Actions speak louder than words. Does he do the same? Is there junk food in the closet? Does he eat wing and nachos while he downs a beer watching TV or does he make a nice salad on Saturday and ask her to go for a hike? Does he go to happy hour with friend or does he come home to help with the children?

Is he willing to go for a walk with her 3 days a week to help her be motivated and build their relationship or does he judge her, buy her yoga clothes and a gym membership and call it a day.

Lots of people can pay lip service to a problem and throw money at it but how many are actually vested in being part of the solution.

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Actions speak louder than words. Does he do the same? Is there junk food in the closet? Does he eat wing and nachos while he downs a beer watching TV or does he make a nice salad on Saturday and ask her to go for a hike? Does he go to happy hour with friend or does he come home to help with the children?

Is he willing to go for a walk with her 3 days a week to help her be motivated and build their relationship or does he judge her, buy her yoga clothes and a gym membership and call it a day.

Lots of people can pay lip service to a problem and throw money at it but how many are actually vested in being part of the solution.

Do you have ANY suggestions for OP's wife or are you putting the entire solution on him. If she isn't motivated to do the work, then nothing is going to happen. It's very telling that you seem to blame OP for everything. Are you in the same situation as his DW? Seems like it.

Actions speak louder than words. Does he do the same? Is there junk food in the closet? Does he eat wing and nachos while he downs a beer watching TV or does he make a nice salad on Saturday and ask her to go for a hike? Does he go to happy hour with friend or does he come home to help with the children?

Is he willing to go for a walk with her 3 days a week to help her be motivated and build their relationship or does he judge her, buy her yoga clothes and a gym membership and call it a day.

Lots of people can pay lip service to a problem and throw money at it but how many are actually vested in being part of the solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?

Not OP, stop assuming that a DH wouldn't do all those things while she is exercising. Some of you are getting too defensive and reverting to the old, "My DH doesn't do anything around the house" line. That's getting tired.

I totally agree. He's obviously motivated to help her lose weight. Who says he can't help with those things? So tired of the 'woe is me, my husband doesn't help!' a) no reason to think OP is like that and b) you married him.

Does he help with those things? I think it is very relevant.

I get the feeling that he is very willing to help and already does. Also, how is this relevant to her eating a healthy diet (which is more important for overall weight loss than going to the gym)?

Do you have ANY suggestions for OP's wife or are you putting the entire solution on him. If she isn't motivated to do the work, then nothing is going to happen. It's very telling that you seem to blame OP for everything. Are you in the same situation as his DW? Seems like it.

Actions speak louder than words. Does he do the same? Is there junk food in the closet? Does he eat wing and nachos while he downs a beer watching TV or does he make a nice salad on Saturday and ask her to go for a hike? Does he go to happy hour with friend or does he come home to help with the children?

Is he willing to go for a walk with her 3 days a week to help her be motivated and build their relationship or does he judge her, buy her yoga clothes and a gym membership and call it a day.

Lots of people can pay lip service to a problem and throw money at it but how many are actually vested in being part of the solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?

Not OP, stop assuming that a DH wouldn't do all those things while she is exercising. Some of you are getting too defensive and reverting to the old, "My DH doesn't do anything around the house" line. That's getting tired.

I totally agree. He's obviously motivated to help her lose weight. Who says he can't help with those things? So tired of the 'woe is me, my husband doesn't help!' a) no reason to think OP is like that and b) you married him.

Does he help with those things? I think it is very relevant.

I get the feeling that he is very willing to help and already does. Also, how is this relevant to her eating a healthy diet (which is more important for overall weight loss than going to the gym)?

Actions speak louder than words. Does he do the same? Is there junk food in the closet? Does he eat wing and nachos while he downs a beer watching TV or does he make a nice salad on Saturday and ask her to go for a hike? Does he go to happy hour with friend or does he come home to help with the children?

Is he willing to go for a walk with her 3 days a week to help her be motivated and build their relationship or does he judge her, buy her yoga clothes and a gym membership and call it a day.

Lots of people can pay lip service to a problem and throw money at it but how many are actually vested in being part of the solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?

Not OP, stop assuming that a DH wouldn't do all those things while she is exercising. Some of you are getting too defensive and reverting to the old, "My DH doesn't do anything around the house" line. That's getting tired.

I totally agree. He's obviously motivated to help her lose weight. Who says he can't help with those things? So tired of the 'woe is me, my husband doesn't help!' a) no reason to think OP is like that and b) you married him.

Does he help with those things? I think it is very relevant.

I get the feeling that he is very willing to help and already does. Also, how is this relevant to her eating a healthy diet (which is more important for overall weight loss than going to the gym)?

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?

Not OP, stop assuming that a DH wouldn't do all those things while she is exercising. Some of you are getting too defensive and reverting to the old, "My DH doesn't do anything around the house" line. That's getting tired.

I totally agree. He's obviously motivated to help her lose weight. Who says he can't help with those things? So tired of the 'woe is me, my husband doesn't help!' a) no reason to think OP is like that and b) you married him.

Does he help with those things? I think it is very relevant.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?

Not OP, stop assuming that a DH wouldn't do all those things while she is exercising. Some of you are getting too defensive and reverting to the old, "My DH doesn't do anything around the house" line. That's getting tired.

I totally agree. He's obviously motivated to help her lose weight. Who says he can't help with those things? So tired of the 'woe is me, my husband doesn't help!' a) no reason to think OP is like that and b) you married him.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG! She likes herself the way she is! Emergency!

Did you read OP's first post:
"She says she wants to lose the weight but just lacks the motivation to it."
R.I.F.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?

Not OP, stop assuming that a DH wouldn't do all those things while she is exercising. Some of you are getting too defensive and reverting to the old, "My DH doesn't do anything around the house" line. That's getting tired.

Anonymous wrote:OMG! She likes herself the way she is! Emergency!

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?