OP, I can imagine this is hard for you. It's hard to understand and not feel jealous that someone else gets "dibs" on your daddy.

But take a deep breath, and get over it.

You don't need to blow out someone else's candle in order to get yours to feel brighter.

Look at this from a place of pride. Your dad has enough love to go around, and enough that a child that isn't biologically his loves HIM enough to bring him into such an amazing, beautiful, and personal moment.

I wish I had a dad like that. My best high school friend walked me down the aisle. Because that's what family is. It's not about blood ties, name ties. It's about who makes your heart swell with love and pride.

You're one lucky girl to have a dad like that. And I bet if you'd take off the green glasses,you'd see that your dad helped raise an amazing step sister.

I get what you are saying, but you have no say.

OP is giving me major "IT'S MY DAY!!!" vibes.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I expected most of these comments. To answer some of the posters comments, no I'm not single. I've been dating a guy for almost a year now. I'm the younger "sister", but my dads only child. I guess you would have to be in my shoes to understand why I feel this way. It may be selfish and I may need to grow up, but this may be something I may not get over. I guess I will have to make my day extra special if that day ever comes for me.

You will be getting married. How is anything you do going to make it more special?

How old are you?

OP, on the off chance you are not a troll, get over yourself! Your Dad does not have a finite amount of 'walking the bride' times in him. He can walk 500 people down the isle and it won't make it any less meaningful when he does it for you.

Also, you sound bitter and selfish. Please don't marry anyone!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Giving the bride away harks back to when women were chattel. It It a sexist tradition and should be done away with.

FYI, most states no longer recognize common law marriages.

It is a sexist tradition, but I wouldn't have denied my dad the chance to walk me down the aisle in a million years. He was so proud and happy and it was so sweet. He and I knew he wasn't "giving me away," just escorting me through the church. It was really meaningful for both of us, and I know it means a lot to others. If you have a cold, distant, abusive, or otherwise negative relationship with your father, then yeah, doing it for the sake of tradition is kind of silly, but it's also possible for people to repurpose traditions.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Giving the bride away harks back to when women were chattel. It It a sexist tradition and should be done away with.

FYI, most states no longer recognize common law marriages.

It is a sexist tradition, but I wouldn't have denied my dad the chance to walk me down the aisle in a million years. He was so proud and happy and it was so sweet. He and I knew he wasn't "giving me away," just escorting me through the church. It was really meaningful for both of us, and I know it means a lot to others. If you have a cold, distant, abusive, or otherwise negative relationship with your father, then yeah, doing it for the sake of tradition is kind of silly, but it's also possible for people to repurpose traditions.

Anonymous wrote:Giving the bride away harks back to when women were chattel. It It a sexist tradition and should be done away with.

FYI, most states no longer recognize common law marriages.

I was just about to post this. Don't give in to this paternalistic nonsense. No one needs to walk you down the aisle. Or have both your parents escort you. Or you can walk with your groom. Or not walk down an aisle at all.

Think outside the box a little OP. This is SO not something to get worked up about. Seriously, this is 30 seconds out of an entire ceremony, which is secondary to the marriage, which will hopefully last the rest of your life. If you even get married! And if his other "daughter" even asks him to walk her down the aisle! My goodness, get some perspective and let. it. go.

Giving the bride away harks back to when women were chattel. It It a sexist tradition and should be done away with.

FYI, most states no longer recognize common law marriages.

I'm pretty impressed. You have found a way to be a bridezilla when you aren't even getting married.

Jealousy and possessiveness are very difficult feelings to live with. Don't go around like this, OP.

If your dad adopted another child would she still have to wait until you had your turn? grow the f up

whaaaa? fake thread? OP you got to be kidding me.

HHmmm. I wonder if this troll is the same troll that posted this http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/407574.page . Both are equally ridiculous.

I'm going to say go ahead an ask him... If he doesn't already know how ignorant and selfish you are, he will now. My dad raised another woman's daughter too. And guess what... So did my mom. Both of my step sisters got to spend time with my parents as parents when they were between the ages of 5 and 14 (they are both 14 now). That's something I never got. Both of my parents were having affairs from the time I was born until their divorce when I was 13... And I envy that they both got the best parts of my parents while I didn't.

That said, I would never dream of taking a special moment like that away from them when the time comes. It doesn't make my special moment any less nor does it take away from the love that my father has from me. Love should be multiplied,
Not divided.