crib/pnp while napping usually.

I've also set up the pnp right outside the bathroom, and just dealt with the screaming. At lease he could see me.

Stroller. I strapped my kid into the stroller and gave him a bunch of cheerios in a cup. Wheeled the stroller into the bathroom.

Baby Bjorn bouncer (or anything similar). I drag into the bathroom and peek out of the shower if she's getting upset. Mostly she just bounces and entertains herself.

Anonymous wrote:I always assume when people ask this crap that they are hardcore AP parents just looking for an opening to brag about how they even shit with their babies attached to them.

This made me laugh. Thx.

Can you bring her high chair in? Or have an extra one upstairs that could be folded out of the way when you don't need it?

She could be safely strapped in with some toys or something for the few minutes you would need. I honestly don't remember what I did at this age.

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm cruel, but at that age, I would bring my twins into the bath with me and leave them strapped into bouncy seats. Yes they complained, but I would just sing and make faces at them while I had a quick shower. I have a glass shower stall, but sounds like you have a tub/shower combo. A clear shower curtain will also work.

OP here, I don't think this is cruel at all. If they are at least in the same room with you then, as you said, you can peek out of the shower at them etc. It's putting her alone in her crib when she's not napping that I don't like. The reason I can't use the bouncy seat is that ours isn't deep enough and I'm afraid she could tip it over. She sits up and leans over the sides.

I guess I'm cruel, but at that age, I would bring my twins into the bath with me and leave them strapped into bouncy seats. Yes they complained, but I would just sing and make faces at them while I had a quick shower. I have a glass shower stall, but sounds like you have a tub/shower combo. A clear shower curtain will also work.

Anonymous wrote:She cries if I leave her in her crib (when it's not nap time). I could get a pack n play but we don't really have a lot of space for it. I have 3 children so I really need to just shower when I can. With DC#1 and 2 I just showered when DH was home but he gets home late and I usually need to do other things in that time now.

It is okay for her to cry for the ten minutes you are in the shower.

OP here. Thanks to those who actually gave me constructive ideas. For some reason I had not thought of the bumbo but that is a good suggestion.

To those who seem to think I should have this all figured out by now since I have 3 children, I'm sorry that it bothers you so much when someone asks for advice that you deem stupid. Maybe you shouldn't spend so much time on DCUM then.

I didn't think this would be such a controversial question. It isn't an issue EVERY day. Sometimes I DO shower during nap time or after everyone goes to sleep but sometimes I need to do something with my older DCs (2 and 3 years old) when the baby is napping and sometimes I'm so exhausted by the time all 3 are in bed and the house is cleaned up (which DH helps with) that I can barely brush my teeth let alone take a shower before I fall into bed. Jeez, it's like no one can ask a question without being made to feel badly about it.

Shower at night or during naps.

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Anonymous wrote:Just see if you can put the pack n play (or similar) in the bathroom. Or take a quick one during a nap while you check the video monitor every minute or so (though I found my kid was almost always out cold for the first 20 mins of her nap).

I don't see a conflict between "AP" and helping your child to play independently. I am/do both. I also don't see leaving a child to cry alone for 15 minutes (not a short time for an infant) as a first or even second choice. Last resort, gotta do it? Yes, they won't actually die of it. But I get the feeling some PPs here are just so rigid, it's like there's one option and if it means the child cries for 15 minutes, oh well! Creativity? Outside the box thinking? Nah. Might as well get used to crying alone as soon as possible. Blah.

Your kid will be crying alone when they realize mom won't change their pull ups in college.

Nah (I am PP you quoted). My kid is already potty trained and playing independently for up to 30 minutes at 18 months old, and I was one of the ones who had her in a sling as a newborn while I peed-- the horror! She's obviously never going to become independent, since I never let her cry if I could help it (and there was anything I could do about it). Oh, wait...

I am so thankful I don't have friends like this. Please try to be less smug and more understanding of the fact that others parent in different ways. Your daughter will benefit from seeing the kindness and patience you demonstrate when other mothers ask innocent questions. Jeez. (Not OP).

At that age, I showered during nap time. Now our twins are 17 months and after they wake up and I give them some milk, I put them in their crib with toys while we snooze a bit more, or while We shower and get dressed. They are usually fine with it.

Anonymous wrote:Just see if you can put the pack n play (or similar) in the bathroom. Or take a quick one during a nap while you check the video monitor every minute or so (though I found my kid was almost always out cold for the first 20 mins of her nap).

I don't see a conflict between "AP" and helping your child to play independently. I am/do both. I also don't see leaving a child to cry alone for 15 minutes (not a short time for an infant) as a first or even second choice. Last resort, gotta do it? Yes, they won't actually die of it. But I get the feeling some PPs here are just so rigid, it's like there's one option and if it means the child cries for 15 minutes, oh well! Creativity? Outside the box thinking? Nah. Might as well get used to crying alone as soon as possible. Blah.

Agree completely.

OP, ignore the haters. I'd look into getting an inexpensive exersaucer for upstairs or give the bouncy seat a second look. I also like PP's idea of setting her on the floor in the baby bathtub, so long as she's not so big that she could tip it over.

I shower when my baby is napping. At 7 months I would imagine your DC still takes a morning nap... that is typically when I get my shower in. Baby is up at 7 and then down at 8:30 for nap. If I have to shower and be out the door earlier, then I will shower before DC gets up. I am sorry but I hate to leave my baby crying. In regards to putting DC in the crib - I wouldn't as the crib should be used for sleeping/ napping not for hanging out. Don't listen to people that mock you for not wanting your child to cry.

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Anonymous wrote:She cries if I leave her in her crib (when it's not nap time). I could get a pack n play but we don't really have a lot of space for it. I have 3 children so I really need to just shower when I can. With DC#1 and 2 I just showered when DH was home but he gets home late and I usually need to do other things in that time now.

Then why wouldn't you just shower during naptime?

This.

I can't believe this is that big of a deal.

This is what happens when helicoptered children grow up. The simplest of tasks require crowdsourcing.