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Anonymous wrote:I just saw your post on the nanny board, OP. You clearly feel well enough to whine on multiple forums today. Try reading a book to your children and stop whining to anyone in cyber-space who will listen.

LOL Seriously, OP, read a book to your children while DH is working and stop being such a princess.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need someone to watch your children while you shower ?

Anonymous wrote:I just saw your post on the nanny board, OP. You clearly feel well enough to whine on multiple forums today. Try reading a book to your children and stop whining to anyone in cyber-space who will listen.

Anonymous wrote:I just saw your post on the nanny board, OP. You clearly feel well enough to whine on multiple forums today. Try reading a book to your children and stop whining to anyone in cyber-space who will listen.

Anonymous wrote:I just saw your post on the nanny board, OP. You clearly feel well enough to whine on multiple forums today. Try reading a book to your children and stop whining to anyone in cyber-space who will listen.

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Anonymous wrote:I am curious. What type of surgery did you have that you feel entitled to have her cancel her plans and stick around to help? Perhaps that is why she left, because she figured thats all she'd have to do all weekend.

I feel sorry for her.

I wonder why you're sorry for her. Is it for her living rent free? Is it for her not paying for food or utilities?
Is it for all the outings we take her with us? Is for the fact that she doesn't pay for tutors because we help her with her English lessons, homework and papers for school?

I cooked in advance and froze the food, paid her to clean the house so the only help I needed was someone to keep an eye on the kids so I could nap or take a shower while DH works. But I guess it's too much to ask for.

Honestly, if you're up and showering, you're probably not feeling all that bad.

Says the person who has never had open abdomen surgery.

Like two c-sections?

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Anonymous wrote:I am curious. What type of surgery did you have that you feel entitled to have her cancel her plans and stick around to help? Perhaps that is why she left, because she figured thats all she'd have to do all weekend.

I feel sorry for her.

I wonder why you're sorry for her. Is it for her living rent free? Is it for her not paying for food or utilities?
Is it for all the outings we take her with us? Is for the fact that she doesn't pay for tutors because we help her with her English lessons, homework and papers for school?

I cooked in advance and froze the food, paid her to clean the house so the only help I needed was someone to keep an eye on the kids so I could nap or take a shower while DH works. But I guess it's too much to ask for.

Honestly, if you're up and showering, you're probably not feeling all that bad.

Says the person who has never had open abdomen surgery.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if she is 34 years old and does not pitch in around the house except for things she is paid to do, she probably should be paying something in rent. 22/hour for babysitting also sounds high for me.

In retrospect you could have said, hey distant cousin, since I'm having surgery in a couple weeks, do you think you will be around to lend a hand?

Anonymous wrote:She lives with you for FREE in a costly city and you pay her for some cleaning?

Who pays her food? Who pays the extra utilities for a third adult?

Yes, she should be extremely grateful, as should her parents (who seem to be off the hook now for their college child's room and board).

I'd say this is very telling. She should be helping you and thanking you much more. Now it seems clearer she is just using use for free house and maybe more.

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Anonymous wrote:I am curious. What type of surgery did you have that you feel entitled to have her cancel her plans and stick around to help? Perhaps that is why she left, because she figured thats all she'd have to do all weekend.

I feel sorry for her.

I wonder why you're sorry for her. Is it for her living rent free? Is it for her not paying for food or utilities?
Is it for all the outings we take her with us? Is for the fact that she doesn't pay for tutors because we help her with her English lessons, homework and papers for school?

I cooked in advance and froze the food, paid her to clean the house so the only help I needed was someone to keep an eye on the kids so I could nap or take a shower while DH works. But I guess it's too much to ask for.

Honestly, if you're up and showering, you're probably not feeling all that bad.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you ask her for help? Just be direct, and polite. People aren't mind readers, especially college kids.

Because we didn't have the money to pay for her hourly rate and if we asked we'd had to pay. If she offered we'd def tip her but not pay as much as she charges - 22/h for 2 kids.

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Anonymous wrote:We invite her for all fun stuff we do and often pay for her tickets. She doesn't join us for meals because of her school schedule.
She left today and txted me wishing a speedy recovery saying she'd be gone for the weekend.
I'm pretty disappointed.

It also depends on her weekend plans. I wouldn't expect a "distant cousin"/tenant to cancel out of town weekend plans to help you.

+1 this she had plans and she's not there to help anyway. Can your husband help you ?