can grandma help? I'm old-fashioned.

good luck OP - I feel your pain. my DD cried at drop off for a year and a half - no joke. We started in a daycare center but that was absolutely horrible - so switched to a home daycare where the woman was more like "mom" to my DD and she did better. Kept her there until she was a little older. I didn't have the option of quitting so I just had to search for a daycare provider that worked. DD was 2 when she started daycare