Anonymous wrote:Go to a women's center and see about legal help.

Why did you have a baby with someone you aren't married to? I genuinely don't understand why people do this.

Right, cause we all know marriage is a guarantee that you will never split up or have custody issues

Keep breastfeeding. This will at least buy you up to a year of full custody over your child since most pediatricians recommend breastfeeding for up to one year. He cannot get 50/50 custody while you are nursing your 2 month old.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have been living together for 2 1/2 years, this may constitute a common law marriage. I am not from here, so I don't know what the laws are here -- but where I am from (Canada) you would be considered his common-law wife at this point and entitled to some of the home.

Call a family law center in your area for advice. I would not move out. Move to a different room for now. Tell him that you want to work on things just to give yourself a little more time.

Also, please know that having an infant is a low point in many relationships. It is incredibly hard. You may be able to recover from this.

Virginia hasn't recognized common law marriages in years and when it was recognized, couple had to have been together a lot longer than 2.5 years.

Not to mention, common law marriage, like formal marriage, requires consent of both parties. They actually have to intend to be married and act married.

You are essentially a tenant and unless you can prove that you were not in a roommate agreement, you have little right to that house. Sorry. If you weren't married and you aren't on the mortgage, he's got the upper hand.

I hope this is just a phase and you can get some counseling. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:OMG - you hideous women!

Some of the most vicious posters on the divorce and custody threads are definitely male. This site and these threads have exposed me to some of the ugliest, nastiest misogyny I've ever come across.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't split 50/50 of an infant. If you are breastfeeding he won't get more than a few hours at a stretch.

You pump, but either way, it is your house too. In less you leave and take the baby (before either one of you files custody as then you can legally do it), I would move into another room or the baby room and stay.

You cannot force someone to pump.

Then baby gets formula. There are options. Breastfeeding is not a reason to withhold parenting time even if he is being a jerk to mom.

Um, no, you're wrong. In my old state I had more than one friend who was able to put off overnight visits until child was fully weaned, or up to age three. No way I'd give my baby formula

Why did you have so many friends who had split with the dad while the kid was young enough to breastfeed?

It may not apply to Op if dad does not want to be involved but this attitude where dad cannot have visitation or be alone with the child over random excuses like breastfeeding, when one can pump, is why many of the dads give up and go away. It is very clear moms only want them as a child support check and not as an equal parent. By three, a child with limited visits with a child has not been able to bond to their parent, then the next set of excuses come such as the child is scared of overnights, not bonded to the father, etc.

To the no visit poster...and you wonder why these women are single and struggling. Or, better yet, the dads get tired of their nonsense and move on.

OMG - you hideous women!

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Anonymous wrote:Go to a women's center and see about legal help.

Why did you have a baby with someone you aren't married to? I genuinely don't understand why people do this.

I have four babies and am not married. I just have no interest in marriage. Sometimes that works out just fine.

How many baby daddies?

Probably someone that doesn't have a career plan, so she figured getting knocked up often enough will put her set for life.

Anonymous wrote:Don't leave. Hire a lawyer quick! He can't evict you...no judge would put you and your baby out. If you have been together 7 years it's common law marriage. He is a controlling person because it benefits him and scares you. For your baby get BIG child support and try to get primary custody.

No common law marraige in the District. However OP needs a lawyer ASAP. Anyone can be evicted. It is just a matter of time and how.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't split 50/50 of an infant. If you are breastfeeding he won't get more than a few hours at a stretch.

You pump, but either way, it is your house too. In less you leave and take the baby (before either one of you files custody as then you can legally do it), I would move into another room or the baby room and stay.

You don't know how custody works. This is clear.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to a women's center and see about legal help.

Why did you have a baby with someone you aren't married to? I genuinely don't understand why people do this.

I have four babies and am not married. I just have no interest in marriage. Sometimes that works out just fine.

How many baby daddies?

Stereotype much?

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Anonymous wrote:Go to a women's center and see about legal help.

Why did you have a baby with someone you aren't married to? I genuinely don't understand why people do this.

I have four babies and am not married. I just have no interest in marriage. Sometimes that works out just fine.

How many baby daddies?

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Anonymous wrote:You don't split 50/50 of an infant. If you are breastfeeding he won't get more than a few hours at a stretch.

You pump, but either way, it is your house too. In less you leave and take the baby (before either one of you files custody as then you can legally do it), I would move into another room or the baby room and stay.

You cannot force someone to pump.

Then baby gets formula. There are options. Breastfeeding is not a reason to withhold parenting time even if he is being a jerk to mom.

Um, no, you're wrong. In my old state I had more than one friend who was able to put off overnight visits until child was fully weaned, or up to age three. No way I'd give my baby formula

Why did you have so many friends who had split with the dad while the kid was young enough to breastfeed?

PP here---"friends" might have been an overstatement, LOL. Funnily enough, I was acquainted with all of them through Le Leche League!

Yet you never learned it was La Leche League

Anonymous wrote: but either way, it is your house too.

Wrong

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I have four babies and am not married. I just have no interest in marriage. Sometimes that works out just fine.

Who is paying your bills?