Anonymous
Post 11/09/2014 11:02     Subject: aunt in denial
I think the angry PP is making a valuable point for the OP to hear. That well-meaning family who nevertheless keep the disabled relative at arm's length have no idea, by choice, what daily life is like for the caregiver and they could do more instead of arm-chair wondering and judging.
Anonymous
Post 11/09/2014 07:11     Subject: aunt in denial
Kind of unreal and unfair that you could conclude her life sucks rather than that the system sucks.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2014 14:44     Subject: aunt in denial
Anonymous wrote:Special needs mom here. I am confused by this post.

You say your aunt is in "denial" and will not "concede" she needs extra help. Aren't you in denial? Who do you think is in line to care for your elderly aunt's disabled son? Which trust funds are doling out cash and social service agencies are ready to visit daily and are going to step up to bear this immense physical, financial, and psychological load? Where are the trustworthy caretakers ready to care for her child 24/7?

I have to laugh at this post. It's unreal. Do you realize your aunt is probably physically wrecked and scared shitless about not being able to care for her disabled child, and has been for years?

And for the PP who says "hasn't she made plans"? Are you kidding me? Do you think family members are falling over themselves to take on this burden? Do you think our fabulous state and federal government is doling out social service money for the non-working disabled? Get real.

As for you OP, since you care so much (ha ha), why aren't you HELPING OUT?

And for those of you who will inevitably post about how angry I sound. YOU BET I'M ANGRY.


The points you make are valid, but you're a real shit for venting your anger this way. The OP is trying to find information. Try to be helpful, not bitter. Sorry your life sucks but don't take it out on the OP.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2014 09:13     Subject: Re:aunt in denial
There is an agency called Visiting Angels that will come to your aunt's home and assist. Your aunt can choose what they do for her/him.
Good luck, OP!
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2014 09:07     Subject: Re:aunt in denial
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You should post this on the SN forum. There are a lot of agencies (public and private) that can help[b] but he should already be receiving services, money, etc even if she is caring for him at home. Are the disabilities mental or physical or both? Hasn't she made plans for this day? Are they local and if so which state?


People always think this. Get real.


I am that pp and also the mother of a 5yr old with SN and I have already begun preparing for the day when I am not around for my DC. Something is wrong if the the aunt has not planned for this day. There are social service orgs, group homes, Social Security payments, possibly family trust arrangements... Your aunt failed her kid if she did not plan for this.


So, if the aunt has no assets and no resources to plan with she "failed" her kid. Great reasoning. And please feel free to post a list of all the group homes with openings and all the great social service organizations you are relying on to take on your kid full-time. I would love to know which ones are currently accepting severely disabled adults with no resources.


She probably wasn't able to work because she was devoting so much time to caring for this kid.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2014 08:57     Subject: aunt in denial
Let's watch what happens to maryland DDA programs with the new republican governor. If you vote republican you must be pleased with the problems described in this thread and have no problem with zero safety net for situations like this.