Anonymous wrote:God OP, I hope you are not as stupid as you seem in real life. Also hope you have something better to offer than your brain.

Anonymous wrote:We are both in stable, but unhappy marriages with minor children. We feel very attracted to each other, I guess because none of us is in love with our respective spouses anymore, and it's hard to resist the butterflies in the stomach. It's nice to be considered attractive and desirable, especially when DH doesn't appreciate me as a woman anymore. The same applies to him, I guess.

I am very concerned that if we give in to our impulses, it will go badly. I really need this job. I mean what do I expect from this relationship? Neither of us wants to leave our spouses.

I think our attraction to each other and especially our willingness to actually go through with an affair has a lot to do with the emptiness of our marriages. In my mind I'm conjuring up steamy images with my boss, but I cannot imagine doing the same things with DH. It's really sad.

Just for the record, we've tried marriage counseling and actually working on our marriage. DH lost interest in the topic very soon.

Do it, fuck him. Find out where it gets you.

How many times do you have to stick your hand in the fire before it burns you?

OP, you stated that both marriages are "stable." I was wondering...How do you define the word "stable?" Just a question...

Anyway, you also stated that you really NEED this job + I do believe you. Since this is truly the case, then you cannot by any means take a risk by sleeping w/your boss. If you give in to your impulse, you will risk losing your job. It's a no-brainer.

If you are truly miserable in your marriage and want to stray, then that is your own choice. But is there any other option than to do it w/someone that you work for? Because I know as a woman, once you do the deed, it will open up a lot of raw feelings for you...Feelings that you may not even expect to feel. Feelings that he may not reciprocate back to you. Then things can get pretty ugly, awkward and extremely uncomfortable at work and pretty soon going to work will be just as miserable as being at home.

Please put some thought into the situation as a whole and look at it from every angle, not just a sexual angle.

Hope this helps.

OP, I understand where you're coming from...BTDT

Don't do it! It won't end well for YOU at all.

You'll be fired the second DW suspects anything.

And he's the owner? The first thing he'll do to reconcile with his wife and save his family is fire YOU!

Do you shit where you eat? Because, in effect, that's what you'll be doing.

These things often don't end well.

Because the fantasy will be better than reality.

Because it is guaranteed to end badly.

Because your spouse and children and his spouse and children do not deserve this kind of betrayal.

And just because you will wish you never had the affair - if you do go down that route.

If the OP is that f%king dense that it takes feedback from anonymous folks on a forum to get her to use good judgement and exercise some moral responsibility then she is in serious need of some help.

And then he can end the relationship by having an affair with your other co workers.

He's your BOSS. You really want to fuck the person who signs your performance evaluations and determines your raises, promotions, etc? Worst. Idea. EVER.

Oh, the "soulmate" affair poster is back, recycling the standard response yet again...

Anonymous wrote:He could be a solemate. Try a fling and see how it goes. No one knows, no harm. It will eat at you the rest of your life if you don't try.

OMG! Yes! I think he is definitely her "solemate." That is a perfect metaphorical description of the two of them.

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Now I really do understand why so many affairs happen at the workplace. You spend so much time with your colleagues, all in a non-threatening, no-date-pressure environment.

I've never been tempted to sleep with a coworker because I absolutely compartmentalize profession from love.

Anonymous wrote:He could be a solemate. Try a fling and see how it goes. No one knows, no harm. It will eat at you the rest of your life if you don't try.

another f'king moron.

God OP, I hope you are not as stupid as you seem in real life. Also hope you have something better to offer than your brain.

He could be a solemate. Try a fling and see how it goes. No one knows, no harm. It will eat at you the rest of your life if you don't try.