Anonymous
12/19/2014 20:59
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.
No one cares.
What do you get out of bragging publically? It just makes you look gauche.
I care. For my close friends, their kids are very important to me and I'm proud of their accomplishments. I love reading about where they've been accepted. I also like knowing where they were not accepted so I don't insert my foot in my mouth the next time I see them. To me, this is the end game that everyone works hard to get to-- parents and students should be proud of what they've done and where they're going.
I think this illustrates part of the problem: parents making it about themselves. I would be embarrassed if my parents posted to FB, bragging that I got into a prestigious school, potentially alienating my friends.
NP here, I also think people who view college as the "end game" are pretty clueless about life. I went to a great college and while I learned a lot and made great lifelong friends, the real growth, experiences and highlights of my life came much later. I have lived all over US, in Europe and Asia and the only times people have focused on where I went to college were when I went to interviews for my first job and, bizarrely, here in the DC MD VA area.
Anonymous
12/19/2014 20:10
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
I can only remember one of my facebook friends posting about her child's acceptance and she's pretty insufferable in general about her kids. It just isn't done, so when someone does it, it really stands out. At least with my friends. I do see a lot of posts when parents are dropping kids off at college for the first time, but that seems fine to me.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 21:35
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:
How is saying, "So happy for Sally, who got accepted to X University today!" boasting, or any different than a parent posting something like "FIrst place at the swim meet today - great job Sally!" which is something I see all the time? If a parent posted a overtly braggy post like, "Sally got into Harvard EA! Of course, we had no doubt she'd get in with her 4.0 GPA, 2400 SAT, NMF, three varsity sports and her non-profit to build wells and grow food for starving children in Africa!" that would be tacky and classless, but I've NEVER seen a parent post anything like that.
Please do tell. Perhaps my social circle is different, but we tend to welcome hearing about the successes of others' kids so we can give congratulations where congratulations is due and share our happiness with that family. Different strokes for different folks, I suppose
The key here is "my social circle." Yes, that is different from a post on Facebook that goes out to all your 800 friends.
And even here, you need to know if your friends kids are applying to the same school before you do your announcement.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 21:25
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.
No one cares.
What do you get out of bragging publically? It just makes you look gauche.
I care. For my close friends, their kids are very important to me and I'm proud of their accomplishments. I love reading about where they've been accepted. I also like knowing where they were not accepted so I don't insert my foot in my mouth the next time I see them. To me, this is the end game that everyone works hard to get to-- parents and students should be proud of what they've done and where they're going.
Being proud of your friends' kids is admirable. What several of us find a little less admirable is boasting, like PP does, about your own kids....
How is saying, "So happy for Sally, who got accepted to X University today!" boasting, or any different than a parent posting something like "FIrst place at the swim meet today - great job Sally!" which is something I see all the time? If a parent posted a overtly braggy post like, "Sally got into Harvard EA! Of course, we had no doubt she'd get in with her 4.0 GPA, 2400 SAT, NMF, three varsity sports and her non-profit to build wells and grow food for starving children in Africa!" that would be tacky and classless, but I've NEVER seen a parent post anything like that.
Please do tell. Perhaps my social circle is different, but we tend to welcome hearing about the successes of others' kids so we can give congratulations where congratulations is due and share our happiness with that family. Different strokes for different folks, I suppose
Anonymous
12/18/2014 20:56
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.
No one cares.
What do you get out of bragging publically? It just makes you look gauche.
I care. For my close friends, their kids are very important to me and I'm proud of their accomplishments. I love reading about where they've been accepted. I also like knowing where they were not accepted so I don't insert my foot in my mouth the next time I see them. To me, this is the end game that everyone works hard to get to-- parents and students should be proud of what they've done and where they're going.
I think this illustrates part of the problem: parents making it about themselves. I would be embarrassed if my parents posted to FB, bragging that I got into a prestigious school, potentially alienating my friends.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 18:16
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, I am so sick and tired of the whole "oh, my kid is so sensitive." Yeah, good luck in college, wuss.
That makes two of us who are sick of bad behavior.
Me, I'm sick of parents like you bragging about their kids' achievements. And then saying out of the other sides of their mouths that we have no control over our kids, not even what they put on FB. (And before you start, my kid is at an Ivy.)
You realize that the Ivy reference was preemptive, right? To forestall another "Boo hoo, your kid didn't get in anywhere as good as my kid."
I realized that the convenient pretext was to forestall such a response.
That answers your question, right?
Way to insinuate that your nastiness is actually somebody else's issue!
Buh bye....
Not being nasty, just pointing out the glaringly obvious humblebrag in a thread about...whether sharing is bragging.
Toodle.
NP here. And yes, you are being nasty. It is perfectly ok to brag about everything here because this is anonymous. It is not ok to brag when your identity is known. Is the difference too subtle for you?
That's one of the dumbest things I've ever read on DCUM.
Not even close to being the dumbest thing ever written on DCUM. I actually agree with PP. You're just buthurt about the "Splendor in the Crass" JPEG.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 18:09
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, I am so sick and tired of the whole "oh, my kid is so sensitive." Yeah, good luck in college, wuss.
That makes two of us who are sick of bad behavior.
Me, I'm sick of parents like you bragging about their kids' achievements. And then saying out of the other sides of their mouths that we have no control over our kids, not even what they put on FB. (And before you start, my kid is at an Ivy.)
You realize that the Ivy reference was preemptive, right? To forestall another "Boo hoo, your kid didn't get in anywhere as good as my kid."
I realized that the convenient pretext was to forestall such a response.
That answers your question, right?
Way to insinuate that your nastiness is actually somebody else's issue!
Buh bye....
Not being nasty, just pointing out the glaringly obvious humblebrag in a thread about...whether sharing is bragging.
Toodle.
NP here. And yes, you are being nasty. It is perfectly ok to brag about everything here because this is anonymous. It is not ok to brag when your identity is known. Is the difference too subtle for you?
That's one of the dumbest things I've ever read on DCUM.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 17:59
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, I am so sick and tired of the whole "oh, my kid is so sensitive." Yeah, good luck in college, wuss.
That makes two of us who are sick of bad behavior.
Me, I'm sick of parents like you bragging about their kids' achievements. And then saying out of the other sides of their mouths that we have no control over our kids, not even what they put on FB. (And before you start, my kid is at an Ivy.)
You realize that the Ivy reference was preemptive, right? To forestall another "Boo hoo, your kid didn't get in anywhere as good as my kid."
I realized that the convenient pretext was to forestall such a response.
That answers your question, right?
Way to insinuate that your nastiness is actually somebody else's issue!
Buh bye....
Not being nasty, just pointing out the glaringly obvious humblebrag in a thread about...whether sharing is bragging.
Toodle.
NP here. And yes, you are being nasty. It is perfectly ok to brag about everything here because this is anonymous. It is not ok to brag when your identity is known. Is the difference too subtle for you?
Anonymous
12/18/2014 17:30
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, I am so sick and tired of the whole "oh, my kid is so sensitive." Yeah, good luck in college, wuss.
That makes two of us who are sick of bad behavior.
Me, I'm sick of parents like you bragging about their kids' achievements. And then saying out of the other sides of their mouths that we have no control over our kids, not even what they put on FB. (And before you start, my kid is at an Ivy.)
You realize that the Ivy reference was preemptive, right? To forestall another "Boo hoo, your kid didn't get in anywhere as good as my kid."
I realized that the convenient pretext was to forestall such a response.
That answers your question, right?
Way to insinuate that your nastiness is actually somebody else's issue!
Buh bye....
Not being nasty, just pointing out the glaringly obvious humblebrag in a thread about...whether sharing is bragging.
Toodle.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 17:19
Subject: Re:Posting College Acceptances To FB
Your child can post the college they will be going to in Fall. Tell them not to post any other details about other colleges.
Teach your children some discretion and class - this will come in handy later in life.
Teach your children some discretion and class - this will come in handy later in life.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 16:51
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.
No one cares.
What do you get out of bragging publically? It just makes you look gauche.
I care. For my close friends, their kids are very important to me and I'm proud of their accomplishments. I love reading about where they've been accepted. I also like knowing where they were not accepted so I don't insert my foot in my mouth the next time I see them. To me, this is the end game that everyone works hard to get to-- parents and students should be proud of what they've done and where they're going.
Being proud of your friends' kids is admirable. What several of us find a little less admirable is boasting, like PP does, about your own kids....
Well-- I'm usually friends with my friends and not their kids. In order for me to know where the kids have been accepted, they have to post. So in that case, you'd consider my friends boasting about their kids accomplishments.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 16:41
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.
No one cares.
What do you get out of bragging publically? It just makes you look gauche.
I care. For my close friends, their kids are very important to me and I'm proud of their accomplishments. I love reading about where they've been accepted. I also like knowing where they were not accepted so I don't insert my foot in my mouth the next time I see them. To me, this is the end game that everyone works hard to get to-- parents and students should be proud of what they've done and where they're going.
Being proud of your friends' kids is admirable. What several of us find a little less admirable is boasting, like PP does, about your own kids....
Anonymous
12/18/2014 16:40
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents you have no role in what gets posted on Facebook by your high school senior adult-child.
Go ahead and make a suggestion to them if it makes you feel better.
Sure we do. We are the ones paying for all that glorious education
You tell your kid what to post on their Facebook?
Anonymous
12/18/2014 16:29
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.
No one cares.
What do you get out of bragging publically? It just makes you look gauche.
I care. For my close friends, their kids are very important to me and I'm proud of their accomplishments. I love reading about where they've been accepted. I also like knowing where they were not accepted so I don't insert my foot in my mouth the next time I see them. To me, this is the end game that everyone works hard to get to-- parents and students should be proud of what they've done and where they're going.
Anonymous
12/18/2014 16:26
Subject: Posting College Acceptances To FB
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, I am so sick and tired of the whole "oh, my kid is so sensitive." Yeah, good luck in college, wuss.
That makes two of us who are sick of bad behavior.
Me, I'm sick of parents like you bragging about their kids' achievements. And then saying out of the other sides of their mouths that we have no control over our kids, not even what they put on FB. (And before you start, my kid is at an Ivy.)
You realize that the Ivy reference was preemptive, right? To forestall another "Boo hoo, your kid didn't get in anywhere as good as my kid."
I realized that the convenient pretext was to forestall such a response.
That answers your question, right?
Way to insinuate that your nastiness is actually somebody else's issue!
Buh bye....