't break that much stuff.

I'll repeat: WHAT KIND OF STUFF ARE WE TALKING ABOUT?

Your prized Precious Moments figurine collection?

If so, thank her.