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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

Great. Go date them then. If someone else is turned off by that and thinks a dude has daddy issues because of it then that's her preference, get over it.

I did. Found a great husband that way. Thanks!

In the mean time, I will continue to say that you are fucking idiots. In a few years, you'll be complaining bitterly that you can't find a husband, or that can't get pregnant because it too you to long to get married and you are too old, or that you can't believe your non-geeky DH just knocked up the OW. Keep chasing the cool guys, ladies. Have fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

Great. Go date them then. If someone else is turned off by that and thinks a dude has daddy issues because of it then that's her preference, get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:Since you specified a "dumb move" rather than like, a personal quality (not smart, etc.) - I'll say flakiness. These days men (and I do mean MEN, not boys - I'm in my mid-30s and not dating young guys here) will ask you for a date, then want to reschedule several times, or cancel and you don't hear from so you write them off, then you hear from them and they want to go out again, etc.
It's happened several times to me and my single friends. You can't tell if they're OBOing you (Or Better Offer aka trying to juggle more women than they can handle/keep straight) or if they are just naturally ditzy.

29 man here. I do OBO however women my age mid twenties to 31/32 play FOMO as as well so it is an issue of both sides playing Mutually Assured Destruction.

If i tell a woman, "hey lets get coffee this week or a drink sometime" then most likely i do string it out until the last minute.

However, if i say "I want to take you out on thurs at xxxxtime at such and such place and then go and do this" or "lets meet for brunch and then go do xxxx activity at this place and time". Essentially making concrete plans that include a location, time, and day - then it is obvious i have put thought into wanting to see you and have made it a priority. In this case I have never flaked in my life and have always kept up my end.

PP you quoted here. What is FOMO?

Also, I don't know about all the ladies, but I get that tentative plans are tentative. The flaking that I am talking about is that of the variety you said you never do - make a date for Saturday at 4 at a certain coffee house. A day later, he pushes it to 4:30. Two days later, says he's really looking forward to meeting you at said coffee house, and asks if you've ever been there (which he already asked you when he made the plans, and you specifically told him you hadn't, and had had to Google it). Then the night before, asks if you could do Monday instead. Then, the day of, an hour before the meetup time, says he got in a car accident AND his phone died and asks to to do it Monday. Then sends 16 whiny messages about how he can't believe you are won't forgive the 'perfectly good reason' - a car accident. The reason was not the car accident. If all had been on the up-and-up to that point, no problem if a car accident had postponed the date. The reason was everything that came before it.

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Anonymous wrote:Since you specified a "dumb move" rather than like, a personal quality (not smart, etc.) - I'll say flakiness. These days men (and I do mean MEN, not boys - I'm in my mid-30s and not dating young guys here) will ask you for a date, then want to reschedule several times, or cancel and you don't hear from so you write them off, then you hear from them and they want to go out again, etc.
It's happened several times to me and my single friends. You can't tell if they're OBOing you (Or Better Offer aka trying to juggle more women than they can handle/keep straight) or if they are just naturally ditzy.

29 man here. I do OBO however women my age mid twenties to 31/32 play FOMO as as well so it is an issue of both sides playing Mutually Assured Destruction.

If i tell a woman, "hey lets get coffee this week or a drink sometime" then most likely i do string it out until the last minute.

However, if i say "I want to take you out on thurs at xxxxtime at such and such place and then go and do this" or "lets meet for brunch and then go do xxxx activity at this place and time". Essentially making concrete plans that include a location, time, and day - then it is obvious i have put thought into wanting to see you and have made it a priority. In this case I have never flaked in my life and have always kept up my end.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

Great. Go date them then. If someone else is turned off by that and thinks a dude has daddy issues because of it then that's her preference, get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

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Anonymous wrote:Opinionated men. There is a big difference between someone who is decisive and self assured vs. someone who wants to dictate your life.

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Anonymous wrote:Opinionated men. There is a big difference between someone who is decisive and self assured vs. someone who wants to dictate your life.