Anonymous wrote:I think he is telling the truth. What do I do? He said he felt excited after it happened.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends if OP's DH is alpha.

If he is, OP has more incentive to stay.

If not, then she won't.

Lol. You MRAs are so sad.

I would say a good 30-35% of women on this board usually agree with me.

Imagine if HRC posted on DCUM 20 years ago....posters would be like "leave him!"

and she wouldn't.

Because BC is the most alpha guy on the planet.

Look at Huma and AW.

It's funny because I think compared to any other town in the country, this one consistently shows this dynamic at work - again and again and again.

So my advice to guys is - don't cheat or step out on your wife (loyalty and supportiveness are the two biggest keys in my book to a long and healthy relationship).

BUT if you want to/do, make sure your value is so high that your wife won't leave you because she knows instinctively that she will never land a guy ever again at your level.

It is less about condoning any actions of people but more of exposing the truths.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends if OP's DH is alpha.

If he is, OP has more incentive to stay.

If not, then she won't.

Lol. You MRAs are so sad.

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Incognita wrote:OP you're in denial. If you do believe him, no harm in confirming with the other woman right? And if he is so open now he shouldn't have a problem with you speaking to her yourself, or listening in on the conversation. It seems more like you don't want to know the truth so you want to accept we just kissed story.

At 9pm he has more than enough time to make that trip twice, sorry you are lying to yourself. Also, not sure what being excited have to do with anything, he could be excited after making love to his lover in his car.. Seriously get the truth.

+1. Also think back to your first dates with a guy once you were out of college especially if you met him over the internet. Were you willing to meet a guy for the first time after 9pm at night by yourself? If a guy told me that the only time he could meet up with me was 9:30pm and we had only been texting/talking on the phone until that point, I would find out when he was available to meet earlier like right after work or on the weekend. That's also kind of late for the first few dates unless it was tickets for something like a comedy club, going to a jazz club etc type of event.

Odds are that he has met with this woman before at least enough that she felt comfortable meeting him late and past the time for traditional first date things ...unless she is married too.

Good point. I am single and if someone asked to meet me at 930 pm I would laugh at them. Most women want to meet someone at a reasonable hour in a public place. Most coffee shops in he suburbs are closed at this time, and I doubt the ones that are open are fine with a couple making out in the middle of the store. Smells like bullshit to me.

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Incognita wrote:OP you're in denial. If you do believe him, no harm in confirming with the other woman right? And if he is so open now he shouldn't have a problem with you speaking to her yourself, or listening in on the conversation. It seems more like you don't want to know the truth so you want to accept we just kissed story.

At 9pm he has more than enough time to make that trip twice, sorry you are lying to yourself. Also, not sure what being excited have to do with anything, he could be excited after making love to his lover in his car.. Seriously get the truth.

+1. Also think back to your first dates with a guy once you were out of college especially if you met him over the internet. Were you willing to meet a guy for the first time after 9pm at night by yourself? If a guy told me that the only time he could meet up with me was 9:30pm and we had only been texting/talking on the phone until that point, I would find out when he was available to meet earlier like right after work or on the weekend. That's also kind of late for the first few dates unless it was tickets for something like a comedy club, going to a jazz club etc type of event.

Odds are that he has met with this woman before at least enough that she felt comfortable meeting him late and past the time for traditional first date things ...unless she is married too.

Anonymous wrote:If my husband said the cheating crap he did excited him I'd say wait until the divorce papers are served. That will blow your mind MFer.

Anonymous wrote:Who has a phone log?
I delete all calls and voice mails everyday.
Private browse.

The only log is in the bowl.

Incognita wrote:OP you're in denial. If you do believe him, no harm in confirming with the other woman right? And if he is so open now he shouldn't have a problem with you speaking to her yourself, or listening in on the conversation. It seems more like you don't want to know the truth so you want to accept we just kissed story.

At 9pm he has more than enough time to make that trip twice, sorry you are lying to yourself. Also, not sure what being excited have to do with anything, he could be excited after making love to his lover in his car.. Seriously get the truth.

Anonymous wrote:Who cares if it was kissing or sex. The main thing is he had a wandering eye, and was acting upon it. Even if they did nothing, he snuck around behind you to meet this woman. No need to play Sherlock Holmes and figure out what they did -- point is he met her and hid it from you.

I know some will say get rid of him, but I'd say think of the why. Leave out the physical part too. I'm guessing he felt young again to talk to this woman. and his conversations with her were uplifting and not like your current conversations (you said your marriage is on the rocks). Would some other husband have done the same in the same situation?

Then decide.. do you want to work on whatever the problems are, or move on?

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Anonymous wrote:I think he is telling the truth. What do I do? He said he felt excited after it happened.

You are an idiot.

Pretty harsh. She's going through a lot right now, and it's easy for all of us to see that he is clearly lying, but I understand why she wants to believe him. Hopefully she will come around sooner than later.
She isn't an idiot- she's just in pain.

I agree. No need to name call, but we should all also give advice that's worth a damn, wake her up, or she will be back to talk about her pain in a few months.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he is telling the truth. What do I do? He said he felt excited after it happened.

You are an idiot.

Pretty harsh. She's going through a lot right now, and it's easy for all of us to see that he is clearly lying, but I understand why she wants to believe him. Hopefully she will come around sooner than later.
She isn't an idiot- she's just in pain.

I agree. No need to name call, but we should all also give advice that's worth a damn, wake her up, or she will be back to talk about her pain in a few months.