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Anonymous wrote:If you are a 40-something mom displaying your butterfly tramp-stamp tattoo while wearing a bikini at my neighborhood pool, I may have judged you harshly.

you jealous and fat?

So you have a tattoo, huh?

No, I am not fat or jealous. I don't clutch pearls and I actually don't even care. But there is a minute when I see you and your butterfly tattoo and I laugh a bit in my head. Butterfly tramp stamps are so '90's and they don't really age well. I don't hold onto that judgement and I certainly don't feel anger. I think it's funny. It's harsh because I shouldn't laugh - it has nothing to do with me.

Anonymous wrote:If you are a 40-something mom displaying your butterfly tramp-stamp tattoo while wearing a bikini at my neighborhood pool, I may have judged you harshly.

you jealous and fat?

Anonymous wrote:If you are a 40-something mom displaying your butterfly tramp-stamp tattoo while wearing a bikini at my neighborhood pool, I may have judged you harshly.

And what happens there is that you walk around then with negativity or maybe even malice in your head and heart for a few hours and the other person goes on free to be happy and enjoy life. See how that works? And there is no way, none, that harsh judgement for these types of reasons can ever be argued as anything other than negative emotion. It's in no way positive or bringing something good to the table or world. Why would you want to carry that around? It only hurts you, it literally can't help you at all or help you be a happier person or better parent or anything.

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Anonymous wrote:Just my opinion. And I'll add that I try really hard not to judge the decisions of others. I think age is a factor. I'm almost 50. I am 5'5 and 115 pounds. I am a runner and could easily pull off a bikini. I don't wear one because I feel like at almost 50 years old, I've past the bikini point.

Again, if you are confident in your bikini, more power to you. Just not for me.

Really- go out West. Ladies your age are all rocking them. I used to be a bit of a prude--but at 45 and years of competitive sports, working out hard, sunscreen and olive skin--my body easily looks so much better now than it did in my early 30s.

Maybe this will be the summer for me then! I have a rock hard body from years of martial arts and marathons. But I just feel silly wearing a bikini at 50. I have a grand-baby! Totally my hang up. My DH would love it if I wore one!

Anonymous wrote:Just my opinion. And I'll add that I try really hard not to judge the decisions of others. I think age is a factor. I'm almost 50. I am 5'5 and 115 pounds. I am a runner and could easily pull off a bikini. I don't wear one because I feel like at almost 50 years old, I've past the bikini point.

Again, if you are confident in your bikini, more power to you. Just not for me.

Really- go out West. Ladies your age are all rocking them. I used to be a bit of a prude--but at 45 and years of competitive sports, working out hard, sunscreen and olive skin--my body easily looks so much better now than it did in my early 30s.

Just my opinion. And I'll add that I try really hard not to judge the decisions of others. I think age is a factor. I'm almost 50. I am 5'5 and 115 pounds. I am a runner and could easily pull off a bikini. I don't wear one because I feel like at almost 50 years old, I've past the bikini point.

Again, if you are confident in your bikini, more power to you. Just not for me.

If you are a 40-something mom displaying your butterfly tramp-stamp tattoo while wearing a bikini at my neighborhood pool, I may have judged you harshly.

(Thank you, 2:52, for your contribution.)

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in my mid-30s. I've been wearing bikinis my entire adult life. I find them to be a lot more comfortable than one pieces and tankinis. But I've noticed that I am the only Mom in the kiddie pools and water parks who seems to have this preference, and I've started to feel self conscious about it. Do other moms think I look out of place? Is there some kind of Mom dress code that I am missing?

I'm 49 have always worn bikinis. I work hard to stay fit, so might as well show it off. I am very realistic so the minute I think I no longer look good, I'll move to a one piece.

Sorry, but at 49 you no longer look good in a bikini - no matter how fit you are.

Elise Neal is 49 next month and I would love to have her body (early 30s). Go to Brazil...plenty of late 40s women who are still quite attractive, per my male friends. It's totally possible to look amazing at 49.

Pics please.

I wish I could wear a bikini. Miss those days. Just don't look good in it anymore.

I look horrible in tankinis--they just do not work with my body type.

I have a tiny waist--flat, muscular stomach and a Bikini is much more flattering on me.

When I had to heavy little kid duty at the beach I wore the sturdier variety. Now that kids are older I can do string ties again.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my mid-30s. I've been wearing bikinis my entire adult life. I find them to be a lot more comfortable than one pieces and tankinis. But I've noticed that I am the only Mom in the kiddie pools and water parks who seems to have this preference, and I've started to feel self conscious about it. Do other moms think I look out of place? Is there some kind of Mom dress code that I am missing?

I'm 49 have always worn bikinis. I work hard to stay fit, so might as well show it off. I am very realistic so the minute I think I no longer look good, I'll move to a one piece.

Sorry, but at 49 you no longer look good in a bikini - no matter how fit you are.

Agreed.

I definitely prefer bikinis and I always wear them to the beach. I am slim but still prefer wearing tankinis to the pool because I'm constantly taking toddler in and out of water and he is always tugging me.

I still wear bikini I bought 10 years ago in my mid 20s mostly because I don't see that many nice tankinis. My pooch from csection doesn't seem to want to go away but as long as I don't wear low rise bikinis it can't really be seen. My midsection is not as toned as it used to be despite being a size 4 but it is what it is, and I probably feel more comfortable now than I did 10 years ago bc I care less about what others think. So wear whatever you feel comfortable in.