I would tell them mom what happened (without suggesting she's crazy or a liar or the Dad is evil or the parents are engaged in pettiness or anything at all beyond the bare facts you know). it seems like the kid didn't have reaction. GREAT, that's good news. there are about a billion explanations for this, some of which are that parents are variations on crazy, and some of which are not. a couple of scenarios:

- kids really do grow out of these things. my niece had a near-death experience with peanuts when she was a wee thing, couldn't breathe, and was hospitalized and everything. doc said she might grow out of it but to keep away from peanuts until she could do a controlled test again in a couple of years. after the bad scare, mom and dad were hyper-controlling about the peanuts for a couple of years. but when niece got into a jar of peanut butter at a neighbor's house less than a year later, NOTHING happened. mom and dad were thrilled, ecstatic, but the pediatrician suggested holding off a little longer. so, they kept the epi-pen handy and avoided peanuts sensibly until she was "cleared" for peanut allergy a year later.

- kid might have really mild reaction that the doctor is worried might turn into something more serious. another friend had a kid who got a rash an hour or two after she had nut products. no big deal for anyone and the kid loved nutbutters, but the doctor said these things sometimes become serious if you keep exposing the kid. that they can become MORE sensitized rather than less. Kid is still not allowed peanuts some years later, on medical advice, but loves to cheat whenever he can get his hands on pb.

Love all this DCUM ridiculousness! People love a good conspiracy theory. Munchausen by proxy is more rare than peanut allergies and the liklihood is that the kid has or had a legitimate allergy.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not that hard to get an epi pen. I have severe allergic reactions that I have been able to halt with a double dose of benedryl thus far, and we have not been able to pinpoint the exact cause. The doctor has never seen the reaction, I didn't test high enough that I should be anaphylactic to anything, but I was given an epi pen rx, "just in case."

what are your symptoms?

in this order...
My ears clog completely
My tongue gets itchy/tingly
My throat starts itching
My sinuses fill suddenly
I start wheezing and coughing

It hasn't gotten past that point. I take benedryl as soon as my ears clog and it usually starts slowing down before the wheezing and coughing.

Benadryl can reduce these symptoms yes, but it cannot stop anaphylaxis.

An antihistamine pill, such as diphenhydramine (Benadryl), isn't sufficient to treat anaphylaxis. These medications can help relieve allergy symptoms, but work too slowly in a severe reaction.

http://www.mayoclinic.org/first-aid/first-aid-anaphylaxis/basics/art-20056608

That's actually not true. I have an allergy to nuts but am very diligent about it so haven't had a reaction in a long time. I recently ate something new and started to feel symptoms differently than I had with other reactions. I felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest and had no idea why. No congestion, no itchiness, no hives like I usually get. Just a horrible indigestion feeling and finding it hard to breathe. I thought I may be having a heart attack, actually. Finally after about a minute (which felt like 10) I remembered I had eaten something new and took a double dose of Benadryl right away. I had my epi pen in one hand and my finger on the "9" button on the phone, and I started to feel some relief. Then more relief. After I was sure that my breathing was getting easier I put away the epipen. Not all anaphylactic reactions look or feel the same. More importantly, your symptoms can be different with different exposures.

But, Benadryl can stop some anaphylactic reactions if given right when you recognize the symptoms. I speak from experience.

Do you think this can damage the heart, like a heart attack?

No, it is safe to use. It is very extremely unlikely to cause any other side effect than just jitteryness and a slightly elevated heart rate. It is ok to give. This is why that even though my dd is 8, she has still never had a drop off playdate. At this rate, maybe she never will.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not that hard to get an epi pen. I have severe allergic reactions that I have been able to halt with a double dose of benedryl thus far, and we have not been able to pinpoint the exact cause. The doctor has never seen the reaction, I didn't test high enough that I should be anaphylactic to anything, but I was given an epi pen rx, "just in case."

what are your symptoms?

in this order...
My ears clog completely
My tongue gets itchy/tingly
My throat starts itching
My sinuses fill suddenly
I start wheezing and coughing

It hasn't gotten past that point. I take benedryl as soon as my ears clog and it usually starts slowing down before the wheezing and coughing.

Benadryl can reduce these symptoms yes, but it cannot stop anaphylaxis.

An antihistamine pill, such as diphenhydramine (Benadryl), isn't sufficient to treat anaphylaxis. These medications can help relieve allergy symptoms, but work too slowly in a severe reaction.

http://www.mayoclinic.org/first-aid/first-aid-anaphylaxis/basics/art-20056608

That's actually not true. I have an allergy to nuts but am very diligent about it so haven't had a reaction in a long time. I recently ate something new and started to feel symptoms differently than I had with other reactions. I felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest and had no idea why. No congestion, no itchiness, no hives like I usually get. Just a horrible indigestion feeling and finding it hard to breathe. I thought I may be having a heart attack, actually. Finally after about a minute (which felt like 10) I remembered I had eaten something new and took a double dose of Benadryl right away. I had my epi pen in one hand and my finger on the "9" button on the phone, and I started to feel some relief. Then more relief. After I was sure that my breathing was getting easier I put away the epipen. Not all anaphylactic reactions look or feel the same. More importantly, your symptoms can be different with different exposures.

But, Benadryl can stop some anaphylactic reactions if given right when you recognize the symptoms. I speak from experience.

NP here. It was my understanding that some anaphylactic reactions can stop progressing on their own and that Benadryl has nothing to do with it; Benadryl can mask the symptoms of anaphylaxis, which is why in the light of the Natalie Giorgi tragedy, people made now told to give the epi upon known ingestion and not wait until they see signs of ana.

19:57 again. Which is one reason this is so strange. If the op had given the epi and there was no allergic reaction she could have killed the boy. Epinephrine is a very serious drug.

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Epinephrine is safe. It is extremely unlikely that it would hurt the boy other than make him a bit jittery. Don't feel hesitant to give the epipen in the case of exposure to an allergen.

"Epinephrine is a life-saving medication in the treatment of anaphylaxis. This study demonstrated the relative safety of its use in 116 consecutive patients treated for acute anaphylaxis," write Larry Posner, MD, from the University of California at San Francisco, and colleagues in the poster. "The use of epinephrine for anaphylaxis should only be limited due to cardiac or other contraindicated conditions."

The investigators contend that epinephrine, although the treatment of choice for anaphylaxis, is frequently underused, possibly because of the fear of adverse cardiac events.

To determine the safety profile of epinephrine administration in the acute setting, they conducted a retrospective chart review of 116 consecutive patients who received epinephrine in an allergy office between 1999 and 2004. The review included data on adverse events and vital signs, both of which were monitored every five to 10 minutes for a minimum of 30 to 90 minutes after epinephrine administration.

A total of 116 patients received 131 epinephrine injections. The authors found that of 110 evaluable patients, 72% of those younger than 30 years and 68% of those older than 30 years had postepinephrine heart rates of fewer than 100 beats per minute (bpm). Only one patient (younger than 30 years old) had a heart rate greater than 130 bpm.

Similarly, systolic blood pressure stayed between 80 and 140 mm Hg after epinephrine administration in 91% of the younger patients and in 59% of the older patients. No patient had a systolic pressure higher than 182 mm Hg at any time. Diastolic pressures were in the range of 60 to 90 mm Hg in 78% of the younger patients and in 91% of those older than 30 years.

The most commonly reported adverse effect was jitteriness, which occurred in 19% of all patients, followed by headache, palpitation, and nausea (3%), and vomiting (1% -- one patient). There were no serious adverse events, all elevations of vital signs were transient, all patients responded to epinephrine, and all were able to return home.

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Anonymous wrote:Actually our allergist said that epi pens are harmless and if you even suspect an allergic rxn you should use it.

Our DCs allergist said something similar but that it only applied to kids because the odds of them getting a heart attack triggered are slim. But don't give random adult men epinephrine without good cause.

Epipens are very safe to give. It is very unlikely that it will harm you. It is much safer to give epipens on exposure to a known allergen than to wait and say as is what happened to poor Natalie Giorgi who was 13 and had a "mild" peanut allergy. She had never had a strong reaction or anaphylaxis. By mistake, she ate one bite of a dessert with peanut in it. She found her parents, and they administered benadryl, then waited to see if her reaction would go away. Her father and mother were both there. Her father was a physician with an epipen at the ready. Natalie was feeling so well, that she wanted to go dance with her friends. After 20 minutes, she began vomiting. Her father gave her an epipen, then another. He even broke into a locked cabinet to give her a third dose, but it was too late. She went into cardiac arrest and died in her mother's arms. Her last words were, "I'm sorry."

Please please for the love of God, remember Natalie and administer the epipen on ingestion of a known allergen. My approach used to be - benadryl, then wait and see. That all changed with Natalie's death. Now my plan is immediately epipen on exposure, then call 911.

I have two tree nut/pnut allergic kids. My kids are paranoid around food that I haven't given them. No way in heck you should feel guilty for not supervising 9 year olds to that level. Every kid I know with allergies does not test it out to see what might happen so you had no way of knowing this family is not the norm. Mine even started questioning the grandparents before eating food there. My kids would never ever touch a food that they knew might harm them. One of mine has decent numbers to take a food challenge and he wont because he does not want the reaction. Once was enough for him! which says there is more to this story than op is in on. I would agree that I am more comfortable letting my kids try new foods around me than I would someone else so in that case I would avoid the suspected trigger food at daycare or elsewhere. try to feel out the dad (something casual like we loved having her kid spend the night with us. it was our first time with epis. how did you discover his allergies) and see what he says.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. To address some of the questions...I don't know how the mom had the epi-pen if the kid is not allergic because I am fortunate enough not to have to deal with allergies in my house (we have plenty of other challenges) so I just don't know the ins-and-outs and was going on what I was told. This is a relatively new friendship for my child and for me as we are new to the area. As for the PB, I put it on the top shelf in the pantry to make sure make sure my other kids didn't get at it while he was here (that was my big worry because they like to dip carrots in it). My understanding was (from the mom) that the kid had a clear idea of what he could and could not have. My 9 year old often forages through the pantry getting snacks and I don't have a problem with that. However we have had a discussion about him letting his friend eat a banned product without telling me instantly as I had explained that his friend should not eat nuts. But that's another issue.

Not to sound defensive but I note that in response to the pp who said I should have better supervision...you may be right but I rarely still track my 9 year old around. The reason why I didn't say anything to the mom (and for the record but DH said I should have immediately done so) was that I got a strong feeling from the kid that he DID know what he could eat and was fine with nuts but his mom wasn't. I felt really sad for him when he sort of intimated that it was a parental issue (mom) and emphasized that he was allowed nuts when with his dad and never got sick. Having read some of the posts I don't think I did the right thing. I followed my heart in this instance instead of my head as the kid seemed sad and nervous when trying to persuade me not to call his mom. Otherwise he was in excellent form. Problem is that having said nothing at the time, I certainly cannot say anything now. Interestingly we're due to meet the dad at a game soon. Obviously I have NO intention of saying anything to him but I'll be intrigued to see if he says anything to me. And in this instance I stand corrected. DH wins. I should have called mom.

What a horrid father to give his kid nuts behind the mother's back.

I don't understand why anyone would think this mother is a loon for this situation. I would assume there is a lot we don't know -- like maybe the mom has experienced her kid going through anaphylaxis in the past and has no desire to "test" peanuts. I can certainly understand that.

Again, what a HORRID father for giving his kid nuts during his time with his child, behind the mother's back. Gross behavior, not only for doing it behind her back but for obviously teaching his own kid to lie to his mother. Really foul behavior.

Why would YOU assume the father allows his son nuts behind the mother's back just to spite her & encourages her to lie to her about it?

This Ian't to say the mother is necessarily crazy. That & the father being "horrid" aren't the only 2 options (though either is a possibility, I guess).Perhaps the boy was able to sneak peanut butter or another nut product while with his father & the father found out about it & was highly concerned (& even got him medical attention) until he saw the child had no reaction & had outgrown the allergy (& had this confirmed by a doctor)? Maybe he told the mother what happened but, since nut allergies are so serious, she is nonetheless still afraid to allow him nuts & tells other parents not to give them to him but knows the father disagrees with this & allows him to have nuts? Maybe the child was routinely tested to see if he had outgrown his allergy & at one point the tests shows he has, in fact outgrown the allergy so his dad lets him have nuts but the mother is still too afraid to allow this & still tells others he is allergic to prevent a potential reaction even though she knows one would be highly unlikely at this point (again, understandable that she might still have this fear, given how deadly nut allergies can be) but knows the dad disagrees & allows him nuts (also understandable if it has been confirmed that the child no longer has a nut allergy, particularly since the father has likely seen with his own eyes that the child has no reaction after eating them )?

Sometimes parents disagree on things & allow their children to do different things. This doesn't necessarily mean that one is crazy or the other is horrid & encourages the child to lie or hide things.

This makes no sense. The boy said he was ALLOWED nuts by his father, not that he sneaks them. How would you feel if you were afraid your kid would suffer a fatal reaction to nuts and were bending over backward to avoid it, only to have the other parent decide he can give him nuts any time? If he is eating nuts regularly at his father's then he is not allergic and the mother would calm down -- unless she is not being told, which seems clear from the OP's follow up post. He begged her not to tell his mother. He is clearly eating nuts behind his mother's back, with the permission of his father, and lying to her. I don't see how that is a healthy dynamic. Sounds horrid.

Not PP, but it makes perfect sense. Maybe the kid DID sneak nuts at his dad's but the dad found out & saw he had no reaction so NOW he allows the child to have nuts. The mother might be fully aware of this but is still too afraid to allow the child nuts when he is with her.

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Anonymous wrote:I've accidentally injected myself with epinephrine (I'm not allergic; it was my son's Auvi-Q- long story) and I just felt jumpy and jittery for an hour or so, like I'd had too much coffee.

My friend is an ER physician and she said that people often accidently hold the pen backwards and so they inject into their own thumb instead of the patient's thigh.

FYI you need to go to the ER if you do this because the thumb is too small for all of that constricting medicine and you could lose your thumb if you ignore it.

(Sorry for a tangent but wanted to say this because I don't think most people know this!)

PP here. Didn't know that about the thumb, so thanks for that. My accidental injection was in the outer thigh, where it's supposed to go. I was totally distracted and thought it was the trainer that my son brought to me, so I took the opportunity to show him yet again how to use it. Only when I felt the needle in my thigh did I realize that it was NOT the trainer. Ouch. It hurt!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. To address some of the questions...I don't know how the mom had the epi-pen if the kid is not allergic because I am fortunate enough not to have to deal with allergies in my house (we have plenty of other challenges) so I just don't know the ins-and-outs and was going on what I was told. This is a relatively new friendship for my child and for me as we are new to the area. As for the PB, I put it on the top shelf in the pantry to make sure make sure my other kids didn't get at it while he was here (that was my big worry because they like to dip carrots in it). My understanding was (from the mom) that the kid had a clear idea of what he could and could not have. My 9 year old often forages through the pantry getting snacks and I don't have a problem with that. However we have had a discussion about him letting his friend eat a banned product without telling me instantly as I had explained that his friend should not eat nuts. But that's another issue.

Not to sound defensive but I note that in response to the pp who said I should have better supervision...you may be right but I rarely still track my 9 year old around. The reason why I didn't say anything to the mom (and for the record but DH said I should have immediately done so) was that I got a strong feeling from the kid that he DID know what he could eat and was fine with nuts but his mom wasn't. I felt really sad for him when he sort of intimated that it was a parental issue (mom) and emphasized that he was allowed nuts when with his dad and never got sick. Having read some of the posts I don't think I did the right thing. I followed my heart in this instance instead of my head as the kid seemed sad and nervous when trying to persuade me not to call his mom. Otherwise he was in excellent form. Problem is that having said nothing at the time, I certainly cannot say anything now. Interestingly we're due to meet the dad at a game soon. Obviously I have NO intention of saying anything to him but I'll be intrigued to see if he says anything to me. And in this instance I stand corrected. DH wins. I should have called mom.

What a horrid father to give his kid nuts behind the mother's back.

I don't understand why anyone would think this mother is a loon for this situation. I would assume there is a lot we don't know -- like maybe the mom has experienced her kid going through anaphylaxis in the past and has no desire to "test" peanuts. I can certainly understand that.

Again, what a HORRID father for giving his kid nuts during his time with his child, behind the mother's back. Gross behavior, not only for doing it behind her back but for obviously teaching his own kid to lie to his mother. Really foul behavior.

Why would YOU assume the father allows his son nuts behind the mother's back just to spite her & encourages her to lie to her about it?

This Ian't to say the mother is necessarily crazy. That & the father being "horrid" aren't the only 2 options (though either is a possibility, I guess).Perhaps the boy was able to sneak peanut butter or another nut product while with his father & the father found out about it & was highly concerned (& even got him medical attention) until he saw the child had no reaction & had outgrown the allergy (& had this confirmed by a doctor)? Maybe he told the mother what happened but, since nut allergies are so serious, she is nonetheless still afraid to allow him nuts & tells other parents not to give them to him but knows the father disagrees with this & allows him to have nuts? Maybe the child was routinely tested to see if he had outgrown his allergy & at one point the tests shows he has, in fact outgrown the allergy so his dad lets him have nuts but the mother is still too afraid to allow this & still tells others he is allergic to prevent a potential reaction even though she knows one would be highly unlikely at this point (again, understandable that she might still have this fear, given how deadly nut allergies can be) but knows the dad disagrees & allows him nuts (also understandable if it has been confirmed that the child no longer has a nut allergy, particularly since the father has likely seen with his own eyes that the child has no reaction after eating them )?

Sometimes parents disagree on things & allow their children to do different things. This doesn't necessarily mean that one is crazy or the other is horrid & encourages the child to lie or hide things.

This makes no sense. The boy said he was ALLOWED nuts by his father, not that he sneaks them. How would you feel if you were afraid your kid would suffer a fatal reaction to nuts and were bending over backward to avoid it, only to have the other parent decide he can give him nuts any time? If he is eating nuts regularly at his father's then he is not allergic and the mother would calm down -- unless she is not being told, which seems clear from the OP's follow up post. He begged her not to tell his mother. He is clearly eating nuts behind his mother's back, with the permission of his father, and lying to her. I don't see how that is a healthy dynamic. Sounds horrid.

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Anonymous wrote:My son broke out in hives repeatedly over a period of about 2 weeks whenever he ate chocolate. The doctor said just to keep an eye on it, and didn't do any further testing. She told us chocolate allergies are rare, so we could try giving it to him with Benadryl on hand, to see if he still reacts (could have been a coincidence, or maybe there's something else he was eating that I wasn't catching I guess). Anyway, when he's been at his aunt's house or his part time daycare, we've directed them to NOT allow ANY chocolate. But at our house, we've let him have a bit of a chocolate chip cookie. My dh has given him m&ms here and there. No reaction. It's looking like maybe he's not allergic, but I'm still nervous about it, and I don't want him having any chocolate when I'm not around. So, I guess this could easily be my kid.

OP, maybe the mom is in a similar situation. She doesn't know you very well, so probably hasn't given you all the details. Let her know about the peanut butter even though you failed to do it initially! It's the only decent thing for you to do.

IT is likely not the chocolate but some other ingredient, like nuts, that were prepared on the same equipment.

PP here. He eats peanut butter and jelly every day! Also, he's had peanuts with no reaction. It is really concerning to me, wondering what it could have been. One of the breakouts came on with homemade cookies with only 3 ingredients: oatmeal, bananas, and chocolate chips. Oats and bananas have never caused a reaction on their own. It's frustrating. I can understand if a parent wants to be cautious especially at somebody else's house.

Anonymous wrote:20% of kids with peanut allergies outgrow them - he is 9, maybe he outgrew it and his mom just didn't know it yet.

This. You should tell the mom what he did and say that maybe he is outgrowing it.

Anonymous wrote:I've accidentally injected myself with epinephrine (I'm not allergic; it was my son's Auvi-Q- long story) and I just felt jumpy and jittery for an hour or so, like I'd had too much coffee.

My friend is an ER physician and she said that people often accidently hold the pen backwards and so they inject into their own thumb instead of the patient's thigh.

FYI you need to go to the ER if you do this because the thumb is too small for all of that constricting medicine and you could lose your thumb if you ignore it.

(Sorry for a tangent but wanted to say this because I don't think most people know this!)

Anonymous wrote:My son broke out in hives repeatedly over a period of about 2 weeks whenever he ate chocolate. The doctor said just to keep an eye on it, and didn't do any further testing. She told us chocolate allergies are rare, so we could try giving it to him with Benadryl on hand, to see if he still reacts (could have been a coincidence, or maybe there's something else he was eating that I wasn't catching I guess). Anyway, when he's been at his aunt's house or his part time daycare, we've directed them to NOT allow ANY chocolate. But at our house, we've let him have a bit of a chocolate chip cookie. My dh has given him m&ms here and there. No reaction. It's looking like maybe he's not allergic, but I'm still nervous about it, and I don't want him having any chocolate when I'm not around. So, I guess this could easily be my kid.

OP, maybe the mom is in a similar situation. She doesn't know you very well, so probably hasn't given you all the details. Let her know about the peanut butter even though you failed to do it initially! It's the only decent thing for you to do.

IT is likely not the chocolate but some other ingredient, like nuts, that were prepared on the same equipment.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. To address some of the questions...I don't know how the mom had the epi-pen if the kid is not allergic because I am fortunate enough not to have to deal with allergies in my house (we have plenty of other challenges) so I just don't know the ins-and-outs and was going on what I was told. This is a relatively new friendship for my child and for me as we are new to the area. As for the PB, I put it on the top shelf in the pantry to make sure make sure my other kids didn't get at it while he was here (that was my big worry because they like to dip carrots in it). My understanding was (from the mom) that the kid had a clear idea of what he could and could not have. My 9 year old often forages through the pantry getting snacks and I don't have a problem with that. However we have had a discussion about him letting his friend eat a banned product without telling me instantly as I had explained that his friend should not eat nuts. But that's another issue.

Not to sound defensive but I note that in response to the pp who said I should have better supervision...you may be right but I rarely still track my 9 year old around. The reason why I didn't say anything to the mom (and for the record but DH said I should have immediately done so) was that I got a strong feeling from the kid that he DID know what he could eat and was fine with nuts but his mom wasn't. I felt really sad for him when he sort of intimated that it was a parental issue (mom) and emphasized that he was allowed nuts when with his dad and never got sick. Having read some of the posts I don't think I did the right thing. I followed my heart in this instance instead of my head as the kid seemed sad and nervous when trying to persuade me not to call his mom. Otherwise he was in excellent form. Problem is that having said nothing at the time, I certainly cannot say anything now. Interestingly we're due to meet the dad at a game soon. Obviously I have NO intention of saying anything to him but I'll be intrigued to see if he says anything to me. And in this instance I stand corrected. DH wins. I should have called mom.

What a horrid father to give his kid nuts behind the mother's back.

I don't understand why anyone would think this mother is a loon for this situation. I would assume there is a lot we don't know -- like maybe the mom has experienced her kid going through anaphylaxis in the past and has no desire to "test" peanuts. I can certainly understand that.

Again, what a HORRID father for giving his kid nuts during his time with his child, behind the mother's back. Gross behavior, not only for doing it behind her back but for obviously teaching his own kid to lie to his mother. Really foul behavior.

Why would YOU assume the father allows his son nuts behind the mother's back just to spite her & encourages her to lie to her about it?

This Ian't to say the mother is necessarily crazy. That & the father being "horrid" aren't the only 2 options (though either is a possibility, I guess).Perhaps the boy was able to sneak peanut butter or another nut product while with his father & the father found out about it & was highly concerned (& even got him medical attention) until he saw the child had no reaction & had outgrown the allergy (& had this confirmed by a doctor)? Maybe he told the mother what happened but, since nut allergies are so serious, she is nonetheless still afraid to allow him nuts & tells other parents not to give them to him but knows the father disagrees with this & allows him to have nuts? Maybe the child was routinely tested to see if he had outgrown his allergy & at one point the tests shows he has, in fact outgrown the allergy so his dad lets him have nuts but the mother is still too afraid to allow this & still tells others he is allergic to prevent a potential reaction even though she knows one would be highly unlikely at this point (again, understandable that she might still have this fear, given how deadly nut allergies can be) but knows the dad disagrees & allows him nuts (also understandable if it has been confirmed that the child no longer has a nut allergy, particularly since the father has likely seen with his own eyes that the child has no reaction after eating them )?

Sometimes parents disagree on things & allow their children to do different things. This doesn't necessarily mean that one is crazy or the other is horrid & encourages the child to lie or hide things.

I've accidentally injected myself with epinephrine (I'm not allergic; it was my son's Auvi-Q- long story) and I just felt jumpy and jittery for an hour or so, like I'd had too much coffee.